Whatever

First I want 2 thank you all for your support in my last thread. Well u all know my dilemma; my new guy has wanted to go all the way and I have been holding back. Well last night we had a heart 2 heart and to sum it up I said if I were to be with anyone they would have to be a boyfriend, not just f buddies, not down for that. Anyway he said "We're close to that." This was surprising because he has really been attentive and been acting like a boyfriend. But, whatever. I'm so glad I held on to what I believe and didn't give in. Also sometimes when he's with me late like at midnight his phone will ring and he won't answer it. The other day he had a stamp on his hand and said he went to a piano bar. Piano bar with a bunch of dudes? I think not. I asked him if we should date other people and he said no but whatever. At this point I'm not going 2 answer my phone if he calls because when he said "We're close to that." It totally pi**ed me off. There are lots of girls who will give him what he wants so I think he should go be with them.

Skatergirl,
Im sorry to hear that sweetie....chin up. You stuck with what YOU feel is right and did not compromise your beliefs or convinctions.
If he gives you up, he's a much bigger jack-arse than you know.

((((hugs))))

Skatergirl,
Im sorry to hear that sweetie....chin up. You stuck with what YOU feel is right and did not compromise your beliefs or convinctions.
If he gives you up, he's a much bigger jack-arse than you know.

((((hugs))))

(tearing up) thanks sweetie... :)

I admire you sticking to your guns and having the guts to walk away . . . I'm not always strong enough to do that. It shows you truly honor yourself and don't compromise your values. There's a world of men out there who will believe you are worth the wait.

You rock, girl!

As far as the disappointment . . this too shall pass . . .

Good for you for sticking to your guns, but I *do* think you should tell him why you're angry with him when he calls (yes, that means you have to answer the phone). Let him tell you what he meant by his comments.

Sometimes people don't know how they come across and no one is a mind reader--so speak up girl and tell him!

After you've told him, if you still don't like him, then don't pick up the phone. ;)

if I were to be with anyone they would have to be a boyfriend, not just f buddies, not down for that. Anyway he said "Were close to that."

I'm not sure if you mean that when he said "We're close to that" meaning f-buddies or boyfriend. I too would much rather have a full-on boyfriend. Why is that so hard for these guys? Definitely HIS loss.

Skatergirl, I dont know you, but I have read your beautiful advice and wise words to others. Please, let us know how you are going to heal from this one. I know there are a few of us kinda in the same position. I really like my ym but I dont want to get "played" either. I just really backed off and stopped calling him all together. I thought it would be nice if us ladies who have had to end a relationship or are contemplating ending it could share their methods of healing and picking oneself back up.

First I want 2 thank you all for your support in my last thread. Well u all knows my dilemma; my new guy has wanted to go all the way and I have been holding back. Well last night we had a heart 2 heart and to sum it up I said if I were to be with anyone they would have to be a boyfriend, not just f buddies, not down for that. Anyway he said "Were close to that." This was surprising because he has really been attentive and been acting like a boyfriend. But, whatever. I'm so glad I held on to what I believe and didn't give in. Also sometimes when he's with me late like at midnight his phone will ring and he won't answer it. The other day he had a stamp on his hand and said he went to a piano bar. Piano bar with a bunch of dudes? I think not. I asked him if we should date other people and he said no but whatever. At this point I'm not going 2 answer my phone if he calls because when he said "We're close to that." It totally pi**ed me off. There are lots of girls who will give him what he wants so I think he should go be with them.


i'm sorry to hear that skatergirl. i think you're doing the right thing there.
wow, i remember your last post about your feelings whether you should holding back or not, so your inner instinct were trying to tell you something there...
"were're close to that" after been together since.... memorial day...? hello.....
stamp on his hand....this is a sign of "the red october" here....
well, this is just my humble opinion from a man's point of view.
you'll be ok.

seascent

I admire you sticking to your guns and having the guts to walk away . . . I'm not always strong enough to do that. It shows you truly honor yourself and don't compromise your values. There's a world of men out there who will believe you are worth the wait.

You rock, girl!

As far as the disappointment . . this too shall pass . . .

Thank you so much! Your words mean so much! Take care, Annie.

Good for you for sticking to your guns, but I *do* think you should tell him why you're angry with him when he calls (yes, that means you have to answer the phone). Let him tell you what he meant by his comments.

Sometimes people don't know how they come across and no one is a mind reader--so speak up girl and tell him!

After you've told him, if you still don't like him, then don't pick up the phone. ;)

Thanks girl. You know, he was pretty clear last night. And honestly, I don't want 2 talk to him. I need distance and space. If he is serious, he will make an effort. It was obvious how hard it was for me to open up 2 him, I was vulnerable. He made such a huge effort and then wasn't sure...um, no. He can explain to me. I'm history. Thank you so much though for your words! Take care, Annie.

I'm not sure if you mean that when he said "We're close to that" meaning f-buddies or boyfriend. I too would much rather have a full-on boyfriend. Why is that so hard for these guys? Definitely HIS loss.

Skatergirl, I dont know you, but I have read your beautiful advice and wise words to others. Please, let us know how you are going to heal from this one. I know there are a few of us kinda in the same position. I really like my ym but I dont want to get "played" either. I just really backed off and stopped calling him all together. I thought it would be nice if us ladies who have had to end a relationship or are contemplating ending it could share their methods of healing and picking oneself back up.

He meant we're close to being boyfriend and girlfriend. And this is after he has called me every day, been with me whenever I was free and asks me for sex every time we're together. What is that? Friends? So yes, I was kinda wondering if we had something real, but no! I guess not. Whatever.
What am I going to do? (You can do your own version of this :) )
1. Gymnastics'
2. Acting class
3. Writing class
4. Show love 2 my friends
5. Work on myself spiritually (A biggie)
6. Work on my career
7. Read philosophy. Right now I'm reading some of Bruce Lee's writings that are amazing.
8. Take care of myself
9. Get excited about the new person God will bring into my life
10. Just get simple again. Be grateful for this beautiful life and each new day, for one day they will be gone! Thank you for writing!

i'm sorry to hear that skatergirl. i think you're doing the right thing there.
wow, i remember your last post about your feelings whether you should holding back or not, so your inner instinct were trying to tell you something there...
"were're close to that" after been together since.... memorial day...? hello.....
stamp on his hand....this is a sign of "the red october" here....
well, this is just my humble opinion from a man's point of view.
you'll be ok.

seascent

Hey there! I know it doesn't seem like that long but we've been together enough to know and he's asked enough of me to wonder. Do you know what I mean? Thanks for writing! Annie. P.S. what is red october? :)

*Growls* Stupid.....*growls some more* I mean what do they think we're asking for? Marriage? All we want is a little committment. It's not as though we're asking for a pint of blood!

I'm sorry this has happened to you Skater, but I'm so proud that you have remained true to yourself and you have such an amazing spirit. I would have been so angry if he'd done this and you'd been intimate with him. It may have called for me hunting him down like the dog he is. *growls*

Skatergirl,
You do have an amazing spirit, and seem to have the ability to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and go on with life. I have enjoyed your posts so much, you are wise and energetic. I wish you the best.
Lisa

*Growls* Stupid.....*growls some more* I mean what do they think we're asking for? Marriage? All we want is a little committment. It's not as though we're asking for a pint of blood!

I'm sorry this has happened to you Skater, but I'm so proud that you have remained true to yourself and you have such an amazing spirit. I would have been so angry if he'd done this and you'd been intimate with him. It may have called for me hunting him down like the dog he is. *growls*

Thanks for making me laugh!!! :D You're so sweet! It's like you're reading my thoughts! I am not ready for marriage right now...just a boyfriend! Exactly! Believe me I wish him well and hold no ill will, but he just threw water on the fire! XOXO

Skatergirl,
You do have an amazing spirit, and seem to have the ability to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and go on with life. I have enjoyed your posts so much, you are wise and energetic. I wish you the best.
Lisa
Now I am tearing up again! Big hug! Thank you so much, your words warmed my heart! :rolleyes:

Hey there! I know it doesn't seem like that long but we've been together enough to know and he's asked enough of me to wonder. Do you know what I mean? Thanks for writing! Annie. P.S. what is red october? :)


Hey Annie!
yeah, i know what you mean! that's exactly what i mean when i said, since memorial day. To me, that is enough time for him to know since he'd been with you all those time. as i read your post about him i have a diff. sense of feeling about it too. i felt a lots of red signs there. i'm not really a psychic though.....lol....ommmm...
oh, red october is a movie. it's about a russian submarine during the coldwar with sean connery in it. I used the analogy of red october as to the big red signs about him.
anyway, congrats for come out clean from a potential ah.....you know what i mean.
pm me anytime if you feel like talking to someone! :)

seasent

He meant we're close to being boyfriend and girlfriend. And this is after he has called me every day, been with me whenever I was free and asks me for sex every time we're together. What is that? Friends? So yes, I was kinda wondering if we had something real, but no! I guess not. Whatever.
What am I going to do? (You can do your own version of this :) )
1. Gymnastics'
2. Acting class
3. Writing class
4. Show love 2 my friends
5. Work on myself spiritually (A biggie)
6. Work on my career
7. Read philosophy. Right now I'm reading some of Bruce Lee's writings that are amazing.
8. Take care of myself
9. Get excited about the new person God will bring into my life
10. Just get simple again. Be grateful for this beautiful life and each new day, for one day they will be gone! Thank you for writing!


I like your positive attitude. I'm sorry that it doesn't seem to be working out with that guy. He does seem more interested in using you for sex, based upon what you've said of him.

First I want 2 thank you all for your support in my last thread. Well u all know my dilemma; my new guy has wanted to go all the way and I have been holding back. Well last night we had a heart 2 heart and to sum it up I said if I were to be with anyone they would have to be a boyfriend, not just f buddies, not down for that. Anyway he said "We're close to that." This was surprising because he has really been attentive and been acting like a boyfriend. But, whatever. I'm so glad I held on to what I believe and didn't give in. Also sometimes when he's with me late like at midnight his phone will ring and he won't answer it. The other day he had a stamp on his hand and said he went to a piano bar. Piano bar with a bunch of dudes? I think not. I asked him if we should date other people and he said no but whatever. At this point I'm not going 2 answer my phone if he calls because when he said "We're close to that." It totally pi**ed me off. There are lots of girls who will give him what he wants so I think he should go be with them.


I'm sorry about what happened and I would of said the same thing as Raven. You are a beautiful woman inside and outside. Its HIS lost!
((((hug)))
Faith

Close ain't good enough Flipper!! Your instinct is right!! ;)

Skate....

You did the right thing! He just wants sex, from what you are telling us. I admire your strength of will and character and I love all the ways you will use to get through it. It doesn't sound like you were that invested emotionally anyway. :)

Best wishes!

I like your positive attitude. I'm sorry that it doesn't seem to be working out with that guy. He does seem more interested in using you for sex, based upon what you've said of him.

Thank you whiterose! I'm kinda relieved just seeing the truth!

I'm sorry about what happened and I would of said the same thing as Raven. You are a beautiful woman inside and outside. Its HIS lost!
((((hug)))
Faith
Big hug back and thank you! :)

Close ain't good enough Flipper!! Your instinct is right!! ;)

Thanks D, when you make it so simple like that, it's even more clear! xo

Skate....

You did the right thing! He just wants sex, from what you are telling us. I admire your strength of will and character and I love all the ways you will use to get through it. It doesn't sound like you were that invested emotionally anyway. :)

Best wishes!

No thank goodness, but I was starting to be so it's good 2 nip it in the bud! Thank you!

My new avatar was taken last night...this is something new I'm working on. (I need to point my toes more, lift my head & shoulders more and arch my back more. It helps to see it like this!!) I'm so glad that I made myself practice even though I was so down, I found my strength and was reminded that there is so much that I love in life and found that wholesome warm feeling.
Anyway he did call and I didn't answer, I just feel like what's the point. I know how he feels, and like DB said, close isn't good enough!

wow, i wish i could do that...i can see myself like ag ey ag trying to do that.....
and i'm glad for you that you've found that warm feeling.