Ev3nflow
07-11-2005, 12:54 PM
I met this girl at work, she's 23. She's been depressed saying that no guy will ever care for her enough to put a ring on her finger. She currently works in EMS and just went for an interview for a second job as an admin assistant. Plus she wants to go to Med school.
She has this crazy idea in her head to adopt a kid. But working two jobs or working a job and going to school, hell even just working EMS you're not going to see your child that often. And if she is depressed about being in a relationship then I guess she needs to work on that first.
She wants to be a single mother and I applaud her for it, but she needs to get her priorities straight.
My question is - what can I tell her that would make her realize this?
deb100855
07-11-2005, 12:58 PM
Nothing. You can't tell her anything. If she tries to adopt the adoption agency will determine if she will be a fit parent or not.
fos4snt
07-11-2005, 07:36 PM
Exactly... let her feel her way through the process. If you get seriously concerned about her depression, then you might need to intervene. Phossy guesses that being turned down by adoption agencies will be as big a blow to her ego as being turned down by guys! :eek: In which case, just be there for her Help her get counseling or call her folks or whatever you need to do to ensure she addresses the root of her problems ~ her depression!!
Good luck. Sounds like you're concerned for her and you might want to let her know you are there for her should she need you. Seems like a cry for help, but that's just my instinct.
You cannot validate yourself through others... is she in counseling???
~phos
MerAlove23
07-12-2005, 10:04 PM
Nothing. You can't tell her anything. If she tries to adopt the adoption agency will determine if she will be a fit parent or not.
I agree with this..... Nothing you can say or do... Just if your her friend be that... it's ok to tell her your concerns but it is her decision... just be there for her
Ev3nflow
07-13-2005, 04:37 PM
Well everyone, thanks for your help. But she has decided not to talk to me via phone or text messaging.
I can honestly tell you that there was nothing I did or said to her that would make her do this - and I never mentioned anything about the child. The last thing I heard her say was "I'll see you tomorrow" and that was that.
So i'm not going to let her just use my shoulder to cry on if she won't ev3n return my calls. But thanks again for the advice.
