kathyw
07-18-2005, 04:59 PM
AND YET ANOTHER STUPID ARTICLE BY AN OLDER MAN REPORTER CONDEMNING WOMEN AND THE ATTRACTION THEY HAVE FOR YOUNGER MEN (and yes folks...he is older..he looks to be about 65 in his online photo) :rolleyes:
Monday, July 18, 2005
Her Internet dream man could end up a nightmare
TOM BLAKE
Register columnist
SINGLE AGAIN
TPBlake@aol.com
"I've been cyber-seduced," a 68-year-old woman wrote, possibly coining a new Internet dating buzzword.
She explained: "I've been on the Internet for six months. I'm apparently attractive to men 20 years younger. I've developed a cyber- relationship with a man, 51, who lives on the East Coast."
Her comment raises a red flag. Why would a man living 3,000 miles away be interested in a woman 17 years older, when most single men his age are searching for women 15 to 20 years younger? But there's more:
"We have never met, and get this: I tell him things I probably would never say in person. Now we seem to even know what the other thinks, and this is without seeing each other."
Sounds like a page from the book "Amazon Beaming," communicating via extra sensory perception. The Internet is like a shield. People aren't talking face-to-face, so they're more relaxed and tend to reveal personal information they wouldn't reveal facing each other.
This could be embarrassing if they eventually meet and she finds she doesn't want to be with him. And it could be financially costly if she reveals personal asset information. And even dangerous, if he's a whacko.
She added, "He was supposed to come to California on Memorial Day weekend and guess what? His gallbladder burst."
Another red flag. Hey, maybe his gallbladder did pop. But, I doubt it. And if it didn't, give him credit for offering a creative excuse. But signs indicate that he is leading this senior woman on, and when the call for reality came, he didn't answer it.
She continued, "Never thought I would get involved emotionally with someone I have not met in person. I'm even turning other men away because of my fantasy man. We are both attracted to each other in a very intimate way. I always considered intimacy only for marriage, but if I am not interested in marriage, does that mean I can never have sex again in my life?"
When Mr. Gallbladder recovers enough to visit her, she's planning to be intimate with him. She's talked herself into it with his help. I'm sure he led her down this path; it's all a part of his scheme. She's right about one thing: He's a fantasy man, and that's all.
Internet dating has created a new problem, particularly for seniors who are lonely. They fall in love with an image, not with a real person. They want so desperately to love and be loved they create an image of a complete stranger in their minds and mold it into whatever fantasy they want. They think they're in love, they're ready for sex, they spend months cultivating the relationship without ever facing reality by seeing their image in the flesh.
And the problem with that? They've leaving themselves open to heartbreak and financial risk. Not to mention the amount of time they're wasting, and the other opportunities they're missing. Let's hope she comes to her senses before it's too late.
Yup, she's been cyber-seduced all right, but perhaps a more accurate term would be cyber-duped. No matter what you call it, it's not good, and naïve older women need to avoid situations similar to hers.
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GRRRRRRRRRRRRR that's all I can say is GRRRRRRRRR :mad:
Monday, July 18, 2005
Her Internet dream man could end up a nightmare
TOM BLAKE
Register columnist
SINGLE AGAIN
TPBlake@aol.com
"I've been cyber-seduced," a 68-year-old woman wrote, possibly coining a new Internet dating buzzword.
She explained: "I've been on the Internet for six months. I'm apparently attractive to men 20 years younger. I've developed a cyber- relationship with a man, 51, who lives on the East Coast."
Her comment raises a red flag. Why would a man living 3,000 miles away be interested in a woman 17 years older, when most single men his age are searching for women 15 to 20 years younger? But there's more:
"We have never met, and get this: I tell him things I probably would never say in person. Now we seem to even know what the other thinks, and this is without seeing each other."
Sounds like a page from the book "Amazon Beaming," communicating via extra sensory perception. The Internet is like a shield. People aren't talking face-to-face, so they're more relaxed and tend to reveal personal information they wouldn't reveal facing each other.
This could be embarrassing if they eventually meet and she finds she doesn't want to be with him. And it could be financially costly if she reveals personal asset information. And even dangerous, if he's a whacko.
She added, "He was supposed to come to California on Memorial Day weekend and guess what? His gallbladder burst."
Another red flag. Hey, maybe his gallbladder did pop. But, I doubt it. And if it didn't, give him credit for offering a creative excuse. But signs indicate that he is leading this senior woman on, and when the call for reality came, he didn't answer it.
She continued, "Never thought I would get involved emotionally with someone I have not met in person. I'm even turning other men away because of my fantasy man. We are both attracted to each other in a very intimate way. I always considered intimacy only for marriage, but if I am not interested in marriage, does that mean I can never have sex again in my life?"
When Mr. Gallbladder recovers enough to visit her, she's planning to be intimate with him. She's talked herself into it with his help. I'm sure he led her down this path; it's all a part of his scheme. She's right about one thing: He's a fantasy man, and that's all.
Internet dating has created a new problem, particularly for seniors who are lonely. They fall in love with an image, not with a real person. They want so desperately to love and be loved they create an image of a complete stranger in their minds and mold it into whatever fantasy they want. They think they're in love, they're ready for sex, they spend months cultivating the relationship without ever facing reality by seeing their image in the flesh.
And the problem with that? They've leaving themselves open to heartbreak and financial risk. Not to mention the amount of time they're wasting, and the other opportunities they're missing. Let's hope she comes to her senses before it's too late.
Yup, she's been cyber-seduced all right, but perhaps a more accurate term would be cyber-duped. No matter what you call it, it's not good, and naïve older women need to avoid situations similar to hers.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
To comment, e-mail TPBlake@aol.com or write Tom Blake, P.O. Box 442, Dana Point, CA 92629. For a list of O.C. singles activities, go to www.findingloveafter50.com and scroll to the link at the bottom of the page.
Copyright 2005 The Orange County Register | Contact us | Privacy policy | User agreement
Freedom Communications, Inc.
GRRRRRRRRRRRRR that's all I can say is GRRRRRRRRR :mad: