Dating older women

Hi,

I just started dating an older lady. We have know each other for abou three years now, she is 42 and I'm 28. She is one of most beautiful human beings I have ever met both inside and out.

My problem is that she feels that we dont have a chance because of the age difference, also, she comes from an upscale social position and fears what people may think of her. She is a very succesful woman and lots of men ask her out. I have managed to get her attention and been out a few times, I have refrained myself from going beyond the flirting and little touching, though, I know i can go beyond.

I would like some advice, because I feel I could start to annoy her if I call her too much or push her to talk to me and stuff.

I'm still new to this group but I'm learning fast & I'll try to help. I WAS the older woman who didn't take the younger man's interest seriously, & I'm advising from the perspective of how MY eyes & heart were opened.

Social stereotypes, peer pressure & ignorance caused my barriers, but I got to know my guy as a friend & was shocked to learn that I actually like him, so I wanted to find the truth about just how realistic & acceptable ow/ym age gaps are. If you have conficence that it's just a minor detail, it may rub off on her. If SHE believes it's just a minor detail, it will rub off on her friends. I found these 4 links more reassuring than I'd even hoped:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/3679116

http://www.canllaw-online.com/fe/news/news_details.asp?NewsID=2892

http://www.couplescompany.com/Advice/Whaling/peterpan1.htm

http://www.evanescence.co.uk/forum/viewtopic.php?t=3692&highlight=&sid=94e5311b13b68f73fc411337c64fa355

Now consider any personal issues (recent break-up, do men use her, does she feel "old?," etc.). Also consider the circumstances that brought you two to a dating status. You need to compare compatibility & goals after any relationship goes somewhere, & that can be a bit more involved with age gaps.

She may assume you want to be her sugar baby. She may think ow/ym age gaps are altogether taboo, which is NOT true: they're just less common in history. If you're trying to win her affection & gain her trust, the LAST thing you should be concerned with is that you could "go beyond" flirting & touching. If she doesn't take you seriously, that will REALLY make her think of you as a toy boy.

If you really like HER, stick around & be patient & when the chance to discuss it arises, talk but don't press the issue like it's a case in court. If you've known her 3 years, she'll probably be there for a while. Even if she dates other guys, she may choose you if you impress her with patience & maturity.