Six Deadly Symptoms of a Man in Love

I was reading this in a book the other day, not scientific or through any valid or even non-valid research, but I thought it was interesting. What is your opinion? Do you agree with the Six Deadly Symptoms?

1.) Inability to think straight.

2.) An alarming propensity to smile at the oddest moments.

3.) Constant thoughts of the object of one's desire.

4.) Absolutely no interest in other members of the opposite sex.

5.) A startling sense of goodwill to the world in general.

6.) A perpetual state of sexual arousal.

It sounds more like lust to me, but I wanted your opinions.

doesn't sound like lust to me gal. actually.....it kinda sounds like how i know i act when i've been in love, which was twice. unless we're counting crushes, then oh lordy lol

This sure helped me, because my B/F has voiced every statement! He says when we are together, he feels peaceful and "all is right with the world." We are in a war zone!

I honestly can't think straight still. When he is near I have trouble with word finding. I stutter. My stomach "flips" when I see him. I don't think it is lust, because we both were extremely surprised that this relationship took the turn it did. There was absolutely no indication that the physical attraction would be as intense as it is. It seems to me that the writer is pretty right on. I believe it has to do with the effect hormones/chemicals have on the brain.

Sounds a lot like I remember Plato's Symposium on Love. Not sure if I have the name correct. Been a long time since I read it.

Main thing I remember is that the love you feel towards your lover, makes the world look beautiful when in fact, nothing has really changed! Perception of reality has a lot to do with how we are feeling with ourselves.

I do believe this is a temporary state though..............for most people. Chemically, the brain cannot continue in that manner. But it allows time for the two people to form a deeper connection. Might feel less intense, but it is possible to sustain and is the basis of real love.

Like most here have hinted, I'd say this is early-stage sort of star-struck stuff - what happens when people just meet and are attracted. People have different definitions of what being "in love" means, but I say that in order to truly be "in love" you have to KNOW that person pretty well.

So, I would say these symptoms are really only indicators of an early crush or infatuation. Love has not had time to develop yet. The guy is only intensely attracted to his *fantasy* of who the woman is at this point.

One thing's for sure, there's been plenty of discussion on this site about being careful not to misjudge intensity as an indication of being right for each other. The "butterflies" stage can be dangerously overrated, because the reasons for intense attraction can be based on pathologies that are hidden to the person feeling it. My point being, it is super easy to misjudge the real meaning behind feelings, it is often far more complex than "feeling X means the situation must be Y."

Short answer: No, I don't agree that the guy is in love. He is just in the first stages of having a crush.

(BTW, what is so Deadly about it? Our culture is so stupid about implying that love is bad for men. Oh yeah, it's awful.)

strange, I met a guy a few months ago who kept repeating all six points especially "I can't think straight, I've been smiling all the time, I have a permanent hard-on, I think of you all day, a feel dazed , I'v' been daydreaming" and then one day he disappeared without any notice or any news. Can someone explain to me why ?? I'm still wondering.

I met a guy a few months ago who kept repeating all six points especially "I can't think straight, I've been smiling all the time, I have a permanent hard-on, I think of you all day, a feel dazed , I'v' been daydreaming" and then one day he disappeared without any notice or any news. Can someone explain to me why ?? I'm still wondering.

I know this is a cynical, jaded thought; he had read the same book and knew exactly what to say...........

Ahh, sounds like me when I met my boyfriend! There are times I still feel this way. Especially the first one.



5.) A startling sense of goodwill to the world in general.

Well this is rather indicative of the situation of the rest of the world then. The world at large is obviously not in love. Hmmph!!

Ahh, sounds like me when I met my boyfriend! There are times I still feel this way. Especially the first one.



Well this is rather indicative of the situation of the rest of the world then. The world at large is obviously not in love. Hmmph!!

My favorite and the one I find to be the most accurate is "The propensity to smile at the oddest moments."

I doubt he read the same book unless he's into historical romance novels, which is exactly where I found it and that's what the author entitled it "Six Deadly Symptoms of a Man in Love". Though I do have to say falling in love can be deadly or maybe I'm just jaded in that respect. :p

I was reading this in a book the other day, not scientific or through any valid or even non-valid research, but I thought it was interesting. What is your opinion? Do you agree with the Six Deadly Symptoms?

1.) Inability to think straight.

2.) An alarming propensity to smile at the oddest moments.

3.) Constant thoughts of the object of one's desire.

4.) Absolutely no interest in other members of the opposite sex.

5.) A startling sense of goodwill to the world in general.

6.) A perpetual state of sexual arousal.

It sounds more like lust to me, but I wanted your opinions.


This is infatuation, and it's nature's way of bonding male and female...

lust is a part of love but love is not always a part of lust.

lust, when its part of a real loving relationship is amazing, its a gift.

i love my husband but i also lust for him and his sweet body, my husband does the same for me.

substitute the word "desire" instead of lust, maybe then it will make more sence.

The title for me would be "Six Deadly Symptoms of Falling In Love With A Man".....talk about jaded..... :(

I agree Trish.... but I am not sure it's deadly....although it could be. :p

I was reading this in a book the other day, not scientific or through any valid or even non-valid research, but I thought it was interesting. What is your opinion? Do you agree with the Six Deadly Symptoms?

1.) Inability to think straight.

2.) An alarming propensity to smile at the oddest moments.

3.) Constant thoughts of the object of one's desire.

4.) Absolutely no interest in other members of the opposite sex.

5.) A startling sense of goodwill to the world in general.

6.) A perpetual state of sexual arousal.

It sounds more like lust to me, but I wanted your opinions.

Yeah, it sounds like he's in love.
Have you ever heard of love is blind? Can't see or think straight and it only make sense to yourself? Feeling different when next to that special person?
Instead of lust, I would say replace it with "desire", perhaps an "intense desire" and 4) is definitely the sign of in love.

Dear Loucine,

He thinks he found a better place to take his hard-on or he was hit by a truck! He wasn't worthy of you.