cme4heart8
05-16-2005, 08:14 PM
I have a few questions, hope this wont take too much of your time. Well I met this guy on the internet about two months ago. We've been talking on the phone for almost a month before we decided to meet up. We've gotten to know eachother quite well over the past month. He's a 33 year old dentist, and I'm 20, just got out of a 3 year relationship with a 32 year old man 3 months before. Many of my friends are in their late 20s or early 30s, because I can relate to people who are a bit older. He use to call me a lot during work, after work and every night before he goes to bed. For the past two weeks, he has been calling me a lot less. Now it's more like once after work to talk for a few minutes, and then about 30 minutes before he goes to bed at night. It is just a big drastic change. He lives about 35 minutes away without traffic, but after work he's usually really tired and coming to me will take about 1 hour and a half just to get to me, so he usually goes out with his friends who are around his area after work. He knows I'm dating other guys, and he tells me to "wait for him". He said that he will make an effort to make time for me, but then he gets out of work early Saturdays and usually go out with his friends. He sees me after 12am when he gets back from his friends. I mean, it doesn't seem like he's trying hard enough to see me. I don't know if he's really interested in me, or if he's just saying those things. He tells me that he's very attracted to me, and that he likes my personality. I mean I'm a bit chubby, and he's very good looking, has everything made, big house nice cars, everything. WHy would he be after a chubby girl like me? I'm sure there are plenty of HOT girls after him, so I don't know if he's being sincere with me. Sometimes he's very honest with me, he tells me things even though he knows those are the things that I hate most. He tells me everything, even when he was younger he had one night stands and so on, and he tell me those things. But sometimes, the things that he says jsut doesnt add up. Like the other night, he didnt call me until 12am. I asked him what he's been up to, he said he came home around 8pm, his mother didnt feel well so took her to the ER. I use to work at a hospital so I know how things work...I know it did not take him 3 hours to go into the ER. It just doesn't add up. For some reason, he always think that I'm testing him or questioning him, and it irritates him. Is he trying to avoid questions? I even asked him if I could give him a hicky to see what he would say. He said he absolutely hate it, because he is a professional, that is understanable, but I said okay what if it's somewhere you can hide it? and he still says NO. I mean if you were really interested in someone, you would always make time for them right? and if you were really attracted to someone, why would a hicky be so much to ask? I'm just very confused. People who has higher status usually prioritize their life differently from others? I'm sure he knows that he coudl get any girl, why would he be after a girl like me? I have nothing, I'm chubby. I don't have the perfect body. I'm sure there are plenty of beautiful women after him...I just don't understand. What are his intentions towards me? Today was the first time he didn't call me. I know its been only a day, but still, for the past two months we talk EVERDAY. I think he is upset because when he said he's sort of annoyed by my questions, I just said "I'm not questioning you or testing you, those are just simple questions. I just wanted to know how your day went. I'm in no position to question you. I'm not your girlfriend, I'm not even dating you nor do I even want to." I think that ticked him off. Please help? I don't know what his intentions are towards me...Any advice is much appreciated! Thanks in advance.