Opening the "Ex-Files"

Lurking around the OM/YW side of the board I noticed more than a few threads about encounters with the "ex," so I thought I'd pose a question to the older ladies among us:

How have your former mates/lovers responded to your current relationship, and how has that impacted your life with your YM?

Just curious. ;)

My ex hates my YM. My ex does not choose to spend much time with his kids and when he does, they talk about my YM often. Which makes him angry and jealous. The ex has threatened and harassed my YM since before we became romantically involved, just for having the gaul to be supportive of me. ( Pretty brave considering my YM is twice his size.) It would not matter in he was 19 or 34, he would still feel the same way. That being sid, he has stated to me a couple of times that he would rather me be with my YM than dating others because at least he knows that the kids and I are being treated well. I think that e has at least grown used to the idea of me with my YM and if I became invoved with a new guy he would have to start all over

How have your former mates/lovers responded to your current relationship, and how has that impacted your life with your YM?

Just curious. ;)[/QUOTE]



Well, my ex knows that if he treated me right things may have turned out different. But, while it hurts him still that i left, he is happy for me (after 18months). He knows i am really happy with my ym and apart from being angry with himself for treating me badly, is actually concerned that our friendship (we dont see each other much at all) may affect my current relationship.
but, i love my ym, and he knows i left a very very unhappy sitation and that i have never and would never consider going back. my ym is pretty secure and he knows i love him so so much. HIS ex is a problem lol!!! but, that is becoming more like a 'was' now anyway Yipee!! :)

I would like to hear stories from the YM side of the equation too.

My ex realizes I've moved on and accepts it. He told me that he regrets how he approached treating me after I had three children and needed his loving support. He regrets that he ignored me, formed a social life that did not include me anymore and basically asked me for sex and then felt discouraged when I had zero interest.

He respects that I have decided to be with another man after he cheated on me and I told him it was over three years ago. He knows we can't go back, and that I have no desire to.

My guy is jealous, insecure and scared that I will change my mind because my ex has more money and we have children together. He wishes we could already be married and living together but neither of us have the financial means to do so at this point.

He tries to accept that this is a slow process and that my children's needs are an important responsibility for me.

Our exes are no problem - they both moved to California! :p

My ex-h pulled the sad puppy thing for a few years after I left because he's all about him. He never had much to say about my honey, they've never met and I don't volunteer information. The first time I told ex-h I had met someone I joked that he should guess the guy's age and he guessed really well, LOL! That is funny considering ex-h is about 25 years older than my honey.

Honey has 2 exes in a way, one went psycho in early adulthood but has now moved far far away, the other (whom he only dated a few months but is the more recent) still lives in his former city. I've met her, she's ok. Insecure and tries a little too hard to seem happy with her current BF, but isn't any trouble.

My ex thouht it would never work.. " he is too young, what are you doing?you are kidding yourself!! "
Well it turn out that we are doing wonderful and my ex called yesterday to tell me that he may be wrong after all and wishes me to be happy.
I think that 40 years old men are unsecure when they know that us too (40 year old women ) are going out with YM.

Our exes are no problem - they both moved to California! :p


LOL! Now I thought all the exes live in Texas! :)