Butterfly21
05-03-2005, 02:38 PM
Hey Everyone! I'm new here, but I haven't gotten around to introducing myself over on the new members board yet! However, my name is Vicky and I'm 20 years old. You all seem to give such good advice..and I'm really glad I found this board!
With all that being said, I was wondering if anyone could help me out just a bit. My guy (who is 46) and I met a little over 3 years ago. I've never met anyone who makes me feel as amazing as he does. All I have to do is think of him, and I get those crazy butterflies! He is sweet, caring, gentle, and everything I've always thought my "perfect guy" would be like! I've never felt this kind of connection that we have with anyone else.
I developed feelings for him fairly quickly after meeting him, although I kept it to myself for a while because I didn't think it was a good idea because of our age difference and the situation we were both in. But about 2 years ago, I let him know how I was feeling. He told me that he was attracted to me, and did have feelings for me, but nothing could happen because of the situation, and his age, and always said "someday.." But, I thought he was just saying "someday" so he wouldn't hurt my feelings, and I ultimately assumed he wasn't very interested. We still talked often and saw each other when we got the chance, and my feelings for him never went away. I even had a boyfriend my own age in that time period of about a year and 8 months. However, even when I was with my boyfriend, I still wanted to be with my OM and couldn't shake my feelings for him.
Over the past 6 months, my OM and I have gotten closer, and things are looking like it will turn into something more than friendship. My boyfriend and I broke up over a month ago, and since then my OM has been sending me some pretty clear signals. He told me that he "believed in us", although he said he didn't know WHY he felt this way, he just did. But I have the same sort of "just knowing" feelings about it..if that makes any sense! Anyways, this past weekend we definitely crossed the line between friendship and something more. However, I feel kind of silly asking this here, because I feel I should be able to figure this out..but I'm still unsure if he wants this to be an actual relationship with me or just a hook up deal. I want to ask him, but I don't want to sound like I'm pressuring for a relationship right away. Does anyone have any advice on how to bring this up without scaring my OM away? I feel comfortable enough to talk about anything with him, and I know he wants to be cautious because of our age difference. However, I've waited 3 years for something to happen..and now that it finally did, I'm unsure where he wants it to go from here!
Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated :) And I'm sorry this was so long..I can definitely ramble on about this guy..haha! Thanks a lot! - Vicky :)
With all that being said, I was wondering if anyone could help me out just a bit. My guy (who is 46) and I met a little over 3 years ago. I've never met anyone who makes me feel as amazing as he does. All I have to do is think of him, and I get those crazy butterflies! He is sweet, caring, gentle, and everything I've always thought my "perfect guy" would be like! I've never felt this kind of connection that we have with anyone else.
I developed feelings for him fairly quickly after meeting him, although I kept it to myself for a while because I didn't think it was a good idea because of our age difference and the situation we were both in. But about 2 years ago, I let him know how I was feeling. He told me that he was attracted to me, and did have feelings for me, but nothing could happen because of the situation, and his age, and always said "someday.." But, I thought he was just saying "someday" so he wouldn't hurt my feelings, and I ultimately assumed he wasn't very interested. We still talked often and saw each other when we got the chance, and my feelings for him never went away. I even had a boyfriend my own age in that time period of about a year and 8 months. However, even when I was with my boyfriend, I still wanted to be with my OM and couldn't shake my feelings for him.
Over the past 6 months, my OM and I have gotten closer, and things are looking like it will turn into something more than friendship. My boyfriend and I broke up over a month ago, and since then my OM has been sending me some pretty clear signals. He told me that he "believed in us", although he said he didn't know WHY he felt this way, he just did. But I have the same sort of "just knowing" feelings about it..if that makes any sense! Anyways, this past weekend we definitely crossed the line between friendship and something more. However, I feel kind of silly asking this here, because I feel I should be able to figure this out..but I'm still unsure if he wants this to be an actual relationship with me or just a hook up deal. I want to ask him, but I don't want to sound like I'm pressuring for a relationship right away. Does anyone have any advice on how to bring this up without scaring my OM away? I feel comfortable enough to talk about anything with him, and I know he wants to be cautious because of our age difference. However, I've waited 3 years for something to happen..and now that it finally did, I'm unsure where he wants it to go from here!
Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated :) And I'm sorry this was so long..I can definitely ramble on about this guy..haha! Thanks a lot! - Vicky :)