Hey!!!!

OMG long time no talk!! How is everyone? I have tried to separate myself from the boards, after my YM and I split. Just to recap. He left for his last year of college about 10 months ago. We dated for 6 months total which included the first two months of him being 300 miles away, then we split up. Main reason was he said he needed to focus on his last year at school since he wasn't doing so well. I respected his wishes and it was tough as hell but I didn't contact him or I would only reply to his attempts to contact me. But, never initiating any contact.

Well, he has graduated and is back in town. I know this cause I got a text on my phone a couple of weeks ago saying "Hi how are you haven't talked to you in a while just watned to say hi." It was sent at 2am. pffff!

I met a guy in February who is my age and we are doing very well. I compare him to my YM a lot though, and feel it was free-er and easier to date my YM. YM haven't been hurt, so they aren't jaded and love a free-er.

I dont have a direct question or advice needed. But, I just have to say my YM did something to me that has caused me to constantly think of him no matter what is going on in my life. I am happy with my new guy, but I am soo soooo very curious about how my YM is doing. I guess he is not "my" YM anymore, but I daydream a lot of him. I am also curious as to how things would have been for us, and I will never know that, and it makes me very sad and very upset. I know what is meant to be is meant to be, it's just sometimes hard to swallow.

Hope everyone is doing well!! It's been way too long!

Hi Red and welcome back.

Just have this to say... It's better to regret something you have done, than to regret something you haven't done...

:eek:

Sorry to hear you're still pining for the YM. Despite the obviously annoying nature of the text message, why not just pop him one back... "Hey, doing fine. Pop me a line sometime when its NOT 2am in the morning, k? :p " LOL

~phos

Hey Red!

(((hugs)))

Sorry to hear you are pining away for the ym... darn it, that sucks! The fact that you are comparing the new guy to him and so on tells me you are not ready for a new relationship.... be careful, you don't want to hurt this new guy.

I think two things about this.... one, you are still in love with the ym and/or you never got closure, so you aren't able to move on. You have moved on superficially with the new guy, but not for real. Maybe you need to do something to try and resolve your feelings for the ym before going further. It's great to see you here again! :)

I agree with everyone esle...you're heart just isn't into this new guy.

Except before he gets wind of your half arse attempt of being in a relationship and coming away with more emotional baggage than he needs, you really need to reconsider what it is you want. Than make a decision to either let the new guy go and pursue the ym or stay with the new guy.

And I would make that decision BEFORE I contact the ym, BEFORE you get caught up in the la la feelings of the ym that then marks the situation as cheating on the new guy which is why i say make a decision BEFORE hand. Its a risk, yes, because you won't know where the ym is at this point in his life, or if he wants you back, but hey, life is a risk but you don't get to check out the focus of your attention and test before you plunge in. In other words, the new guy shouldn't be use as backup should the ym decides he's not to be the option on whether you stick with the new guy or or him and the new guy should not be put in the position of being the consolation prize because the ym may not give 2 figs about you right now.

So I say decide. For your own piece of mind and in respect of either guys.

Paris