I'm 20, he's 50

He's the head teacher of the law and politics department at the sixthform college I went to. He didn't teach me ( I studied Science subjects) but he taught my best friend and I met him through her at the local pub. I like him for many different reasons. We enjoy doing the same things, staying in at night, reading poetry to each other, board games, learning the flute together and I play the piano, cooking together, organic gardening, enjoying each other's company and I especially like all the interesting stories he has to tell me about his life. He brings a lot of happiness into my life, because instead of going out and boozing, which makes me depressed, we go on walks through the countryside. I'm someone who gets very depressed by towns and needs to do hobbies to take me out of myself and having someone like this, who does these things that keep me happy is good for me.
he is reliable, curteous, safe, generous, considerate and my quality of life goes up ten fold when I'm with him. The people my age have no real interest in my interests. I've had a very dysfunctional life up until now, thrill seeking, reckless, living in the fast lane, and now what i crave is routine and normality to keep me sane, and have a chance of true happiness. I now have someone who i can relax and do the hobbies I enjoy with, live in harmony together and totally be myself around. And I am very sexually attracted to him, so we have a very healthy lusty sexual relationship too.
I live with my parent's at the moment. But we are going to move intogether soon. My dad hasn't said much on it. My mum finds our relationship quite comforting in a strange way and doesn't worry about me when I am with him, like she has done with the boys my age who have been trouble in the past.
And I'm crazy about kids and although he's had 2 children (who are now grown up) with his wife who he is now separated from, he is looking forward to starting a new family with me.
well would love to hear from anyone who has any thoughts on the matter.
love from natalia

I think that it is nice that you found a nice man who loves you. Although the age difference may seem big, if he takes care of himself (and he seems to do that) he can be healthy and happy for many many many years and make you happy too. I am glad your family is not giving you any grief like is the case in many other relationships in this forum.
About children... there are couples where both are the same age and they still do not want or cannot have children, so if it is not an issue for you, there should be no problem there either.

:)

I wouldn't worry about your ages. More if you get along or not. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for more than 2 years now, she's 22 and I'm 37. And we love it.

We have had to learn how to ignore a lot of comments, but we are happy. Like you, her mom is happy we are together, but I did take her dad a while to accept the fact. As long as you make each other happy, age doesn't matter.

Lucky Girl! I wish that my parents were as nice as yours are. Good for you and I hope that it continues to be happy for you.

I think it sounds fabulous and I hope 4 you many blessings. My girlfriend is married 2 someone 28 years older than she, they've been married 11 years and are total lovebirds! :)

Thank you very much to everyone who replied to my message. I almost didn't check for replies incase what people had put was negative, but I'm very glad I did now because all the replies have been so very nice. My mum read the messages too and said how small it makes the world feel communicating with people from England in the U.K. to places like L.A. and panama. Thanx again, from Nat
p.s. to Adriael- I notice you're in a realtionship with a similar age gap to me. I wish you the best of luck with it and I'm sorry you're having trouble with your parents and best of luck to everybody else too. luv Nat.

Amen! If I had to rate these posts, I'd give yours four stars! Congratulations on your relationship and the happiness you've found with your man! It's refreshing to hear someone come here to extol the virtues of the man she's found, express her happiness and share such inspiration. Unlike others who worry about parents, friends, what other people think, and tell horror stories about family members who shut them out (and some of those women are in their thirties!). I hope it all goes well for you and you find a lifetime of happiness together! Keep us posted.

ohh thank you SummerBob! I will have to show all these replies to my boyfriend because he sometimes worries about the age gap between us and the problems is might cause, and these posts of yours and everybody elses have made me feel much better about it, and I'm sure they'll do the same for him. I might print them out and put them in a little book if you don't mind, to remind us that there are people out there who think our relationship could work and sounds good. thanks very much. luv nat.

I think you should enjoy your happiness in finding a man who shares your interest and disregard "opinions" people have.

The godmother of my wife married at the age of 50 a man who was 25. As you can guess there were lot of opnions about and if it should hold. Here opinion were "better to have five years of happiness than no happiness at all". After 40 years of marriage she became a widow (he died at the age of 65 and she lived until she was 95)!!

Be happy!

I will have to show all these replies to my boyfriend because he sometimes worries about the age gap between us and the problems is might cause, and these posts of yours and everybody elses have made me feel much better about it, and I'm sure they'll do the same for him.

That's funny that you said that, Natalia. Even though my boyfriend has never posted on agelesslove or spent any significant time on the site, I did once direct him here so that he could take a look at my "online support group." Whenever I'm feeling down about our relationship, I look at ageless love and it makes me so incredibly happy to know that there's people in my position and people who will support me and my decisions. He was impressed with the site and what some of the people had to say.

Good luck with your relationship! I also wish my parents were as easy-going about your relationship as mine. They know, but I've never verbally admitted to it because my mother has basically said (in slightly different words) "If you ARE dating him, you better be ready to face my wrath." Fun, huh?

Katie

Natalia and KTVIE--

My boyfriend also, though he has never posted reads the threads on this site. He likes to read what I and others have to say about our age gap relationships. It is comforting for him and has really helped me get through a lot of my anxiety and feeling of isolation. I thought I was the only one my age who had gotten themselves into such a hairy predicament and its nice to know I am not alone. I am so happy I found this site. So Natalia, I def. reccommend showing your boyfriend all the encouraging posts that people have written in reponse to your story. Thanks for your concern about my situation as well. I wish you the best! And, Katie I also wish for your future happiness. I really appreciated your post on the thread I started. I hope that if/when your parents do find out it wont be as bad as you anticipate. You might just want to face the music, they will be mad at first but my family is slowly coming around and they truly used to think my OM was an evil person who had used mind control techniques to woo me into bed with him. So anyway, I pray the best for you both and anyone else who might be in this kind of situation.

Katie,

I meant when your parents know for sure, as in you admitting it....just to clarify.

I think it's important to have someone to talk to, I am trying to get my girlfriend to check this out. I think there is more pressure on her because of our relationship. But I am glad I stumbled on this site.

ohh thank you SummerBob! I will have to show all these replies to my boyfriend because he sometimes worries about the age gap between us and the problems is might cause, and these posts of yours and everybody elses have made me feel much better about it, and I'm sure they'll do the same for him. I might print them out and put them in a little book if you don't mind, to remind us that there are people out there who think our relationship could work and sounds good. thanks very much. luv nat.

Please feel free to print out and save any or all of my posts. I'm here because for years I suffered the pain of worrying about my younger age preference and how people would react to it. I finally met my wife, from the Philippines, through a penpal club. I was 35 and she 20 when we married, and we've been together for 12 happy years! Because I know what it's like to worry about age and feel rejection because of it, I wanted to help others overcome their anxiety about it. So I found ageless and have been, hopefully, encouraging and inspiring people to live life and seek their happiness. If either you or your boyfriend want to PM me, please feel welcome to and we can chat some more. Good luck to ya!

He's the head teacher of the law and politics department at the sixthform college I went to. He didn't teach me ( I studied Science subjects) but he taught my best friend and I met him through her at the local pub. I like him for many different reasons. We enjoy doing the same things, staying in at night, reading poetry to each other, board games, learning the flute together and I play the piano, cooking together, organic gardening, enjoying each other's company and I especially like all the interesting stories he has to tell me about his life. He brings a lot of happiness into my life, because instead of going out and boozing, which makes me depressed, we go on walks through the countryside. I'm someone who gets very depressed by towns and needs to do hobbies to take me out of myself and having someone like this, who does these things that keep me happy is good for me.

Natalia, sounds like things are off to a wonderful start! Men like your boyfriend...at any age...are hard to come by, and my prayer is that things will continue to grow in your relationship.

he is reliable, curteous, safe, generous, considerate and my quality of life goes up ten fold when I'm with him. The people my age have no real interest in my interests. I've had a very dysfunctional life up until now, thrill seeking, reckless, living in the fast lane, and now what i crave is routine and normality to keep me sane, and have a chance of true happiness. I now have someone who i can relax and do the hobbies I enjoy with, live in harmony together and totally be myself around.

Sometimes I have seen this even in my own social interaction with people...when my wife and I met, we both came from very different backgrounds and life circumstances. Again, it sounds like this is a man who will compliment your life hundredfold, and I am very glad for you.

I live with my parent's at the moment. But we are going to move in together soon. My dad hasn't said much on it. My mum finds our relationship quite comforting in a strange way and doesn't worry about me when I am with him, like she has done with the boys my age who have been trouble in the past.
And I'm crazy about kids and although he's had 2 children (who are now grown up) with his wife who he is now separated from, he is looking forward to starting a new family with me.

I am glad your parents seem to be well-receptive of the two of you. It took a while for our families to accept the fact my wife and I fell in love and eventually got married. I think your mother appreciates the maturity of your boyfriend, and thus feels more comfortable (don't consider it strange - be glad your mother accepts him) than she did with the other men in your life. As for children...I understand he has children from a former marriage, and sometimes they can be very resistant to a new relationship. They were used to their father and mother being together, and sometimes change can be difficult. However, the choice is between you and your boyfriend; do not let parents, siblings, or kids get in the way. My prayers are with both of you!