Attn: Belka

hey belka, did you keep your relationship a secret 30 years ago when it started and you were 20 years old?

Hi,Olive!
When I understood that I had fallen in love with my present and the only husband, at first I didnt think at all in what way it would be taken by the surrounding people.

Just then I saw that I could put my man in an uneasy situaton, because it was he who was living close to his relatives , ex-wife and kids. As for me, I was at that time free from somebody's influence on me --- I was studying and working in his country and didnt have near me my relatives.

I felt it was important for him not to be laughed at and not to be ridiculed by his relatives and friends. So we decided not to tell anybody the full truth about our relations, but at the same time not to conceal them too much.

We felt free to be together everywhere we wanted in public (but of course without kisssing or showing too much attraction for each other) and we spent much time together discussing his business and everyday needs. In public We behaved as friends do, we didnt plan anything, we didnt think about the future-- we just enjoyed being together.

Many people saw us together, tryed to figure out our relations - that was even intriguing and addes spice to our relations, because the surface of our relations looked quite innocent.

We met everyday at work and after work. His mother saw that he was in high spirits all the time and he felt young and happy again. She was the first to guess the situation .

His young relative (the object of my unfortunate ex-love) felt sudden interested in me and my feelings -- he tried to win me back, but failed, because I was already over my ears in my new love, which has been lasting all these years.

I'm sure, that by the time when everybody knew the truth about our relations, they had already got accustomed that we were together all the time. BUT ONLY THEN EVERYBODY LEARNT THAT WE HAD BEEN SECRETLY MARRIED FOR ALREADY 6 MONTHS!! AND I WAS PREGNANT WITH OUR FIRST KID!!!!

SO , WE HAD NO OTHER WAY AS TO ARRANGE A GRAND WEDDING PARTY AT THE BEST PLACE IN OUR CITY! 112 MEN WERE THERE TO CONGRATULATE US.

If I were to live my next 150 years without my husband, I wouldnt agree to go on living so long without him!

Belka....

How long have you and your husband been married? Was it tough to keep it a secret after you guys got married?

We have been married for 30 years already.

We met when I was 20 and he was a bit more more than 50.

We dated for 3 months and then secretly got married.

Then I got pregnant and soon many friends noticed I was with a baby in me:-))- they all asked questions about the father of my kid. But I explained nothing and only smiled in reply that the most important thing for me was that I MYSELF DID KNOW who my kid's father was!!:-))).

By the end of my pregnancy (in half a year after our secret marriage) we at last celebrated OPENLY the event -- in fact, TWO events, because the baby was already on the brink of being born.

It was a NICE time!! and it is still VERY nice !!!!!!!

We are not tired of each other. We are always together.

I DO make our each day as bright as I can- I'M THINKING OF DOING TH SAME AS THE LAFAGUES DID one hundred years ago, because I will not be able to live without my man, if he passes away earlier than i.
I know it for sure.

WOW!! That's an amazing AG success story! You were 20 & he was 50 something when ya met! Still jammin' after 30 yrs! So now you're 50 and he's 80 something! Good for you!

P.S. Did you have more than 1 kid in the past 30 yrs?


Top 10 Songs 1975 :cool:

1. Love Will Keep Us Together, Captain & Tennille

2. Philadelphia Freedom, Elton John

3. Rhinestone Cowboy, Glen Campbell

4. Shining Star, Earth, Wind & Fire

5. My Eyes Adored You, Frankie Valli

6. Before The Next Teardrop Falls, Freddy Fender

7. Fame, David Bowie

8. Kung Fu Fighting, Carl Douglas

9. One Of These Nights, Eagles

10. Thank God I'm A Country Boy, John Denver

We have 3 kids! the youngerst is 5:-))!!

We LLLOVE making kids!:-)))...I'm not against one more!:-))!!

You go girl!!! This story is awesome!!! How did you family react to your marriage once they found out about it.

Nu

My Dad was very much upset and worried when he knoew the situation, but he didnt call me names or something like this.

He tried to persuade me to part with my man - he even pointed at himself (he was 56 at that time) and asked if I LIKED THAT WRINKLED SKIN OR HIS PLUMP BELLY!!:-))...

I cried and laughed at the same time -- in the end he gave up.

With my Mother It was different . Her main concern was if I really loved him.

Later , when we discussed with her some intimate problems about my life , she said she was even glad that i would be spared the awful misunderstandings which usually arise when girls date and marry younger men.

With the course of time I saw she was right - most of my friends who married younger men, divorced and suffered misbehaviour from their boyfriends and husbands -- I, on the contrary, enjoyed life and love.

My husband cherished me and my sencere feeelings for him and he always was wiser in our relations. There were some moments when some younger men appeared on my horizon and each time my husband said that the choice was mine! And each time I made the right choice.

I think it was not because i was very smart-- it was because I undeerstood that i would never feel so content and sure with any other man. And do not forget: we had a very active sex life together, even during the peroiods when he was unwell -- hm, we found and experimented with different aspects and techniques of intimate life. I knew that I would never have courage to do in bed (and not only in bed:-))) such things with somebody else!!!!!

With the course of time my parents and he became true friends and there never were any sorrows or remorse on behalf of my parents about my marriage-- they just saw that I WAS HAPPY!!

I guess that is to be expected. My mother flipped when I told her that I was in a relationship with an older man with kids. She actually said "No, you can't date him and thats final." I had to laugh at that because I'm 23 and live on my own. My dad, on the other hand, disapproved of the situation, but said it was my choice. I'm just hoping and praying that in time they will come around.

Nu

3 kids!! And one 5 yoa!! WOW! Curious, now that the hub is mid 80's how's his health etc...? Seriously, he is in the twilight, statistically speaking. You seriously thinking of getting preggers @ 50 and he 80's? :eek:

Dabollocks....I guess if it ain't broke, don't fix it...lol

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