I'm 33, She's 52

Hello,

I'm dating and in love with a lovely, sweet 52 year old woman. I'll be 34 soon, so we're right about 18 1/2 years apart in age. We've both been through a lot in life. She was married to an abusive alcoholic, finally got divorced. My wife, who was 3 years younger than me, died in a car wreck. I love my 52 year old girlfriend, and wouldn't want to be with anyone else. She is intelligent and emotionally mature, knows what it is like to deal with real issues in life. When I look at her sweet face and hear her voice, I am enamored by her her girlish sweetness. This is a woman who has suffered in life, yet has not grown old or bitter.

Hi Buffeaut,

Your OW is indeed blessed to have you in her life. It seems that you have enough life experience to know what values truly last. The loss of someone you love brings about an appreciation of life in general. There is no guarantee that God will grant us the next breath. Each day is truly a gift to be treasured.

Like your OW, my ex-husband had a drinking problem and was violent. Living through that experience made me determined to develop my talents and take responsibility for my own life. I also have a greater capacity for love.

Wishing you many years of love together. Peg

Thank you for the encouraging words, Peg. Having my wife die suddenly and unexpectedly has been and still is a hard thing. I'm just now getting over an intense fear of reaching out without reservation. For some reason, after seeing my parents Sunday, I feel ready to move forward. My Mom, who is over ten years older than my girlfriend, is not worried about our age gap, but is worried about my girlfriend's being a divorcee. I think what I realized Sunday was just how strong a love I have with my girlfriend. When I feel so much more love with her than with family (and a loving family at that), I know I have found love.

Thank you for the encouraging words, Peg. Having my wife die suddenly and unexpectedly has been and still is a hard thing. I'm just now getting over an intense fear of reaching out without reservation. For some reason, after seeing my parents Sunday, I feel ready to move forward. My Mom, who is over ten years older than my girlfriend, is not worried about our age gap, but is worried about my girlfriend's being a divorcee. I think what I realized Sunday was just how strong a love I have with my girlfriend. When I feel so much more love with her than with family (and a loving family at that), I know I have found love.

Isn't that the truth?

Welcome to Ageless, Buff! :)

Family are the people we are stuck with. No matter how annoying they may get, our sense of decency leads us to keep on loving them. Being able to choose a person whose company we prefer is what makes dating great. Those of us who have to make an effort to get along with family, I think, value especially meeting that special person.