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Hello... My name is Mary (obviously) and the 'Jane' part is just an added touch. Im from Manitoba, Canada. Anyways... As crummy as it may seen, I've been reduced to seeking the internet for support because society and it's opinions makes me want to run the other way. But what Im here for is I'm 18, and the guy I'm dating is 36. He is the kindest, most caring respective guy in the world and treats me like i've never been treated. I want to spend my life with him... But I can't help but feel uncertain about my future and our future togethor. *sigh* Any advice? I'd glady appreciate it.

Well....Welcome to Ageless Mary, you will come to find that there are many on this board who are or were in similar situations. The best advice I can say is that if it feels real and if it is real then just go for it. Do not set any future expectations, just take it one day at a time. Let things progress steadily....just ride the wave and see where things take you. I know societial views can sometimes cloud your judgement and at times make you rethink things, but you need to ask yourself "Does he make me happy? Am I dating this man or am I dating everybody's views?" Because if you continue to let other's views interfere with your relationship, it will eventually bring an end to your relationship. So just go for it and see what happens. :cool:

Nu

Thanks, that totally helped. :)

Thanks, that totally helped. :)

No problem...anytime. I've been where you are at and that was the best advice I got. Trust me, I'm still getting those negative opinions, but I do not let it bother me. I know in my heart of hearts that this is the man I want to be with and nobody has to deal with that except for me. Glad I could help....anytime you need advice just shot me a PM. :cool:

Nu

Advice?

A LOT of things will change between now (18 & the 20's) Be prepared....

Welcome to Ageless.... I hope you find the support you are looking for....

Advice?

A LOT of things will change between now (18 & the 20's) Be prepared....

Welcome to Ageless.... I hope you find the support you are looking for....


I do agree with softiee ... That 18 and going into your 20's you do go thru a lot of changes mentally.... So take it slow.... If its is meant to be than it will be .. Don't rush into anything to fast... date... talk have fun... and like I said if you both are meant to be together time will tell

Welcome here Mary!
You can always give it a try. You have nothing to lose, but if you step back you may have regrets. If he's such a caring man and respects you, then I don't see why you shouldn't be out together.
People will always find something to criticise because they are not happy with themselves. Don't let anyone's opinion condition your life.
Good luck!

I just wanted to let you know, Mary, that I am right there with you. I am 18 as well, and my OG just turned 40....it is very hard, and we've only been together 11 months...but you just can't let other people bother you or it will hurt your relationship. Just be strong!! :cool: I hope things go well with you. And personally, I worry about the future all the time as well...i don't think thats going to change either.

Hi Mary and welcome to ageless. :) Wow another fellow Manitoban. lol Can't give much better advice than what has already been given. So I will just stick with my hi and welcome. lol