vertigo
04-20-2005, 01:38 AM
He dumped me...
This is the first time I have posted, but I have been reading these posts for awhile. Thank you to everyone who posts, there is such good advice here!
I just want a little comfort, and a space to share my feelings.
My story: He (41) and I (23) started dating a year ago. At first it was casual, as we were unsure of the age gap. Then, we fell for each other completely--intellectually, emotionally, spiritually. He began to talk about marriage, children, and how he desired these things with me. I agreed that these were all things I wanted to pursue with him. We met respective family members and friends, and our relationship was embraced by all who knew us. At this point, about three months into our relationship, I thought we were both over the age gap. Little did I know this would be the reason he would end the relationship.
He says our age difference will always be a problem for him, and that he tried to "get over it", but he can't. He began saying things like, I would be perfect if I were 10 years older.
I am so devasted. He broke my heart... if our age was a problem, why didn't he bring it up sooner... and why speak of marriage with someone if you feel you cannot commit to them due to their age.
I miss him, and I have called a few times. Last time we talked I told him he was making a huge mistake, and he cried. I felt horrible for that. But he never calls... so I know I have to let it be. Thanks for reading.
Best wishes to everyone.
This is the first time I have posted, but I have been reading these posts for awhile. Thank you to everyone who posts, there is such good advice here!
I just want a little comfort, and a space to share my feelings.
My story: He (41) and I (23) started dating a year ago. At first it was casual, as we were unsure of the age gap. Then, we fell for each other completely--intellectually, emotionally, spiritually. He began to talk about marriage, children, and how he desired these things with me. I agreed that these were all things I wanted to pursue with him. We met respective family members and friends, and our relationship was embraced by all who knew us. At this point, about three months into our relationship, I thought we were both over the age gap. Little did I know this would be the reason he would end the relationship.
He says our age difference will always be a problem for him, and that he tried to "get over it", but he can't. He began saying things like, I would be perfect if I were 10 years older.
I am so devasted. He broke my heart... if our age was a problem, why didn't he bring it up sooner... and why speak of marriage with someone if you feel you cannot commit to them due to their age.
I miss him, and I have called a few times. Last time we talked I told him he was making a huge mistake, and he cried. I felt horrible for that. But he never calls... so I know I have to let it be. Thanks for reading.
Best wishes to everyone.