Ladies, A Question

To the ladies on here that are dating/married to an older man - did you know you would end up in an age different relationship (in other words seek it out as a decided preference)?

Or did you just stumble into the age gap situation because you liked the man you are with for who he is and his age didn't matter?

Was he looking for a younger woman specifically and if so why (I guess the guys can ansawer that one too).

I bet there are a range of answers, but it would be interesting to hear the different thoughts.

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I never thought and never planned to fall in love with OG. In fact at first, both me and my OG were very sceptic about each other, but we liked staying together, we found many things to speak about, we enjoyed each other's company, and created a very close friendship.....which evolved into a more intense relationship because we were actually in love.
I must admit however that I always preferred older guys because I usually felt attracted to a 'man look' rather than a 'water & soap' face, but never imagined I would fall in love with an OG 31 yrs older than me.
We are now living happily together and plan to spend the rest of our lives like this.

To be honest..I never would have guessed in a million yrs that I would be in love with an older man. My OM is 20 yrs my senior and we started out as overseas colleagues (he in a country's branch office & me in another).Over time, we became friends, confidants......

Back to the present......I have moved countries to be with him & we are now happily living together. Its been a great 1 yr & 8 mths and counting.....

Q: Was I attracted to older man before him? A: I don't think so.....To me, it was more important to find someone whom I could have a connection with....it was important for my fella to be on the same wavelength as me (all the late 20-somethings I knew never could quite 'make the grade' :p )

Q Was he looking for a younger woman? A: No way! He is a workaholic...don't think he would bother to actively look....I guess we just connected over chats and it did help that we came from a similar work background and had an identical train of thought.

I never thought I would be married to an older man either...... I know I always dated older like 3-5 years maybe but now my husband is 17 years older.... We tryed staying apart.. didn't work.... I love him for him and he loves me for me... age was never an issue for him.. It was for me for a little while.... but now it's the Man i love not the age

Interesting question. The first two serious relationships in my life were my husband (5 years older) and a serious one after the divorce (11 years older). Now, I will be marrying a man almost 19 years older. I very much appreciate and respect his life experience and opinions. Could I find this in a man my age (43), I don't know. He, on the other hand, had never been with someone this much younger, and initially was reluctant because of that fact. In the beginning, I sensed that he was uncomfortable by the looks we got sometimes, but after awhile, he started to enjoy it. Without a doubt, we became each other's best friend and lover. It started slowly, grew more serious to where we are today. I almost never think of the age gap - until I go online !

I never thought I would fall for an older man because I had such a phobia of dating men more than 8 years older than me. I had always been taught that men older than you will take advantage of me. However, when I met my OG I didn't know his age (nor did he know mine) we became fast friends and before we both knew it, things developed into a relationship. He didn't set out to date somebody younger, he thought I was older.

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I never thought I would be together with an older man, and was not even
usually attracted to any.
My Dad remarried a women 20 years his junior, so it helped me realize
that age gap relationships can work.

I met my OM at work, and once we started talking our attraction
was undeniable, he is 24 years older than me.
But never had I set out to find a man that much older than me
it just happened.