When's the right time to marry?

As some of you may probably know already. I'm going to be a junior medical house officer when I'm 25. I need to know or receive some advice when I should get married and have children with my man who's 42 now. He will be 44 when I graduate.
Because of his age he's more in a rush (or I think he is) to get married and have kids which is understandable because he wants to play with them and take care of them when he's still pretty young.
For me, the problem is most of my friends and especially my parents will think I'm throwing my career away because having babies for a woman is a much more time-consuming job than it is for a man. And to slow down my medical career which I've spent 5 years studying on is also quite ridiculous.
I do want to settle down with him but I have so much problems in doing so. He lives in a different country from where I am studying so basically I will have to move as it will be the easier one and besides I love to work in the beautiful country he's living in.
We haven't got engaged yet. We only know each other for a year but it's been absolutely fantastic and we know we're meant for each other.
I want to have kids soon because he wants to and because of his age as well.
What do you think I should do? I can't really delay my medical career because I need to pay back my loans. I don't want to depend on him.
Thanks....

There should never be a "rush"- EVER. I think that is the biggest problem with these types of relationships... the younger person feels as though they need to hurry for the older person... If 2, single 42 year olds were dating, I don't know if they'd "rush" to marry.

That being said... my boyfriend and I have the same age gap, I am 23, he is 42. We are extremely happy but in no hurry to get married---neither of us.

You say there is a "rush"-- what is it? He is going to die soon? probably not. He can't have kids when he's older? nope. His kids will "miss out"? This is a common cop out... there are plenty of kids with young fathers who are BAD, or no fathers at all. A good father is a good father and this is not dependent on age. My father was 44 when I was born and is the BEST and still in great health, physical and mental shape, and I would NEVER have traded him... So stop focusing on the rush and let your relationship grow and evolve naturally.

I agree with Skibunny....I was in a similar situation of "rush" and I almost went through with a rushed married. But, what stopped me is the fact I knew in my heart of hearts that I was not ready for marriage or kids at this point in my life (I'm 23 and my OG is 40). If you two want to get married, you should get married because that is something the both of you want....to be married. Not because he's getting older and he wants to beat the clock. Enjoy each other and when it happens it will happen.

Nu :cool:

Let Me Put This Question Out Their To All. What If It's The Other Way Around. When The Woman Is Older Then The Man. I'm 24 And She's 39. She Has To Kids From Previous Marriage And I Love Those Kids Like They Are My Own. However I Would Like The Have The Experience Of Having My Own Kids. I Would Like Someone To Call Me Daddy. I'm Not Rushing To Marry But I Know I Can't Sit On My Hands! Time Is A Factor With Having Our Own Kidsit Not A Big Deal But Something That We Have To Keep In The Back Of Our Minds. I'm Intrested To Hear What Other Couples Think?????

Thanks

Bob

DO NOT RUSH ANYTHING.
and talk to your partner. Have a VERY serious talk with them, and find out where they stand. Then go from there....
BUT NEVER NEVER NEVER RUSH HAVING KIDS