Age difference

age difference

Anyone that can offer advice or support please do so. I have been deeply involved with a girl that is a lot younger than I. 39 years to be exact. We have become best friends, confidents, lovers, support for each other, It has never been lust we just fell in love. She has no problem with the age difference but I did until I realized that the best thing in my life is about to get away from me.

We talked a lot about our future. I know she loves me much more than I can ever understand and that love is returned by me. I'm proud of her and she has been the stability in my life that I have desperately been seeking since I was divorced 12 years ago.

I am willing to tunr my life completely around for her but she and I are both afraid of what others, families and friends will say and how they will react. This relationship has been going on 5 years so its not just a casual thing. We have been in each others lifes through a lot of things.

I would give anything to have her in my life permanently but she is in aphase where another has shown her interest. She calls me everyday and sees me when she can and tells me I've been the best thing that happened to her.

How do I convince her to stay with me?

age difference

Anyone that can offer advice or support please do so. I have been deeply involved with a girl that is a lot younger than I. 39 years to be exact. We have become best friends, confidents, lovers, support for each other, It has never been lust we just fell in love. She has no problem with the age difference but I did until I realized that the best thing in my life is about to get away from me.

We talked a lot about our future. I know she loves me much more than I can ever understand and that love is returned by me. I'm proud of her and she has been the stability in my life that I have desperately been seeking since I was divorced 12 years ago.

I am willing to tunr my life completely around for her but she and I are both afraid of what others, families and friends will say and how they will react. This relationship has been going on 5 years so its not just a casual thing. We have been in each others lifes through a lot of things.

I would give anything to have her in my life permanently but she is in aphase where another has shown her interest. She calls me everyday and sees me when she can and tells me I've been the best thing that happened to her.

How do I convince her to stay with me?


Hey there! Did you mean that she's with another guy? If that's the case, if it were me, I would let go. (But that's just me.) I never like to convince people to stay with me because then it has a different energy to it doesn't it? I know it's hard, but I think we all have to learn to not let our happiness depend on another. I would say let go and see if it is in your destiny. (Thought I'd get that in be4 it was moved to the other forum!)

I would ask the question, is she involved in another relationship? If yes, wait til she is available, then tell HER how you feel. Maybe she is under the impression that it was a very intense relationship but something you only thought as a casual relationship? Tell her what you think of her, that you are proud of her, that you see yourself with no one else and you would like to be the man in her life. What is the worst that can happen? She don't reciprocate your feelings? Personally I would not want to spend the rest of my life wondering what if? What if I would have told her.

As for the other people in your lives, if this is something that makes you both HAPPY then they will learn to adjust to the relationship. If they truly love you, they will love you for the choices you make and the person you are. If they can't deal with the relationship, then maybe they are people you do not NEED in your life. I know it can be very diffiucult to let family in on the situation....my dad still doesn't know...but I'm not exaclty in the postion to tell him right now. He will surly be mad, then hurt, but because he loves me, he will accept my decision and support me, because if I am happy, then that is all he will want for me.

I have a feeling yours and her family would feel the same....after the initial shock! Good luck! Don't hold back when it comes to love...because it could pass you by!

If you both love each other, why does she have to be convinced? I have been deeply involved with a girl that is a lot younger than I. 39 years to be exact. How old is this girl? Why do you feel you need other people's blessing? Is she actually dating another guy and telling you, her lover about it? :confused: