first date and Im nervous

Well..as some of you probably, well maybe, remember, when I first joined this forum a couple months ago I was just out of a devastating break up with a man who had promised me, of many things, he'd never hurt me...and in the end he did, not by the break up itself, but by the pure cowardice and nastyness he used.
You all were just so wonderful and gave me loads of advice...it really uplifted my spirits to finally get to that "turning point" and begin the process of moving on..

Well, I put my profile in the Age.Match.com thingy up there ^^^ and a man winked at me almost immediately, I winked back...but neither of us were paying members...Next thing I know, I get a e-mail from him saying he joined specifically so he could contact me.... Anyway...we started slowly by e-mailing a few times a week to now talking on the phone whenever we get the chance. From the first time we talked he was so easy for me to talk too. We laugh and talk..he teases me because I am actually am extremely shy (not to be confused with opinionated which I am!) We have the same values in family and both believe our roles as parents are the most important thing in our lives we do. Its just a good feeling to have those butterflies again.

Anyway...we are meeting tomorrow night for the first time. He lives about 2 hours away, and is taking the afternoon off to meet me tomorrow evening for dinner and just see how it goes type thing. I should say he's 35 though he says he looks 45 (not seen a picture yet, but hes 6'3", blond and green eyes) and Im 45 but look 35.

Im way nervous, and the only real doubt I have just now about myself is my weight (I put on a few pounds since the picture I sent him). This is so terribly embarrassing to admit, but he sensed my nervousness tonight and was asking what I had to be nervous about...I just wanted to say Im afraid youll not like me because of my weight. (By the way I think I get this from those damn dating sites (you know like the one I met him in :confused: ) where all the men want younger barbi doll women.... Its battered my ego a bit). Im trying to keep positive though as this is really my only issue. Other then that I know Im just a really nice, pretty, shy lady and I hope he just sees that.

Anyway...thanks to everyone here to at least getting me to this point...and any words of encouragement will be accepted....

He's probably just as nervous since you have never seen a picture of him and you will be seeing him for the first time. Chin up, you sound like a person with a wonderful personality and a good heart and besides some people look better with an extra pound or two on them. ;) You'll do great just have confidence in yourself and he will be magnitized by your inner beauty as well as your outer beauty. Best of luck I hope everything works out! - Angel

Thank you Knightshine....

Im sure everything will be fine. I dunno...Im just at that really insecure area wondering if hell like me or not...he thinks Im foolish. We are meeting in town but Im pretty certain Ill invite him over after our dinner..well, he does have to drive me home. And now Ive got my vacuum out because every teeny spider web has now taken over the house... :eek: lolol

I feel like Im 16 again!

Well..as some of you probably, well maybe, remember, when I first joined this forum a couple months ago I was just out of a devastating break up with a man who had promised me, of many things, he'd never hurt me...and in the end he did, not by the break up itself, but by the pure cowardice and nastyness he used.
You all were just so wonderful and gave me loads of advice...it really uplifted my spirits to finally get to that "turning point" and begin the process of moving on..

Well, I put my profile in the Age.Match.com thingy up there ^^^ and a man winked at me almost immediately, I winked back...but neither of us were paying members...Next thing I know, I get a e-mail from him saying he joined specifically so he could contact me.... Anyway...we started slowly by e-mailing a few times a week to now talking on the phone whenever we get the chance. From the first time we talked he was so easy for me to talk too. We laugh and talk..he teases me because I am actually am extremely shy (not to be confused with opinionated which I am!) We have the same values in family and both believe our roles as parents are the most important thing in our lives we do. Its just a good feeling to have those butterflies again.

Anyway...we are meeting tomorrow night for the first time. He lives about 2 hours away, and is taking the afternoon off to meet me tomorrow evening for dinner and just see how it goes type thing. I should say he's 35 though he says he looks 45 (not seen a picture yet, but hes 6'3", blond and green eyes) and Im 45 but look 35.

Im way nervous, and the only real doubt I have just now about myself is my weight (I put on a few pounds since the picture I sent him). This is so terribly embarrassing to admit, but he sensed my nervousness tonight and was asking what I had to be nervous about...I just wanted to say Im afraid youll not like me because of my weight. (By the way I think I get this from those damn dating sites (you know like the one I met him in :confused: ) where all the men want younger barbi doll women.... Its battered my ego a bit). Im trying to keep positive though as this is really my only issue. Other then that I know Im just a really nice, pretty, shy lady and I hope he just sees that.

Anyway...thanks to everyone here to at least getting me to this point...and any words of encouragement will be accepted....

I've been internet dating for several years, and until just recently, casually. Every time I made a date I went through the same thing, and almost every time the comment I got was that my pictures didn't do me justice. I quit worrying about it. I posted recent pictures that show me as I am and the men that contacted me were men who liked me the way I am. Don't be embarrassed about your weight. I do suggest posting a current picture, because this is a number one complaint from men, that we don't look like the pictures we posted. Buy a cheap webcam and take some (the one i posted here was taken with a $10 webcam from walmart). Believe me there are going to be lots of men out there who like you as you are - they don't all want Barbie and they sure don't all want younger either.

As for feeling 16 - enjoy that too! For me that was the delicious thing about being out there dating again :)

You will do great, just remember that walking straight, chin up takes away like 10 pounds off somebody.

My experience is that people do not look like their pics or even their camming! Two dimensional is different than reality.

Best of luck!

I will be meeting my baby in 2 days and I have gained like 10 pounds. I did send him recent pictures of bigger me so he is prepared, but I am so nervous!!!! It is so difficult to keep the weight off when one gets older.

:(

P. S. This will be my 6th visit to him

I will be meeting my baby in 2 days and I have gained like 10 pounds. I did send him recent pictures of bigger me so he is prepared, but I am so nervous!!!! It is so difficult to keep the weight off when one gets older.

:(

P. S. This will be my 6th visit to him
Sheila - heed your own advice girlfriend ;) I see myself in your two posts though. I'm always harder on myself than I am on others when it comes to this weighty issue - baddd joke - I know! :rolleyes: I'm sure once you and your guy see each other at the airport or train station or wherever you'll be reuniting nothing will matter but looking in each other's eyes and a deep passionate kiss.

He's probably just as nervous since you have never seen a picture of him and you will be seeing him for the first time. Chin up, you sound like a person with a wonderful personality and a good heart and besides some people look better with an extra pound or two on them. ;) You'll do great just have confidence in yourself and he will be magnitized by your inner beauty as well as your outer beauty. Best of luck I hope everything works out! - Angel

Michele, I agree with Knight, a few extra pounds can be attractive; in fact skinny does not look good on a mature woman as extra fat can keep one plump and pretty!!! I wish you good luck! Be confident! Focus on your strengths and you'll feel stronger in your initial conversation. Take care!

Go enjoy yourself and have a good time. This is a first date, keep it light and fun. You never know what may happen, but whatever does happen you'll want to remember it as being a fun good time date.

Do your part to make it a fun good time and I'm sure it will turn out that way.

:)

Thanks Everyone....

I really got to give this weight insurity a rest! I did tell him though that Id gained 10 pounds since the picture he saw of me....He just really doesnt seem interested in my weight at all anyway. So why should I? He calls me all the time, at 6 am this morning....he calls me at work just to check in....calls me at home in the evening. Your all right...Im going to have a great time. Hes picking me up in town and we are going to the Pacific Ocean to a town called Bodega to have dinner at the Tides...(anyone remember the movie The Birds...?) And I dunno but he seems determined already that we are attracted to each other... :D

Well....only 4 hours left...Will I make it? Its a good thing Im busy at work today :rolleyes:


PS Deb and Skater...your both awesomely beautiful women....

Thanks Everyone....

I really got to give this weight insurity a rest! I did tell him though that Id gained 10 pounds since the picture he saw of me....He just really doesnt seem interested in my weight at all anyway. So why should I? He calls me all the time, at 6 am this morning....he calls me at work just to check in....calls me at home in the evening. Your all right...Im going to have a great time. Hes picking me up in town and we are going to the Pacific Ocean to a town called Bodega to have dinner at the Tides...(anyone remember the movie The Birds...?) And I dunno but he seems determined already that we are attracted to each other... :D

Well....only 4 hours left...Will I make it? Its a good thing Im busy at work today :rolleyes:


PS Deb and Skater...your both awesomely beautiful women....

Thank you so much and I agree w/ you about Deb! Have a wonderful time and make sure you're safe inviting him back 2 your place...let someone know to call you or something!! (Just being silly and watching out 4 ya! :) ) P.S. Let us know how it went!

Woo Hooo

First date and alls ok....We had just a fantastic time. First a drive to the ocean for dinner, then we (tried anyway) to watch the sunset, and back to my house for some more chat and talking (and a few snuggles). It was just a really nice time and Ive found myself waiting for his call today though I know when he left last night it was going to be a long day today for him. Thanks everyone for your support and in the end...he says hes totally attracted to me!

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