Help, Please!!!

As I just became a member today I am not even sure I am posting to the correct area. Hopefully, you all will forgive the "newbie" and help me along.
I am 41, twice divorced and have not been in a realtionship for over 3 years. I am a full time college student working 3 PT jobs so my 20 year old daughter can also be a full time college student.
I have always been with older men. The first husband was ten years my senior, the second was thirteen. Now, I have fallen for a Professor of mine. Go figure :rolleyes: I am enthralled by this man. I hate it that we are on break and I cannot just see him. He is sixty-three, and a Taurean like me. I don't know, as a student, if this could be a problem. I am no longer a student of his, but I am still at University.
My question: Should I write him a letter and let him know how I feel about him? I DO think there is a chance he could be "crushing" on me, too. When I did have his class he always made a point to speak to me in the hall before class, and often he would approach me as I studied in the hall or library. It was a electrical feeling when we would touch 'accidently, on purpose.'
I wish to be bold, as I have always been, and just go for what I want. At 41, I have lost a little of the impetuosness of youth, but yet I feel if I do not move forward I may well miss out on the best man ever.

What should I do? He is divorced, living with his 91 year old father. His two daughters are grown and live in Chicago. To my knowledge he has not dated for years. We have the same interests. I am in absolute beautiful anguish over my feelings for this man.

Help me. What do I do?

bharani

First find out what the rules are at the University as to Professor/student relations....you don't want to put him in a difficult position. If the rules say no....wait til you're not a student...if rules say ok....Take a chance....because you just never know!

As he has tenure for many years I do not think it would be a problem. He was just recognized for his 35th year of teaching at this institution. As there are many couples who are married that work at University and President of University just left his wife for a co-worker, I think it must be a fairly liberal atmosphere.
I have left him subtle little clues....I know he knows, or at the very least suspects it is me.
I have been thinking of all the ways to just "do it!" My mind has jumped from appearing naked under a trenchcoat, to sending him a theatre ticket with an invitation to find me in row #, seat # and just see if he is intrigued enough to show. Al I know for certain is that I think about him daily. Yesterday while I sat at Barnes and Noble I thought I saw him walking in...but no. It would be oh so causal to just bump into him, but that seems rather unlikely unless I stake out his house and follow him. I am not into the whole stalking bit.
He asked the last day of classes if I would be around this summer. I told him, I would be taking 6 hours so I would be around. My daughter is actually taking a class from him this summer and again in the fall.
Naked in the trenchcoat seems a little over the top. Any other suggestions on how I might casually make my intentions a little more known?

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Any other suggestions on how I might casually make my intentions a little more known?

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"hey, would you like to have a cup of coffee with me?"

:D good luck gal

As I began reading this thread, my first thought was an invite for a cup of coffee ! Greeneyed girl beat me to it. I am 43, my OM 62. Two years ago when I first became attracted to him, waited and waited for a hint from him, I finally asked him out for coffee.......and it grew from there. Later in the relationship, he confessed he had been attracted to me also, but didn't take the first step because he didn't want to embarass (sp?) me and/or himself if I didn't feel the same way, and thought no way a younger "girl" (his words) would be attracted to him. So I also say, try for the cup of coffee, & some good conversation. You will definitely have a better idea of what is going on in his head after that. Good luck !

I have since found out (today) that he is pretty straight shooter and may NOT involve himself with a student. The casual repartee' we have enjoyed makes me think otherwise.
Now that I have heard all this (straight-shooter and "go for it") I am just going to do that! GO FOR IT! At least if I get turned down then I can still be his effervescent friend that flirts knowing it cannot go anywhere else.
I will keep my hopes up. We could learn and experience so much from one another. His mind is fascinating and there is so much stored from his travels abroad, his life as a student, a member of the Army, getting his PhD. I am utterly fascinated by this man.
He is on a jaunt in Italy right now with a female (married) co-worker.
Thanks for all the words of support for the newbie. I like all I have read on the different forums you cover.
How do I access the place to put my Bio so more people can know where I am from, my age, and other stuff?

Thank you, ladies!!!!

bharani

good luck gal!!

and look up top of the page, 'user cp' , that's where you do the voodoo that we do for profile-do's.

yeah, i got nuthin :D

Tracy