Dating a man 14 years older

I am currently involved in a relationship with a man who is 14 years my senior. (I am 32, he is 46.) We have been involved for almost one year now and I can't picture my life without him in it.
We have two children each; his are both 13 and mine are 6 and 11. He is wonderful with my kids and they like him very much. I get along well with his two children also.
We have discussed the possibility of moving in together in the near future but my problem is this: I have a huge concern about our age difference.
Although we get along intellectually, when we fight he acts very immature. I am concerned about the long term future with this man. I think about what life will be like when I am 56 and he is 70.
I would like to have one more child someday but I don't think it would be fair to have a child with this man, considering his age.
Any suggestions or comments??

Zara... Yes You can have a child with this man...

I am 29 and myhusband is 46 I will be 30 in 5 days and he will be 47 next month... we have a 17 year difference.... we have a beautiful 10 month old baby!!!!!! Who cares when your 56 and he's 70 you going to stop loving him? Hes a person your in love with him and his heart and soul and thats ageless....Take things day by day... so many things happen in life..... Enjoy what you have.. don't worry about what you don't... No one can predict the future.... I planned my future years ago..... When I was 17 I met a wonderful man he was 19 years old... we dated 7 years.. Planned to be married... Totally in love... and now he's gone.. Got in a Motorcycle accident and dead at 25.... You don't know what life is going to throw at you!!!! If you love him thats ALL that matters

GO FOR IT!

i agree with meralove that the age difference shouldn't keep you apart neccesarily, but you also said,

Although we get along intellectually, when we fight he acts very immature. I am concerned about the long term future with this man. I think about what life will be like when I am 56 and he is 70.

have you talked about what it is that happens when you fight? as far as being 56 and 70, that may or may not become a problem. how is his health now, is he taking good care of himself? you never know what could happen tommorow or in 5, 10, 30 years...

I would like to have one more child someday but I don't think it would be fair to have a child with this man, considering his age.

this seems to be a bit of a conflict for you...again, it might not be a bad thing for him to be older as a dad. have you identified your concerns, and talked to him about them? it seems like you do have some reservations about him, but they might be totally workable, you know?

Calybo, yes we have discussed the fights and how they seem to play out. I believe it is because of his previous relationship. He was married for 20 years and I honestly don't think he ever learned how to have a "fair" argument.
As far as having more children, he would love to have another child but I am still a bit reserved about this one. He is in excellent health; very active and fit.
I know that anything can happen at any time in life, but I still have issues with this one.
One other thing, my family does know about him (my mom knows him well) but my dad hasn't met him yet and I am a bit worried as to how he is going to react. Yes, my dad knows about him and his age, but has also made the comment that people in his town (he lives in a small town about 4 hours away from me) might view him as my "sugar daddy". I know this is absurd, I know this.........but a tiny part of me still cares what others, especially my family, think.

Zara....

You really need to work on this though if you want this to work.... The reservations are fine... but you have to get over them in order for this to work....Doubts and insecurities can ruin the best of relationships... but iF you can't work thru yours then I'm afraid that it won't work.... I did have doubts about the age to.... Thats why I came here.... but the more I thought about it.. and just spent days just Loving my husband (while we were dating of course) I realized that I loved him more than anything... everything else is sooooo superficial....

Zara....

You really need to work on this though if you want this to work.... The reservations are fine... but you have to get over them in order for this to work....Doubts and insecurities can ruin the best of relationships... but iF you can't work thru yours then I'm afraid that it won't work....

Perfectly said and so true...

I worried about our 21 year age difference for a day but her love for me and my love for her has been the strong point of our relationship and now we have a beautiful 14 month old daughter and and I'm now 45.

If you worry about the future you are going to miss what you have in front of you today. As for the fighting I really can't help for we have not had one in nearly 3 years and I don't know if this is because one of our first talks was about being able to agree that we can disagree on certain things.

It is greatly appreciated. I find myself having days where I am totally committed to being in this relationship because I am in love with this man but then others where I begin to second guess it. ARGHHH, wish I could stay in the first mood all the time. :)

Anyhow, I appreciate the feedback about the child/ren issue although it seems that I would be pressed to have a child with him and soon. We are only together just about one year now and by the time we really settle down and get comfy with our lives I keep thinking he will be almost 50!! And have a child? Isn't he suposed to enjoy these years with kids grown up and moved out? (Wait, I'll go ask him.) He says dirty diapers is enjoying life. :D

Ok, I know I need to stop beating myself up with these thoughts, but I'm glad to have others to bounce them off to.

So again, thank you all. ;)