Procrastinates ----

I dont know if this is an issue with me or my y/m,(28 yrs old) but it seems that he's a person that procrastinates. He'll put off doing even the smallest things at times.

Example....We needed a new TV for our bedroom upstairs. We purchased a TV and he brought it in the house and left it sitting in the living room for over a week. I then asked him to take it upstairs. He took it upstairs and said I'll connect it......that was over a week ago. The new TV is still sitting in the box in our bedroom.

Example...We're going on a cruise next month. I told him over a month ago to locate his birth certificate. He said I'll get it, dont worry. I've asked almost every other day and he'll say I'll get it. Now its three weeks away and no birth certificate. So now he's stressed over trying to get it from the state he was born in and there's extra cost involved. So now he wants me to assist him.

Example...He got his registration sticker for his car. But yet he left the old sticker on the car. We're going down the street a month later and I asked him if he got the new sticker and he said yes, its in the backseat. I asked why havent you put it on yet. Oh I'll do it. He went around for weeks after then before he put the sticker on.

These may be small things, but they can cause undue stress. I'm not a person that puts off doing things so me seeing him do this bothers me. I mentioned it to him before and he was in complete denial. When I gave him examples of his procrastination, he just said Oh. well I'll do better. I've still seen no improvement.

I'm trying to avoid being fussy about this because I think that men should be able to handle things when they say they will. But he needs to improve.

I wish I had advice for ya... but I don't. My ex-procrastinator... is an ex. :o *shrug* It only got worse as time went on and my resentments got bigger and bigger.

I remember one year, for my birthday, he got me an entertainment center. Man, it was schweet. Well, it had to be put together. Estimated build time, about an hour. No biggie, right? Well, when MOTHERS DAY Rolled around with this huge box sitting in my living room, I said... "Hon, for Mother's Day will you BUILD me the entertainment center you bought me for my birthday LAST YEAR?" (I was.. ah.. born in November.)

A week to get the TV upstairs really ain't bad, from my perspective. LOL.

And I admit, I literally wait until THE VERY LAST DAY to put my county sticker on. It helps, of course, that it has to be changed on my BIRTHDAY, so while I pay the tax bill and get the sticker LONG before then, it sits in my glove box until my birthday every year.

:D
~phos

I feel your pain, been there myself with my SO. I have to admit he's definetly become better but still room for improvement.

I think after awhile he just got tired of listening to me b--tch at him..lol :)

Ok Fos......I dont know I should feel better or worse now :eek:

I would die if my nice entertainment center was still sitting in a box months later. ..lol.

And you know better .... not putting your sticker on until the last minute...lol.

The bad part is that he thinks these things arent that big of an issue. But they sure burn me up at times. Its like he's going to do it, but doing it can take weeks.

And I'm totally different than he is, if I say that I'll do something its done right away.

I probably should have another talk to him about things, but I think I'll wait until he figures out how to solve the issue with the missing birth certificate. :(

I feel your pain, been there myself with my SO. I have to admit he's definetly become better but still room for improvement.

I think after awhile he just got tired of listening to me b--tch at him..lol :)

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How did you get him to get better .....besides the B--tching.. :)

and talking about how to better ourselves. He told me some things I could improve on and I promised to try if he did the same. A little give and take basically,
we have pretty good communication.

As a procrastinator myself I can tell you that you probably won't change one of us. We're just wired differently. We're the dreamers, the idea people of the world, and sometimes the day to day details can be, well, so "trivial" to us that they get overlooked.

One thing that has helped me is to have a TO DO list everyday and write even the stupidest things on it like watering the plants etc. The list should be very doable in regards to time and reasonable as far as expectation. Too many details will overwhelm us and we'll just put it ALL off! But it should be a list that MUST be completed THAT day! What has to be done the next day should not be on TODAY'S list as it will overwhelm and confuse us! I've learned to do the most trivial things first thing since it is the small things that are most likely to be put off until later. For people like me, if it's not on the list it will probably be either put off or forgotten! I will honestly procrastinate watering my plants until they die! Then I will put forth alot of energy and effort into trying to revive them!

Nagging does not help and makes us feel like you, the non procrastinators, think we are stupid. (we're not, our minds are just in other places! ) Sometimes we also perceive people who nag about these "little things" as finding the little trivial things in life more important than the "big" issues that are on OUR minds. We may also feel that you think you are "better" than we are when you try to change us! (You should never be in a relationship where you try to change the other person anyway!)

I do feel like it takes a special person to be compatible with a procrastinator. It takes someone with patience and an encouraging, not demeaning attitude. And although a procrastinator would be more "compatible" with another procrastinator, put two of us together and nothing will ever get done! At least not in a timely manner! So we do NEED all of you non-procrastinators out there! Just don't make us feel like we're inferior cuz we're not as on the ball with the day to day things as yall are! we might be busy trying to find a cure for cancer in our minds!

I will say that I do get better control over it as I get older, so perhaps your YM will too! I hope this little helps you to see things from the "other" side into the mind of those very frustrating people-the procrastinators of the world! :D

Star..........Thank You.... :)

Its good to see things from another perspective. You've made some very valid points. I couldnt see him with a person that procrastinates, they wouldnt get anything done. Ever !!.

But on the other hand, I dont want this to become a situation where I'm feeling resentment toward him for not completing things in a timely manner.

In my next talk with him about this I'm going to suggest the to do list. I'll see if he's open to that.

Thanks again for your views.

As a procrastinator myself I can tell you that you probably won't change one of us. We're just wired differently. We're the dreamers, the idea people of the world, and sometimes the day to day details can be, well, so "trivial" to us that they get overlooked.

One thing that has helped me is to have a TO DO list everyday and write even the stupidest things on it like watering the plants etc. The list should be very doable in regards to time and reasonable as far as expectation. Too many details will overwhelm us and we'll just put it ALL off! But it should be a list that MUST be completed THAT day! What has to be done the next day should not be on TODAY'S list as it will overwhelm and confuse us! I've learned to do the most trivial things first thing since it is the small things that are most likely to be put off until later. For people like me, if it's not on the list it will probably be either put off or forgotten! I will honestly procrastinate watering my plants until they die! Then I will put forth alot of energy and effort into trying to revive them!

Nagging does not help and makes us feel like you, the non procrastinators, think we are stupid. (we're not, our minds are just in other places! ) Sometimes we also perceive people who nag about these "little things" as finding the little trivial things in life more important than the "big" issues that are on OUR minds. We may also feel that you think you are "better" than we are when you try to change us! (You should never be in a relationship where you try to change the other person anyway!)

I do feel like it takes a special person to be compatible with a procrastinator. It takes someone with patience and an encouraging, not demeaning attitude. And although a procrastinator would be more "compatible" with another procrastinator, put two of us together and nothing will ever get done! At least not in a timely manner! So we do NEED all of you non-procrastinators out there! Just don't make us feel like we're inferior cuz we're not as on the ball with the day to day things as yall are! we might be busy trying to find a cure for cancer in our minds!

I will say that I do get better control over it as I get older, so perhaps your YM will too! I hope this little helps you to see things from the "other" side into the mind of those very frustrating people-the procrastinators of the world! :D

Excellent post, star!

OMG.... this is ME! LOL! I am definitely a procrastinator and a dreamer.... what she said here, miss b, is soooo true. I am Pisces and we tend to be this way because we are dreamers and tend to prefer to live in the clouds somewhere away from the harsh realities of life (where you put entertainment centers together, pay bills, water plants, etc.) Also, attention deficit disorder definitely can relate to procrastination because one gets sidetracked so easily.

Aquarius-the other dreamer here! :)

I'm the same way, always have been, always will be I guess.

I decided about 10 years ago I wanted a bigger bed and went from full size to queen. That bed has been in the box for 10 years. Waiting for mattresses to be on sale, well, they're on sale all the time especially during the holiday but I couldn't see myself giving up on saving for a vacation than to buy mattresses.

My cousins kepted on me to take it out of the box and I didn't do so until last year when the continual flooding in my apartment cause the boxes to deterioate...lol.

I did buy a new bed and mattress for the guest room and then totally forgot to order the mattress for my bed from the same place as it was quite inexpensive.

I have an ac on the floor in the livingroom, been there for 2 years waiting for my brother to hook it up...I leave dishes in the sink for a couple of days, although I'm getting better at just washing them as I cook. And if something falls on the floor...paper, spoon, fork...I tend to leave it there until I get in the mood to pick it up.

Of cause I live alone and I don't have anyone on my case about anything. I think I'm a procrastinar now more then I was younger because I had a domineering mother who had to have things done yesterday and now I'm on my own and loving it, but a list for him may make it easier for him to get things done.

I never did a list because I always found I never knew where I put it once I put it down... :D

Paris

He's a Capricorn and I'm a Cancer..........so we're opposite of each other in many ways. Procrastination is just one of them :)

I'm the same way, always have been, always will be I guess.

I decided about 10 years ago I wanted a bigger bed and went from full size to queen. That bed has been in the box for 10 years. Waiting for mattresses to be on sale, well, they're on sale all the time especially during the holiday but I couldn't see myself giving up on saving for a vacation than to buy mattresses.

My cousins kepted on me to take it out of the box and I didn't do so until last year when the continual flooding in my apartment cause the boxes to deterioate...lol.

I did buy a new bed and mattress for the guest room and then totally forgot to order the mattress for my bed from the same place as it was quite inexpensive.

I have an ac on the floor in the livingroom, been there for 2 years waiting for my brother to hook it up...I leave dishes in the sink for a couple of days, although I'm getting better at just washing them as I cook. And if something falls on the floor...paper, spoon, fork...I tend to leave it there until I get in the mood to pick it up.

Of cause I live alone and I don't have anyone on my case about anything. I think I'm a procrastinar now more then I was younger because I had a domineering mother who had to have things done yesterday and now I'm on my own and loving it, but a list for him may make it easier for him to get things done.

I never did a list because I always found I never knew where I put it once I put it down... :D

Paris

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Wow......I never knew there were so many people like him out there ....lol

This is my first time being in a relationship with a procrastinator and its different, but I'm sure we can work thru it. He's a good man, just slow to do things.

Let's just hope he agrees to the list and will also agree to letting me pin it to his shirt everyday so he wont lose it....... :)

Capricorns are not usually, by right of the sign, procrastinators or dreamers. They're very grounded earth signs.

Might explain why it only took ONE week to get the TV upstairs and I bet if you said something today about hooking it up you wouldn't have to wait but another week. :D

A true dreamer/procrastinator, literally will wait until there is a fire under his butt before doing it or someone standing behind saying "HELLO, I SHOT THE STARTING GUN AN HOUR AGO!"

ROFLAO.

I use to be SO anal-retentive nitpicky clean and wash my dishes immediately after I ate. My first hubby cured me of that wretched disease. Now, I am happy to WAIT a few days until the laundry piles up REALLY high and the dishes are overflowing the sink and there is trash on the floor by the trashcan before I bother.

LOL
~phos

Capricorns are not usually, by right of the sign, procrastinators or dreamers. They're very grounded earth signs.

Might explain why it only took ONE week to get the TV upstairs and I bet if you said something today about hooking it up you wouldn't have to wait but another week. :D

A true dreamer/procrastinator, literally will wait until there is a fire under his butt before doing it or someone standing behind saying "HELLO, I SHOT THE STARTING GUN AN HOUR AGO!"

ROFLAO.

I use to be SO anal-retentive nitpicky clean and wash my dishes immediately after I ate. My first hubby cured me of that wretched disease. Now, I am happy to WAIT a few days until the laundry piles up REALLY high and the dishes are overflowing the sink and there is trash on the floor by the trashcan before I bother.

LOL
~phos
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He may not be one by his birth sign........but he is one. :eek:

Today he's called three times because of the birth certificate issue. It's time to pack and now he's in a panic and will have to pay extra in order to get it here in time for the trip. Thats so typical of him. Waiting until the last minute and now its rush rush rush.

I'll mention the TV again tonight......and we'll see just how long that big box sits in the bedroom...lol. I'll say in another two weeks we might be watching the NEW/OLD Tv by then.

Hey... I think the Birth Certificate thing is more a MAN thing than anything else. I really have only known maybe one or two men in my ENTIRE LIFE who didn't put stuff like that off until, literally, the very, very last minute. Seriously!!

;) Have a good time on your trip and relax and enjoy yourself!!
~phos

Thanks Fos.....I'm looking forward to it.

PS..Thanks for your wit and listening too :)

Ohhhh I'm a capricorn lol and I have a master's degree in Procrastination. If I absolutely have to get something done I do, just not in the way other people would do them.

It might be that the old TV still works. At least that's how I'd be viewing it. Maybe move it to another room, lesser used and move the new box/TV to that location. Take a black magic marker and make a face on it with a Hi and it might get the message across.

All my life I've done things differently than others. I still get the job done but it's caused problems before. One thing that helps is others realizing to just let me go at my own pace and schedule and routine. When they don't I don't stay very long, I leave before they get frustrated with me and I know they will eventually.

I've been known to leave the bathtub alone for days and then one night at 2 am be in there scrubbing away with headphones on. Or suddenly deciding at 6 am I don't like how the furniture looks and move everything around lol. Your guy sounds different, but if you leave funky funny notes around the house as reminders it'll make him laugh and think about it more. At least that often works with me.

Hope you get the procrastination kinks all worked out :)

Chessa~

POWER TO THE PROCRASTINATORS!

I just blame it on the California climate. :D

There's a saying, "Rome wasn't built in a day." It's an old saying. . .and a good one!

Well if we dug a little deeper into his full natal chart, perhaps we would find a reason for that procrastination! What is his moon sign and so on..... I bet there is something there. :p

I like that saying, Dave....it's a good one. What about "why do today what you can put off until tomorrow" or the famous words of Scarlet O'Hara, "I won't think about that today, I'll think about that tomorrow". ;)

I'm beginning to think the man is crazy now............. :eek:

After he ate and relaxed from work I said later tonight can you empty that water out of the cooler from the weekend. He said, ok. Within 2 minutes he got up and emptied the cooler and took it outside washed it out, then stored it in the garage.

Later I said.....hmmm I wonder how long the warrenty is on the new tv. Later he got up and went upstairs and opened the box dug out the warrenty stuff and gave it to me. Ok so now we have the box opened up.....but still sitting in the bedroom floor.

So some things he does right away....and others..they just sit and sit and sit....like the tv.

Couple of stories for you....

Last year (around about this time) I got mugged and my photocard driving license was taken along with my wallet. I STILL haven't got a new one. Thing about this is that I don't NEED it. I still have the paper documentation at home, which is what has to be produced at a police station if you're asked for it. So, the paperwork that needs to be sent off has sat there waiting for me to get to a photo booth to have a passport sized photo done to be sent along with it.

I can DEFINITELY procrastinate, and I often run out of time to ge things done because of it, but I do try my damned hardest not to do it when it affects other people.

And to prove it isn't age...

My dad got made redundant from work two years ago and only went back to a new job less than a year ago. He got quite a nice redundancy package, which meant he had plenty of money to fix all the things in the house that NEEDED doing. Like the conservatory, which had gone mouldy because it had been left too long. lol. And the kitchen. Well, instead of doing it whilst he was out of work and had plenty of time, he left it, and now he's had to put a new conservatory in and try to fit an entirely new kitchen, and do it around his hourse at work. It's meant living in a shell of a kitchen for a couple of months whilst he works n it at weekends, and using a broken oven because he wouldn't get a new one till the kitchen has been fitted. I spoke to my mum a couple of days ago and she said she's hoping it will be finished by the time I get home (October 2nd) but that knowing my dad....

I am a procrastinator to the nth degree, miss b, and I assume that I will go to my grave as such. It costs me time, it costs me money, it costs me time AND money, but it makes for some great stories! :p

After living with a man that was totally the opposite for 22 years, I am finally getting my comeuppance sharing a home with someone that is as bad a procrastinator as me. It is very hard to get angry with someone who has the same faults. The only way I know how to deal with it is to do it myself or hire someone else to do it. If it is something that only the procrastinator can do, like finding his birth certificate, the only thing I can suggest is to help him look.

Ok...you guys are making me be the crazy one now :D

Am I the only one does things right away ???...lol.

I've just always been a person that get's things done right away. No time like the present.

When there is something that I know I must get done and I run out of time, I'm left thinking about how I can fit it in.

My duaghter is still trying to make me believe that dishes left more than 15 minutes after you eat is not a crime. :)

Well he called today to let me know that he's faxed everything for the copy of the birth certificate and it should be here next week. It only cost him an extra 40.00 for the rush service. Yippie...lol.

Meanwhile the TV will still be sitting...... :)

Ok...you guys are making me be the crazy one now :D

Am I the only one does things right away ???...lol.

I've just always been a person that get's things done right away. No time like the present.

When there is something that I know I must get done and I run out of time, I'm left thinking about how I can fit it in.

My duaghter is still trying to make me believe that dishes left more than 15 minutes after you eat is not a crime.

Well he called today to let me know that he's faxed everything for the copy of the birth certificate and it should be here next week. It only cost him an extra 40.00 for the rush service. Yippie...lol.
Meanwhile the TV will still be sitting...... :)


Like I said, procrastinating costs money!

You're not crazy!!! Just "different" that's all!!! :p (teasing!!!!!!!)
I really do think that this is something that is innate - like being on time or being late, being a Type A or a Type B, being sloppy or being neat - it may be able to be modified a little, but it's who the person is.

PS: I wasn't kidding about hiring someone to set up the T.V.

Another fish here.
I make a list every morning then draw all over it so its to hard to read lol.

bells

(who took to long to write this cause I started dreaming about something else)

just so y'all know...after december 31 of this year...you'll need a passport to get back into the states from the bahamas, carribeans, et al...it's a new law mandated by the intelligence reform and terrorism prevention act of 2004...can't use a birth certificate and/or driver's license anymore...also after december 31, 2006 you'll need a passport to come back from canada and mexico...

FYI

hello, all!

well, this is joel, the husband of joelstrouble, and this thread caught my eye... well, seeing as how my wife and i are both inexcusably guilty of being procrastinators :(! we've been married almost a month, and my wife still hasn't submitted her "change of name" forms!!!!

anyways, i have to say that being a procrastinator can hurt, but there are advantages to it... a good example being how writing is my biggest hobby! i do stupid little bs stories, and stuff like that, but it's all for fun!
but, it's been some time now that i've written, but i started again the day before yesterday! why? well, my wife happens to be a woman, and women are subject to the menstral cycle... so, between her moodiness and my own... "frustration" i was able to kick-start the creativity to keep my mind off of the impending doom!

but, yeah, i'm notorious for saying "i'll do it later," but i usually do end up doing something i'm asked to do... the problem is that i usually get a deadline!!!!!
my biggest problem is waiting to get 'in the mood' to do something, such as the afore mentioned "entertainment center assembley!"
most days i don't wake up and think "what do i want to do today? take a walk? have a drink? watch tv? or do manual labor, assembling the goddamn freak-of-ikea entertainment center?"
then, one day, i'll happen to be sitting on the couch, and my pants will be dirty, and i can't wear them on a walk... there will be nothing to drink, and only infomercials on tv.... and that entertainment center will start looking reeeeeal pretty right about then ;)!

but, we procrastinators are a special breed,indeed.... like my wife, and forgetting to pay her internet bill while we were still an LDR couple, and putting us outta contact for 4 days! i know she hated not being able to talk to me, but preserving the middleman wasn't on her mind- i was!
we procrastinators think big, indeed.... and the small things are no nevermind, 'cause they don't seem to matter in the grand scheme of things!

anyways, i'll shut myself up right now, 'cause i think i crossed the line from talking to babbling!
thanks for reading!

-joel

(ps- i know it's hard to believe i'm a writer when i only used 3 caps in this whole post... but i kept telling myself i'd hit the shift key later ;) )

Joel.......Thanks for the reply. And best of luck in the marriage department.

I have to admit that I'm beginning to understand "you people" a lot more these days. :) I just didnt realize there were so many of you guys out there. And just think I thought he was the only Ok I'll do it.....but it never gets done guy out there...lol.

Well day 35.......the TV still sits in its nice big brown box in the bedroom. .. :eek:

Another fish here.
I make a list every morning then draw all over it so its to hard to read lol.

bells

(who took to long to write this cause I started dreaming about something else)

LOL @ YOU! I do that too, I draw all over my list and everything.... my desk calendar by mid-month looks like something that should be analyzed by a psychiatrist. :eek:

Joel.......Thanks for the reply. And best of luck in the marriage department.

I have to admit that I'm beginning to understand "you people" a lot more these days. :) I just didnt realize there were so many of you guys out there. And just think I thought he was the only Ok I'll do it.....but it never gets done guy out there...lol.

Well day 35.......the TV still sits in its nice big brown box in the bedroom. .. :eek:

miss b...

I just finally went through all my boxes from when I moved a year and a half ago and that was only because I was looking for an important paper. My mom bought some curtains for my house for my birthday in March and I just put them up two weeks ago..... and the list goes on. Yes, things must get done but on the other hand, life is TOO SHORT to be so anal. ;)

Well day 35.......the TV still sits in its nice big brown box in the bedroom.

Just a thought. . .how comfortable in general is your guy with electronics? The reason I ask is that for the longest time I had a VCR sitting in its box (this was some years ago :) ) I put off hooking it up for ages because I feel like a fish out of water when it comes to TV/video technology. Too many hookups and cables.

Likewise, I need to learn some new computer tricks and get an all-new computer system for home. I'm writing on a 1998 laptop using a 56K modem and dial-up! But it's my old tried-and-true. New things on the computer are miles out of my comfort zone. Hopefully one day I'll get more comfortable with high tech. You'll know when that happens. . .I'll put my photograph up. I don't know the first thing about handling electronic images. I'm pretty much at the quill pen level!

A lot of procrastination is caused by discomfort with the task.

I just finally went through all my boxes from when I moved a year and a half ago and that was only because I was looking for an important paper.... Yes, things must get done but on the other hand, life is TOO SHORT to be so anal. ;)

Well, I still HAVE boxes all over the place from my move 1 year 2 months ago. A closet full of boxes... a 1/2 demo'd back room full of boxes and all the stuff I've been MEANING to take to sell at a yardsale (a LOT) since I moved here. I just keep adding to the pile and still haven't decided on a weekend to YARDsale it, either.

And I don't consider myself a procrastinator at all. There just isn't enough time in the day for all the crap I have to do to worry about BOXES or YARDSALES. LOL. I'll get a "round to it" (or a round tuit as my Dad says) in a little while. *digs in pocket for a spare tuit for your YM* LOL

How big is the TV? If its not bigger than a 27", all you need to do is say "Well, if you won't do it, I'm sick of waiting" and head up there... see if he does it then. :eek: I'd just tell my son to do it. He does it on his own anyway... "Hey, G, go hook up the PS2 in my room for me, k?" LOL

~phos

POWER TO THE PROCRASTINATORS!


Raises hand and joins the ranks ;)

I live in the last minute ...

Just a thought. . .how comfortable in general is your guy with electronics? The reason I ask is that for the longest time I had a VCR sitting in its box (this was some years ago :) ) I put off hooking it up for ages because I feel like a fish out of water when it comes to TV/video technology. Too many hookups and cables.

Likewise, I need to learn some new computer tricks and get an all-new computer system for home. I'm writing on a 1998 laptop using a 56K modem and dial-up! But it's my old tried-and-true. New things on the computer are miles out of my comfort zone. Hopefully one day I'll get more comfortable with high tech. You'll know when that happens. . .I'll put my photograph up. I don't know the first thing about handling electronic images. I'm pretty much at the quill pen level!

A lot of procrastination is caused by discomfort with the task.

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He's good at eletronic stuff, unlike me, he knows what he's doing.

The funny thing is that this TV is our first together purchase. When he moved in he came with clothes and a few other small items. So this is our first purchase together. We teased each other about "if we break up, we'll share the TV". We made jokes about him coming over and watching TV every other week. So to me its kinda special. But too him I guess its just another TV sitting in a box... :)

How big is the TV? If its not bigger than a 27", all you need to do is say "Well, if you won't do it, I'm sick of waiting" and head up there... see if he does it then. :eek: I'd just tell my son to do it. He does it on his own anyway... "Hey, G, go hook up the PS2 in my room for me, k?" LOL

~phos


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We have a 27 inch in there now. Its a 36 inch that's in the box. I know we have a tv in there already, but I'm like a kid......I wanna watch the new tv.

My new plan is to have my daughter and I move the old 27 inch to the guest room, then he'll have to take the new one out of the box. He's a sports man Fos and he cant go without his ESPN every night :D

My YM and i are both terrible procrastinators. Things always get done, but at the last possible second. What is so funny about the situation is that this is the trait about him that drives me the most insane.

"Why do today what I can put off until tomorrow" is my motto. However this being the case, I do not place the blame for my ways, nor expect anyone else to assume my responsibilities in my er...absence on anyone but myself. This should be a two way street.

Procrastinators only bust a move when absolutely necessary. If I were you, I'd stop nagging about the sticker, birth cert and go about my own business. And I don't mean that in a MEAN way. It is him that has to go to court when he gets nailed for driving without the sticker (fixit ticket?) It's him that misses out on a wonderful vaca for not having his birth cert. If you nag or do these things for him, you become guess what? His Mommy. This is the case with most men, younger or older.

Update................................

On our trip with my brother this weekend in general conversation I mentioned to my brother that we had gotten a new TV. He asked how did I like it. I said I dont know yet, R hasnt connected it yet. Nothing else was mentioned about the tv.

When we got home yesterday I started unpacking the suitcase. He said why are you unpacking when we just got in the house. I said well there's no need to leave the clothes in the suitcase. He didnt say another word, he just got up and went upstairs and connected the new TV.

That's right.....The new TV is connected :D Yippieee !

Maybe it takes him a while......but he does get around to doing things. Eventually :eek:

Maybe it takes him a while......but he does get around to doing things. Eventually :eek:

Well, Rome wasn't built in a day. But, it got built. . .eventually. Beautiful city, too, from the pictures I've seen. :)

Well, Rome wasn't built in a day. But, it got built. . .eventually. Beautiful city, too, from the pictures I've seen. :)
you just stole my favorit line :p

Rome is on my wish list of places to go too :)

Guess I'll just have to watch it on the new TV..........yippie :D