How do you spice up your relationship?

Hello all,

My boyfriend of 1 1/2 mentioned that we are like an old couple and it's sometimes worrying. He says that we don't do much of the things we used to like dining out, going out etc. He suggested that we try to pretend we had never met and go on a date like a newbie. I agreed to this but he is yet to plan it.

I am concerned about such comments. We are unable to do spontaneous things as we are really restricted with time. We both study and don't have much time or money to do various things. But if we do go out it's due to my efforts, such as going out with friends.

What did you do when things were getting to be mundane and sparkles were starting to die and the sexual attraction wasn't strong anymore?

Thanks

Well, we haven't come close to things getting mundane and sparkles starting to die and the sexual attraction not being strong anymore...

... but that's because little surprises on both sides periodically are NECESSARY. YOU shouldn't be the only person doing things and if it is important that there be excitement for him, he'd be doing exciting things!

Do you live together? Because if you do, things like... leaving the bathroom door unlocked while you shower and/or mentioning that HE should and popping in on him while he's showering... :D Or getting dressed up for no reason, turning on some music and creating a romantic little atmosphere at home.

Or buying new underwear JUST for him and making it a point to tease him with little glimpses periodically... "hey bebbe..." *bat eyes and flash top of lacy new bra*

But, that will only go SO far if YOU are the only person rowing the romance boat. My last husband literally STOPPED caring about turning me on the second we got married and then complained our relationship wasn't exciting when he was deliberately doing everything in his power to repel me... :rolleyes:

I hope this helps and I'd definitely be disturbed by his complaining and then not doing anything to change the situation. That drives me insane. ;) But maybe a small, extra effort by you will feed the fire enough that it reminds him that the fire is still going and needs his attention.
~phos

I agree with Fos...you both should work on keeping the relationship exciting.

Recently, me and my man were home alone for a week. We did all kinds of thinks from me meeting him at the door naked, to him buying me a tiny NBA t-shirt and him requesting that I do cheers in it for him. Needless to say he missed watching the game that night. :)

Think of fun things for both of you to do. With my man, once he see's that I'm into doing fun things, he's easy to catch on and suggest something as well.

You guys may be a busy couple, but you have to take time out for the both of you every now and then. What about re-creating your first date or something thats special for the both of you.

Good luck

Things I have done to spice things up a bit....

- Knocked on his door with only my bra and panties on
- Dressed up as a naughty school girl (his favorite)
- When he said he was not feeling well and could not meet me for lunch, I brought him lunch and served him lunch in bed. I fed him myself and cared for all his needs :) I can't say this was my idea, he has done the same for me before...
- I also cared for him while I was dressed as a nurse...Every Man's Fantasy!!!

I think roleplaying is a great way of spicing things up. All you need is a little imagination!

Debbie

Oh boy Deb!! HONK HONK!! :p ;) :cool:

That's one of my main beefs about my ex. He wouldn't initiate or plan anything fun and when I had to do it all the time, then it became anything but fun. He would never arrange babysitting or take me out of the house yet expected me to be happy in my cabin-fevered state with screaming babies constantly attached to my breasts.

Oh well. Be glad you're not there!

Some of the things that my boyfriend does when we get to see each other is that he makes my breakfast in the morning and then knowing that I am in a much nicer mood after eating and being caffienated, he takes me up and gets the shower ready for us and we begin our morning exploring each other from head to toe in the shower.

It's a nice way to start the day for someone who's not used to being pampered and who is also not a morning person at all.

Plus, it sets the mood for the rest of the day and that mood is :p :p :p