Thoughts.....

I was just sitting here thinking about this board and how we all have(most of us anyhow) OM as a common factor in our lives.
So what is it that brings us here to discuss our problems and seek advice? Is it the same reason that there are other message boards on a variety of topics? And what is it about OM that attracts us? I know some of us just happened to meet and fall in love with someone much older than ourselves but I wonder if at some level, subconciously, we were seeking something more. I don't want to use the term "fatherly image" but if the shoe fits.... Or do we just like older men because they tend to have more life experience, are more mature and are usually more stable. I, personally, have only dated one guy close to my own age (two years older) and found it to be more work than it was worth. I have always stayed with men who are anywhere between 7-9 years older than me. Except for now I am with a man 14 years older (and am still struggling with this one).

On a side note, being new to the boards I just wanted to voice my thoughts and thank everyone who replied to my posts. If you have anything you would like to share on this post, please do.

I come to this forum because its good to know there are other people in my shoes, and that I'm not alone in my situation. I need that because some days, this ym/om relationship is sooo hard to deal with. I think sometimes we just seem like we have more problems than most other relationships because our problems are ....bigger? more life changing that just normal everyday problems? I dunno...but its good to get advice from people that DO understand, because most people don't.

You are so right on that one LilBabyCakes

dear Zara, welcome to Agelesslove,
I am 24 and my bf is 55. We are deeply in love and cannot stay w/o each other. Some time ago, I have asked myself your same questions about age gap, 'father figure' etc.... It's good that you perform some self-analysis because it make you know yourself better. Whatever the answers may be, they will give you insight for life decisions, and may you live happily with whom you ever decide to love.

I have asked myself many times why I fell in love with an older man, but there is no particular reason. He's a loving and caring man, he loves me and I love him, there is respect and trust, and that's enough for me. We do have quarrels sometimes like any other couple. Problems can exist between any couple not just AG relationships. Love can exist between any person no matter the age, race, creed, religion etc...

I came here because of my doubts about the Age difference... I have gotten over those Obviously cause now i'm married with a beautiful 10 month old little boy to show for our love and continuous love!! :)

Now I'm here to support those in need and Moderate the boards and make sure it's clean and fun......

I am so happy to see all these new faces and I hope to see more and more!!

WELCOME EVERYONE