books about yw/om relationships

i'm a 25F seeing a 46M. i'm so torn about what to do :confused: , and am really interested in reading books on the subject. i've had little success searching amazon.com, etc. i suppose i'm looking more for non-fiction/psychoanalytical stuff, but fiction is fine as well as long as it provides some insight and example.

if anyone can recommend a book or two, it would be most appreciated!
thanks. :rolleyes:

"My Old Man" by Amy Sohn

This book is fiction. It is about an age-gap relationship and it's quite funny! The OM in the book is kind of a jerk but it's worth the read!

I wish someone would come out with a good movie about a YW/OM relationship, but I have yet to see or hear of one. I saw "Autumn in New York" with Richard Gear and Wynona Ryder and it was horrific! The whole movie was really only about bashing the age difference.

One of these days I keep hoping Hollywood will come around.

Here's a few movies

Sense and Sensibility. Colonol Brandon (Alan Rickman) falls in love with Marianne (Kate Winslett), she's pretty rude to him in the beginning but he loves her, enough to leave her alone when she falls in love with another man... then things go wrong... if you are familiar with Jane Austen you can guess how it ends but I won't say any more- happy ending. The cinematography is breathtaking!

Harold and Maude. If you haven't seen this, see it! An older woman (old enough to be his grandmother) and a young man. She is passionate about life, he is an outcast and spends his freetime attending funerals and faking his suicides to get his mother's attention (she was unfazed). Harold learns a lot from Maude about life, brings him out of his shell. Funny movie, bittersweet in the end.

Can't think of any more at the moment...

called "Jennifer Fever." I can't remember the author.

Pros: Discussed om/ym in marriage relationships which highlighted real couples. Talked about these couples having children. SOme do, some don't.

Cons: Just about everything else in the book. VERY sterotypical. i.e. well-to-do men leaving their middle-aged wives for a younger woman, while the older woman is scorned. ( The ow's are called "Janet's" in the book b/c Janet is an older sounding name. The author chose the name "Jennifer" for the younger women. The book was published in 1988 and the most popular name for a young girl in that era was "Jennifer.") Basically, the yw in the book were portrayed as goldigging homewreckers.

1. One novel is Rebecca and the author is Daphne DuMaurier. There is over a 20 year age gap in the characters. It takes a few chapters to get into it. After that, it is wonderful. The man is a widower with a young bride on an English estate. The book is considered one of the most well loved in Britain.

2. Another novel is Jane Eyre and the author is Charlotte Bronte. The characters have a significant age gap. (See the 1997 film with Samantha Morton and Ciaran Hinds.)