Dyesabel
06-18-2005, 08:32 PM
Hi, I met my 21 yr old ex-ym last year (I'm 38). We always get along great. We went out, hung out..until six months later on a conversation, he said I wasn't a real girlfriend but a friend with benefits. I turned off after that. He still kept in contact with me until he fell for a 19 yr old. I totally ended it after that, wished him happiness etc. 3 weeks later she dumped him and 2 weeks after that, he got in touch with me, told me what happened, that he was kinda heartbroken and frustrated that he can't find a girl his age who he gets along with as good as we did. I told him I was sorry for his pain. (my friends laugh every time I tell them this was what I said)
He got accepted as correctional officer (his first real full time job) and before going to the academy training, he invited me to go to the target range with him. I accepted, we met there, had a good time. He walked me to the car, gave me a hug, saying we gotta hang out some more, he always has a good time with me, it's been so long. Online or in person, I avoided sex topics in our conversations since broke up. We kept it clean.
He went through 6 weeks of graveyard shift and full time school so there were days he wasnt sleeping over 24 hours, at least once a week. He chatted with me alot those times, how tired he was, what should he do better to manage his time...I was all supporting him, and at the end of it, I gave him props for surviving that tough 6 weeks.
Last Thursday online, he said he started physical training at the academy and he was sore. I told him he should get a massage. Then he asked, 'if I come visit you on saturday, will you give me a massage?' (I used to give him massages.) Not taking him seriously, I joked and said 'yeah..i'll use ben gay.' When he seemed serious, I asked him what he was trading me for the massage. He said he'll think of something.
Friday night, he leaves me another online msg asking me if I had plans saturday night. I said no. Then he says, 'I'll call you tomorrow, see what you're up to.' Saturday comes..didn't hear from him the whole day. I know he did some errands during the day. When I checked his AIM msg at 7:30 pm, it said he was at the gym.
So I said screw it, I went to my friend's house and had dinner. At 9:45 pm he calls me saying he's driving down to my city to get stuff from his apartment and did I want him to come over with a movie? I said you were the one who asked to visit..I asked him how late he intended to get over here. He said midnight. That's when I said no, wished him goodnight and hung up the phone.
I was disappointed but I didn't say anything else. Monday however, I couldn't take it anymore, I left him online msgs while he was at the academy. In the msgs, I said going to the target range was cool, midnight visits were not cool, that's reserved for boyfriends. Then I said he should go to a day spa if he wants a massage, maybe if he shells out $80, he'll appreciate the missed opportunity for a $15 dinner he couldve taken me to.
I also said that I care about him cuz I know what he's gone through. But he doesn't see it. I said he takes girls who break his heart to dinner and movies and what does a friend who listened through his tough times get? A booty call.
I haven't talked to him nor have I heard from him since Monday. I miss the jerk. But I'm also upset that he thought so little of me when I was there for him.
Ahh, we live and we learn...thanks for listening.
Josephine
He got accepted as correctional officer (his first real full time job) and before going to the academy training, he invited me to go to the target range with him. I accepted, we met there, had a good time. He walked me to the car, gave me a hug, saying we gotta hang out some more, he always has a good time with me, it's been so long. Online or in person, I avoided sex topics in our conversations since broke up. We kept it clean.
He went through 6 weeks of graveyard shift and full time school so there were days he wasnt sleeping over 24 hours, at least once a week. He chatted with me alot those times, how tired he was, what should he do better to manage his time...I was all supporting him, and at the end of it, I gave him props for surviving that tough 6 weeks.
Last Thursday online, he said he started physical training at the academy and he was sore. I told him he should get a massage. Then he asked, 'if I come visit you on saturday, will you give me a massage?' (I used to give him massages.) Not taking him seriously, I joked and said 'yeah..i'll use ben gay.' When he seemed serious, I asked him what he was trading me for the massage. He said he'll think of something.
Friday night, he leaves me another online msg asking me if I had plans saturday night. I said no. Then he says, 'I'll call you tomorrow, see what you're up to.' Saturday comes..didn't hear from him the whole day. I know he did some errands during the day. When I checked his AIM msg at 7:30 pm, it said he was at the gym.
So I said screw it, I went to my friend's house and had dinner. At 9:45 pm he calls me saying he's driving down to my city to get stuff from his apartment and did I want him to come over with a movie? I said you were the one who asked to visit..I asked him how late he intended to get over here. He said midnight. That's when I said no, wished him goodnight and hung up the phone.
I was disappointed but I didn't say anything else. Monday however, I couldn't take it anymore, I left him online msgs while he was at the academy. In the msgs, I said going to the target range was cool, midnight visits were not cool, that's reserved for boyfriends. Then I said he should go to a day spa if he wants a massage, maybe if he shells out $80, he'll appreciate the missed opportunity for a $15 dinner he couldve taken me to.
I also said that I care about him cuz I know what he's gone through. But he doesn't see it. I said he takes girls who break his heart to dinner and movies and what does a friend who listened through his tough times get? A booty call.
I haven't talked to him nor have I heard from him since Monday. I miss the jerk. But I'm also upset that he thought so little of me when I was there for him.
Ahh, we live and we learn...thanks for listening.
Josephine