The Old Flame Came Back

Hey Everyone,

Remember the 48 year old OW who I dated a whhile back, and let go of?

Well, she tried to come back into my life this past weekend.

She found me on AOL last Thursday. She kept saying how much she missed me, and soon the chat turned into sex as the only topic of conversation. She said she wanted to meet and have dinner one night, and perhaps go swimming at the swim club where I have membership.

But at least 90% of teh conversation was sex-related stuff.

I e-mailed her Sunday night (yesterday), telling her I didn't thhink it was a good idea if we met again. I said sex is the only thing that would come out of it... it'd only be about fulfilling our fleshy desires.

She replied back to me today, saying I need to get my head out of the gutter. For her, she said she was only interested in spending time with someone who has "common interests" as she does.

Go figure.

I just wanted to share that with someone. Thanks for letting me vent.

Adam

Awww gee.....what's with all the Adams around this joint? Makes me miss mine. :(

Well, I don't know much about your prior relationship with this woman, but was the sexual chemistry always so hot that your conversations turned to sex? I've had relationships like that where it seemed like no matter how many things we discussed that were truly intellectually stimuating we couldn't help but turn the topic to sex. Probably because if you intellectually stimulate me everything else gets stimulated, but I'm weird like that. :p

My feelings about your post lead me to believe that your relationship was not very good and that you really don't want to spend time with her. In that case don't. My impression is that you are not into meaningless sex and I admire you for walking away from an obvious opportunity at 'getting some'.

You sound a great deal like me in that you are looking for that explosive chemistry where physicality is secondary. You want a communion of soul, mind and body and wouldn't find satisfaction in a hollow encounter. Keep looking and I know you'll find it. You did the right thing. *nods sagely*

I agree...when the only topic of conversation continuously turns around to be sexual in nature its a complete turn off for me as well.

Stick to you plans...you are a great inspiration for other ym here and outside who truly know the meaning of a gentleman of great intellect to a lady of great worth. another will come, trust me... I'm proud of you and so will she.

Paris

awhi~

I think you sensed before that this woman was only interested in sex... if that is not what you want, ignore her. I wouldn't even reply to her when she contacts you online.

You all are right...

You know what my mistake was? Keep talking to her in the first place.

I certainly won't happen again!

And thank you all for your support.

Adam