Who are our Long Termers???

Hey guys..

WHo are are Long Termers here at Ageless...... I haven't heard from anyone in awhile and Wondering how everyone is doing!!!! and maybe give some of our tricks again to those hoping to get to a Long term status!!!

I have beenw ith my husband for 4 years now.. married for 1 1/2 yrs with a beautiful 10 1/2 month old son......

Kathy and I have been together for a year and 3 months! I'd say thats long term. I feel like I've known her forever though. She's one brave gal to put up with all my BS :D and keep me in line ;)

Please define Long-Term

(gee, I hate sounding this dumb)


Your not sounding dumb... We had this discussion before and I think it's all on how you personally determine Long term..... For some of us it was 6 months some a year some over a year.... I personally think it's 6 months or longer depends on how solid the relationship has been!! :)

trebmal that is GREAT... yes it is.. We all have to deal with a little BS once and awhile... one thing in a successful relationship is understanding differences :)

*smiles*

Well, Im still here! 4-1/2 years with someone 14 years younger. :)

I'm still here, just not as often...

My husband and I have been together for 4 1/2 years...married for 1 1/2 of those years and living life in Austrlalia. He is 26 I am 48 and he tells me that I get younger looking everyday! LOL Must be love!

wow, 6 months is considered a long term relationship? I guess I would consider it a "potentially long term relationship" until the tenth anniversairy.

Well, I'm a "long term" gal then, having been committed to my guy for a year and having met in November which was six months ago.

Still counting...

Charlotte it's all in how you determine it... You should check out that thread about what we consider long term... It was interesting to see what others said..... :)

So nice to see everyone here....I think we are the ones that show hope to those who don't see any in these kinds of relationships... We show them that IT CAN WORK!!

I read here in LTR a lot, but rarely post here. I too struggle with that "long term" part. I doubt that 2 years is a long term relationship by most standards. It is long term to my husband and I in the sense that we plan to be together "long term".

:D

almost 2 years now. half of it LDR :(

My bf and I have been together for 2 1/2 years and we are getting married in 4 weeks!!! :eek:


omg so soonnnnnn cherub..... i can't believe it.... !!! Congratulations I'm so so sooooo happy for you guys....

Much love to you and I wish YOu the very best!!

(((((((cherubino)))))))

4 more weeks!!! That's great!


Long term-er here!!! G and I have been together for almost 5 1/2 years. I am 26 and G is 46.

Are there not that many of us left on this site? Or are you all just being shy?

Haha. I know. Seems like yesterday when he was just "the cute guy who lives upstairs". :D

Thanks for the good wishes. You, Charles, and Dennis are my inspiration!

I remember like it was yesturday that you told us you were engaged!!!!

Thanks!! And Most of your posts are inspirational to me to!!!! You help and support show such kindness that Your Marriage will be just as successful as mine!!!

Stephy and I have been together over 2 years...we celebrate our second wedding anniversary in November.

A year and a half together. Will be two years on Oct 26th. All long distance except when I flew to see him and spent time with him.

Chessa~

We were 5 months online-only long distance, then met in person, and it's been an entire 2 years since then. We have lived together for a year and 2/3 of these past 2 years. Definitely both in it for the long term - and why not...it's sooooo good. :D

I'm 45 he's 26 and we've been together 19 months. We don't live together which is actually great, but we live 5 minutes away from each other. We're having a great time. We're in love.

Congratulations to all you long-termers. My ym and I recently broke up after dating off and on for the last year. I was in it for the long haul. Really, really crazy about this guy, but alas . . . he could not get past the age gap (13 years).

I will continue to read the posts here to give me hope for the future.

i swear, lol, everytime i read the title of this thread my mind reads......

who are all our OLD TIMERS


lol and i start to reply.....ME ME ME!

imma dorkfish

but i like soup.

i swear, lol, everytime i read the title of this thread my mind reads......

who are all our OLD TIMERS


lol and i start to reply.....ME ME ME!

imma dorkfish

but i like soup.


LOL Tracy you crazy gal!!! LOL

and you are ma lil buttercup :D

lol

2 years ago my YM and I met in a chatroom... And he is Still the One!

_____________________________________________
When I first saw you, I saw love. And the
first time you touched me, I felt love. And
after all this time, you're still the one I love.

Shania Twain
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Still here, not posting much, together one year since April, married since May 6th. :)

I'm not a regular poster but a regular reader....We've just celebrated our 2 year anniversary...he's 32 and I'm 44. He asked me to marry him on Valentine's Day, and we're planning a wedding for sometime next summer, probably August 2006.

Eric/Pariah and I met here @ ageless back in August of 2003. We met in person before Christmas of 2003 and have been together since. Still very much inlove. :D

I came to know my OG 5 yrs ago, we had some break-ups in the past so I cannot really say that we've been 5yrs together because they were a bit bumpy, but we haved moved in together since a year and everything is going fine now, and we intend to make this relationship long-term.

This is wonderful!! Look at all these long termers we have......


This is one true way of knowing that Age Gaps DO work if you let them!!!

Atheena I hope you stick around Post more often I'm sure we would all love to get to know you!!

Still here, not posting much, together one year since April, married since May 6th. :)

Congratulations Inahnia!!!!!

A year and a half together. Will be two years on Oct 26th. All long distance except when I flew to see him and spent time with him.

Chessa~


Like Marcy, I'm always kind of reluctant to consider my relationship with Remi long-term yet. But, I read Chessare's post and it's so close to my own situation that I had to respond.

I guess you could consider us "long-term LDR". :p Remi and I have known each other for over 2 years now, but we began our relationship on October 15, 2003. So, that will be our 2 year mark. Like Chessare, it's all been long distance other than the weeks I spent with him in Bucharest last year.

But, somehow, we have made it last this long and have remained committed to each other. And, hopefully, the visa application process will finally be over for us in the next 2-3 weeks. It's been a long road, and we have fought a lot in the past two months, but somehow, we stick together despite all the obstacles and all the thousands of miles apart.

Like Marcy, I'm always kind of reluctant to consider my relationship with Remi long-term yet. But, I read Chessare's post and it's so close to my own situation that I had to respond.

I guess you could consider us "long-term LDR". :p Remi and I have known each other for over 2 years now, but we began our relationship on October 15, 2003. So, that will be our 2 year mark. Like Chessare, it's all been long distance other than the weeks I spent with him in Bucharest last year.

But, somehow, we have made it last this long and have remained committed to each other. And, hopefully, the visa application process will finally be over for us in the next 2-3 weeks. It's been a long road, and we have fought a lot in the past two months, but somehow, we stick together despite all the obstacles and all the thousands of miles apart.

I think that for some of my friends it's difficult for them to accept that I'm in a "real" relationship due to the fact that we are thousands of miles apart most of the time.

In all we've spent 22 days together in person within 6 months and another 14 planned for August. The days we've spent sharing online, by snail mail and on the phone, since long before we even became interested in meeting each other a year ago, amount to exactly 809 days ( I cheated -> http://www.csgnetwork.com/juliancountdaysfromtocalc.html ).

I find it hard to believe that my friends whom see their significant other every day, yet have only been dating for 3 or 4 months, have even begun to get to know each other as intimately as my guy and I do.

Wow, the first time I said "hi" online to my guy was 809 days ago. Even though we weren't involved with each other intimately until a couple of years later I still feel it should be included in the amount of time that we have been in some sort of relationship. A friendship is a relationship afterall :)

Yup, still count me in as a long termer :)

Hi all ...

Been away for a leetle while. Hope everyone's well :>

Six years together in July - living together for five. Sixteen year age difference.

We've been dating since January, 2004. That makes about 1.5 years. Living together almost a year now. I'm 33 to his allllllmost 20.
~phos

I've thought a lot about this one. When you compare how long I have been married to how long I have been with my guy, no the numbers don't come close.

One is over 23 years, the other almost 2 years. Relationships that start online do not usually last that long, let alone long distance where you can't see or hold that person. That it has means something to me. It should to others. You can't say that we don't know each other, haven't talked as much or dreamed dreams together just because we aren't within a fingertips reach of each other. Some people are married and live in the same house for years going through the motions and never truly know who they are living with until it ends.

People say,"but you haven't been together that long" and I know they compare it to most marriages. And if you look at it like that yes we haven't. I'd rather compare it to something like dog or cat years. One month LDR = six months together in the flesh. And I only say that because when you are long distance you use everything available to you to be together and your relationship and every aspect of it is more important to you both.

The phone call just before you both fall asleep every night. Talking about your day together on the phone hearing each others voices. Using cams and eating dinner together and watching a movie and talking about it and laughing. So many things that people take for granted every day that we count as special and can only dream about for the future. No phone, no computers or cams necessary. Just to be..together

So when a couple is together and still apart, it only means that they aren't within fingertips reach yet. But to their souls, hearts and minds they are together in all the ways that count with dreams yet to come true.

So to everyone who wonders if they should consider themselves as long term. It's what you feel in your heart that matters and being with that person any way you can. Not the minutes, hours, days, months or years that you have had to spend apart.

Chessa~

Hello,

This is my first post. I stumbled upon this site a few months ago and I have fun reading the posts. I have a lot to say but I guess I am new at this and a little reticent.

I am 42 years old and my husband is 63. We have been married since 1984 and have two children, 17 and 14. Our marriage hasn't been without its challenges but I can say that most of what we have needed to work on hasn't been caused by our age difference but who we are as people just as any married couple has to face.

It wasn't easy in the beginning we got a lot of flak from my parents, grandparents, etc. but we soldiered on and got married. We were very much in love and very idealistic and now that I am my husband's age when we got married I wonder how he could have been so idealistic at my age!

If anyone has any questions or thoughts, please let me know and I will try to answer them.

To all of you who have parents who are upset by the age difference, just let me say that if you OM is a good man and your parents are reasonably sane people, they will eventually accept the relationship as mine did. In fact today we tease each other that I should get a group rate at a nursing home as all three of them age that way I can visit them all at the same time! Humor has been a large part of our relationship and always will.

WELCOME LJCola! So glad you decided to join us! Success stories like yours are truly an inspiration for those of us just starting out! Congratulations!!!

~phosphorescent

LJ... WELCOME to Ageless... and THANKS so much for your story.... Maybe you can post more encouraging things like this on our side!!!!!

It's so wonderful to see such a success story like this.... I am married to a man who is 17 years older I am 30 and he is 46 turning 47 this month.. with a beautiful baby boy 11 months..... happy and its so nice to have the hope that you just supplied!!

We met three years ago and have been "together" for 2 years 9 mos.

NOT that I'm counting.

It has not been easy, in fact many sane people would have quit this road at the tougher points....but I'm so glad I haven't.

My parents/family are still not accepting. This is still the main problem, as it has always been.

LJCola, I would love to hear more about your experiences, your marriage, your relationship with your family. My boyfriend is a good man, but after knowing about the relationship for over two years, my parents are thawing to the idea slower than the polar caps.

It's frustrating, especially since it's getting enticing to just say "let's do this" and get married. My boyfriend however thinks we need to give my parents at least the better part of a year's notice if we're getting married. We'll see.

I completely relate to Chessaere's comments about having been married for such a long time. Someone else in one of the posts in this thread said "long term" is a matter of how each person defines it for himself/herself. For me I don't know what long term even means yet. I know it's more than 1 1/2 years, which is the longest I've "dated" someone since my divorce. Long term for me is even longer than 2 1/2 years, the length of time I've been separated (followed 3 mos later by divorce.) I feel as if I've been single for only a matter of months, not years. My marriage to a man close to my own age (5 years older) lasted 27years. We have 3 children. Two are grown and on their own, one is married, and the "baby" will be a high school freshman in the fall. I was married for almost as long as my YM has been alive. So far anything since my divorce seems to me to have been but a brief encounter . . .

I moved in with my ex-husband after 6 weeks of dating. Then we got married a year later. We were married for 7 years, then separated for one year before the divorce.

After reading information on relationships, since I had been off the playing field for so long, I found two pieces of advice that I liked.

One was court someone and don't have sex until your wedding night. Although this is very good advice, it was very hard to do.

The other was to see someone for two years before you decide to get into a serious relationship with them. I find this is a lot of fun for me and works very well for my schedule and for my brain seeing love as a choice or a decision.

So I have a very casual "relationship" that has been going on for 11 months. Plus, I get to play the field and meet other people as well. :)

I highly recommend this at this point.

Well, my parents didn't really accept our relationship until about one week before the wedding. They tried everything to stop it including disowning me and refusing to pay my college tuition. They called my OM every name in the book. My grandfather went to see his parents and called him a sugardaddy etc etc. So you have to remember that this was 1984 and most people didn't live together at least not in our town and getting married was what everyone did so we did. They fought me tooth and nail until that week and finally said they would come to the wedding and then about one hour before the wedding they told me my father would walk me down the aisle. The first year or two was stressful when we were together but by the time the first grandchild came along after 3 1/2 years you would have never know there was any problem. In fact my children have no idea how difficult it was for us in the beginning. I have never told them because I didn't want them resenting their maternal grandparents.

Today they are very good friends and I think truly enjoy each other's company. I know my husband likes them and never got angry at them for their treatment of them. I have a very gracious husband. To my parents credit, they have treated him very well and I think they realized that he loved me and would take really good care of me and our children. Today we joke about the group rate on nursing home fees in the future.

Good luck.

4 years, and counting. 28 years difference. It can work.

Edging on 50 and 22.

I'm 40, Justin is 25 and we have been together for 7 years 2 months. We have had a couple of bumps down the road with one of them lasting 9 months. We have worked hard to resolve our differences and have been happier then we have ever been for the last 2 years.

It just amazes me when I look at how my ym has grown up over the years. I've watched him go from pumping gas for a living to now being a lead hand running his own crew for the company we both work for. He has been a wonderful step dad to my boys as well as a great role model.

ACK!!
BRENDA!!!
Where you been????
I've missed you. I'm a slacker I know.

Hugs

I've missed you too Frances! I'm still usually around just lurking, just find I don't have the time to post too often anymore. I keep thinking of giving you a phone call but with our time difference by the time I think to call it's too darn late at night to do so. At the moment Justin has been out of town in Whistler for work since May 30. With the 2010 Olympics coming up there it seems like he's up there more then he is at home. I drove up there last Sat and stayed up there in the company trailer with him for a night (got to have our conjugal visit ya know). I just finished talking to him and he has now advised me that they probably won't be heading back down to this area until Sat and then it will be straight to another job site to start it all over again.

He is sounding so cranky and misses us and home so much, I wish there was something I could do to cheer him up. At least this site will only be a 1/2 hr away, but by the sounds of it the boss is wanting him to stay on site 24/7. I'm guessing that it will probably be for another 3 days, so it looks like he may not be back in his own bed until next Wed or Thurs. That will make 17 days in a row that he's been with out a day off. We are both feeling terribly burnt out from work and were hoping to take some holiday time off next month and head over to Vancouver Island to do some fishin but with the amount of work we have it looks like it will have to wait until towards the end of Aug. Oh well I guess I now know what it feels like to be in a longdistance relationship, maybe I should start reading in that forum since I seem to qualify for that category now :D . I'll do my best to try and give you a call soon.

I've thought a lot about this one. When you compare how long I have been married to how long I have been with my guy, no the numbers don't come close.

One is over 23 years, the other almost 2 years. Relationships that start online do not usually last that long, let alone long distance where you can't see or hold that person. That it has means something to me. It should to others. You can't say that we don't know each other, haven't talked as much or dreamed dreams together just because we aren't within a fingertips reach of each other. Some people are married and live in the same house for years going through the motions and never truly know who they are living with until it ends.

People say,"but you haven't been together that long" and I know they compare it to most marriages. And if you look at it like that yes we haven't. I'd rather compare it to something like dog or cat years. One month LDR = six months together in the flesh. And I only say that because when you are long distance you use everything available to you to be together and your relationship and every aspect of it is more important to you both.

The phone call just before you both fall asleep every night. Talking about your day together on the phone hearing each others voices. Using cams and eating dinner together and watching a movie and talking about it and laughing. So many things that people take for granted every day that we count as special and can only dream about for the future. No phone, no computers or cams necessary. Just to be..together

So when a couple is together and still apart, it only means that they aren't within fingertips reach yet. But to their souls, hearts and minds they are together in all the ways that count with dreams yet to come true.

So to everyone who wonders if they should consider themselves as long term. It's what you feel in your heart that matters and being with that person any way you can. Not the minutes, hours, days, months or years that you have had to spend apart.

Chessa~

This is so true it made me drop a couple tears. I will be visiting my baby in less than a week. We will be together for 10 days and then part again for another 4 months. It is difficult but we survive!!! I love him so!

I also strongly agree with this statement. Online time is intense and intimate. It just does not translate directly into real life time. I had to laugh when I read this because I have often used this exact translation of 1 month online to 6 months real life. If you haven't experienced this, then you just cannot relate to it.

By the "definitions" used in this thread, I guess my b/f and I can be considered "long termers" ;)

We've known each other since 2002, are a couple since summer 2003, but are essentially in an LDR (he's Norwegian, I am German, and we are still in the process of sorting out our relocation - which is not that easy considering all the job implications involved :p).

Personally, I don't consider us long-timers in my terms - basically, because we only spend a couple of weeks with each other in person every couple of month .... Until we have actually lived together in person for around 4 years, it won't be "real" long term for me ;)

Guess this is why I normally never read this part of the board lol ....

PS: B/f and I got 16 yrs between us (him 21, me 37)...

Nessa and I met online November 2002 and a week later on December 1, 2002 in person.
We moved in together March/April 2004
We married SIX MONTHS ago on December 31, 2004

Good to see you here Bri... miss Nessa...

Glad you are doing well together

Hi Everyone!

Phil and I are 1 year IRL this month and 1 year before that LDR.

We're still happy as clams most of the time :o

M and I are going on over 1 1/2 years, getting married at the end of the month, just bought a home.... whoooo hooooo.. and I thought it wouldnt last........ :p

.... but my lady and I are still together and doing very well in our relationship. Is it a long term one? I say yes. I know that compared to my thirteen year marriage (16 if you count being friends for a year before dating and then two years of dating), a year and seven months is not that much. But with all of the social factors against an Ow/Ym relationship, it's a heck of a lot. Given that my lady and I both had a lot of trust issues going into the relationship, a year and seven months is incredible to me.

I have no doubt about the longevity of this relationship, and I truly look forward to the day that I can marry her. The more I have gotten to know her, the more and more I have loved her. It truly amazes me that anyone could have cast her aside, but I do know one thing. I know how fantastic she is and I am in it for the long haul.

Dan Echo

18 year difference going on 10 years together.

YW 24/OM 42

We met in March 2004, started dating in May 2004, and got married in November 2004. So....we've been together over a year.

Well, seeing the other responses here I guess you'd call me a "long termer". ;)

We've been dating just over two years now, and are engaged. Times have been kind of tough. She's been through some very serious family problems (long story for another time), and there have been some other issues, but we're holding on. 2004 and the first half of 2005 were very, very tough for us, but things are finally starting to get better.

Insearch, Dan, and Rhad WELCOME BACK GUYS!!!

Insearch CONGRATS!!!! I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU for the Marriage and the House best of luck to both of you!!!

Dan you both are an inspiration!!!!!!!!

Rhad I'm so happy to hear this.. I know you both have had some troubled times but your love is what kept you both together!!! I hope you get thru these rough patches soon!!!

Thanks, Mer.

Any inspiration that I provide, however, is only due to my lady's presence in my life. Some people are once in a lifetime people, and she truly is a once in a lifetime lady. God has blessed me with her presence in my life. I hope and pray that I am that for her as well.

Dan Echo

Been a couple for over 10 years now. He is 42, and I'm 60. Don't live together and I like it that way. We live 15 minutes apart.
Flyer

Okay, im behind the times here because I was off for a while, but Trebmal, I dont know you well, but I remember you from the post, and from the chat room....you said you and Kathy have been together.....okay Kathy who, cause there are several, and anyway that is great!! You always came across as a nice guy on the chatroom.

Rick and I have been talking/together, met in chatroom 3 years ago!!!!!! yes, 3, I cant believe it, I think in October. We still talk EVERY DAY and webcam, have a date once a week, although lately things have been messed up on that as we have had busy busy schedules...... we have had first argument and got over that....had some misunderstandings and got over those, have talked about every subject known to mankind, and usually agree or agree to disagree. :) We also both got cold feet and got over that too. We feel like the 3 years have been a blessing as this is the first time in either of our lives that we have actually gotten to KNOW someone this well before diving into marriage or deep relationship. lol
We act like we are married, so when we finally do, it will not be that much of a change.

Anyway, we are still plugging along and working on the goals of eventually getting married. ....All of you are an inspiration to us!!!

And a lot of you probably dont know this, but Rick and I would have never talked if it hadn't been for princessdy. We all ran Rick off the chat room thinking he was a creep that came on now and then, (similar names). He was never coming back and Dy got him to come back after using her slick talking and when he did is when he met me :) Its odd how fate hangs by a thread sometimes :) and how we treat people does have consequences some of which we may never know....till later. Like what if Dy had not talked to him? Would I have met him? What if she didnt care his feelings were hurt? Okay, anyway, just thought Id throw that in.

I've thought a lot about this one. When you compare how long I have been married to how long I have been with my guy, no the numbers don't come close.

One is over 23 years, the other almost 2 years. Relationships that start online do not usually last that long, let alone long distance where you can't see or hold that person. That it has means something to me. It should to others. You can't say that we don't know each other, haven't talked as much or dreamed dreams together just because we aren't within a fingertips reach of each other. Some people are married and live in the same house for years going through the motions and never truly know who they are living with until it ends.

People say,"but you haven't been together that long" and I know they compare it to most marriages. And if you look at it like that yes we haven't. I'd rather compare it to something like dog or cat years. One month LDR = six months together in the flesh. And I only say that because when you are long distance you use everything available to you to be together and your relationship and every aspect of it is more important to you both.

The phone call just before you both fall asleep every night. Talking about your day together on the phone hearing each others voices. Using cams and eating dinner together and watching a movie and talking about it and laughing. So many things that people take for granted every day that we count as special and can only dream about for the future. No phone, no computers or cams necessary. Just to be..together

So when a couple is together and still apart, it only means that they aren't within fingertips reach yet. But to their souls, hearts and minds they are together in all the ways that count with dreams yet to come true.

So to everyone who wonders if they should consider themselves as long term. It's what you feel in your heart that matters and being with that person any way you can. Not the minutes, hours, days, months or years that you have had to spend apart.

Chessa~

I revisited this thread because when I read the above for the first time I liked it so much that I quoted it in the website I created for my bf and me. This is so beautiful and so true! I just read it again today and thought... hmmm, maybe some of my friends at AgeLess would like to re-read it too.