is this normal??

Ok, little bit of an intro: I am with an OM who is 48, i am 20. We have been together for about a year. We work together every day because i am the business manager for his business / personal finances. Well...it seems to me now like something is not right. He seems to want to be alone more frequently and just doesnt seem like he wants me around. the other morning he said he needs some space because he said i make him feel guilty when his kids have to spend the night which means we cant do anything alone. basically, i want to know if we can still have a great relationship working together every day or do i need to get another job? i love him very much and love my job. any comments?

It might help to know how long he was alone before your relationship started, assuming he's divorced. Most married couples don't spend that much time together and perhaps he's feeling a little smothered. I've always felt in a healthy relationship a couple has their own time to themselves but it sounds like you two are together just about 24/7 and I personally dont think that's a very good idea. At the start of any relationship there's usually a 'honeymoon' period when you can't get enough time with each other but that settles into less contact at some point. Partners have their own outside interests, hobbies etc and I believe that's essential - do you spend much time apart doing other things?
Also, is there any reason why he would think you resent the times you can't be alone because of his children or is he just making this assumption.
Not much help I know but I can understand why he want more time to himself.

Ok, little bit of an intro: I am with an OM who is 48, i am 20. We have been together for about a year. We work together every day because i am the business manager for his business / personal finances. Well...it seems to me now like something is not right. He seems to want to be alone more frequently and just doesnt seem like he wants me around.
I noticed, as the previous poster mentioned, there is an unanswered question. Is he divorced or widowed? If he is either of the two, then he is probably dealing with mixed emotions about the new relationship. He may even feel he is doing something wrong even though he isn't.


the other morning he said he needs some space because he said i make him feel guilty when his kids have to spend the night which means we cant do anything alone. basically, i want to know if we can still have a great relationship working together every day or do i need to get another job? i love him very much and love my job. any comments?
The kids. This causes awkward feelings in any age gap relationship. My dad began dating a woman 17 years younger in 1998 [he was 57 and she was 40]; even though all of us were grown, it still took some adjustment since this obviously was a different woman my dad was with vice our mother [My parents divorced in 1995]. If both of you want to continue the relationship, a couple of things need to be worked out:

- spending time with you AND with the kids

- he needs to quit stressing over how the kids feel about you.

Love in the workplace can be very awkward too, and he may not feel comfortable with that situation; I do not know your company's policies, so I cannot say anything more. If you are not in violation of any policies, then it is a matter of overcoming some insecurities.