Dem
06-18-2005, 09:28 PM
I've worked with this guy for 2 years now, and have exchanged interesting conversation and titillating little bits of chitchat with him sporadically throughout that time. Months passed, I thought he'd gotten married, I got out of a long relationship, more months passed. A couple of weeks ago I asked him for a tiny piece of advice about a topic on which he is an expert.
Somehow that request has turned into a full-on flirtation/seduction/obsession. He's not married and from the sound of it is about to break up with his girlfriend. I'm just about over my own breakup, which incidentally was horrible. We have suddenly gone from "hihowareya" cube neighbors to lunchtime intimates swapping personal histories, exploring political and moral beliefs, offering practical advice, and oh yes, having dizzyingly racy conversations. Just in generalities, of course, nothing personal. He's started touching me, in low-threat areas (shoulders, upper back) but in a comradely way, you understand. I don't touch back, mainly because I don't trust myself not to throw him to the ground and rip his clothes off. I sense his thoughts are running along the same track. In short, it's a major flareup.
He'd be wrestling with girlfriend problems with or without my influence, so I give myself a pass there. I won't get much more involved in our "friendship" until he sorts his girlfriend issues out; I'm not a poacher and I don't share, nor do I expect anyone else to do so. In addition to his confusion about his girlfriend, though, I sense he's confused and ambivalent about his attraction to me. I'd like to address that, but it's a little tough because everything's so comradely and on the up-and-up, on the surface at least. But I have 13 years on him, and I know when a guy's torqued up. Also when I'm torqued up.
Anyone been there, done this? All advice, hints, commentary or other would be much appreciated.
Somehow that request has turned into a full-on flirtation/seduction/obsession. He's not married and from the sound of it is about to break up with his girlfriend. I'm just about over my own breakup, which incidentally was horrible. We have suddenly gone from "hihowareya" cube neighbors to lunchtime intimates swapping personal histories, exploring political and moral beliefs, offering practical advice, and oh yes, having dizzyingly racy conversations. Just in generalities, of course, nothing personal. He's started touching me, in low-threat areas (shoulders, upper back) but in a comradely way, you understand. I don't touch back, mainly because I don't trust myself not to throw him to the ground and rip his clothes off. I sense his thoughts are running along the same track. In short, it's a major flareup.
He'd be wrestling with girlfriend problems with or without my influence, so I give myself a pass there. I won't get much more involved in our "friendship" until he sorts his girlfriend issues out; I'm not a poacher and I don't share, nor do I expect anyone else to do so. In addition to his confusion about his girlfriend, though, I sense he's confused and ambivalent about his attraction to me. I'd like to address that, but it's a little tough because everything's so comradely and on the up-and-up, on the surface at least. But I have 13 years on him, and I know when a guy's torqued up. Also when I'm torqued up.
Anyone been there, done this? All advice, hints, commentary or other would be much appreciated.