Katrina means his family is coming

My y/m's entire family lives in the New Orleans area. They are all coming to stay with different relatives in Texas for safety. This morning everyone had basically called and made arrangements but his Mom & Dad. They didnt have a place to stay and couldnt afford a hotel for all of them. Therefore they were left without a real plan. So I advised him that they could stay with us as long as they needed. This includes Mom & Dad and 3 younger siblings.
Would you believe that it took five phone calls for his mother to agree to stay with us. We were a last resort and she still had reservations, but no real reason for them.

I know she does not agree with the relationship, she's made that clear several times, but you would think in a time like this she wouldnt let that be an issue. Heck we've been together for almost a year now, and I've always went out of my way to be nice to her and make her welcome.

If we get through this I just may have a new attitude and not a positive one.

That's awfully nice of you to offer your home to his family. Perhaps agreeing to stay with you is a blessing in disguise. It gives his family, especially his mom, time to get to know you better. What a kind heart you have! It's really too bad his mom's heart is another story. I wish you the best in your upcoming situation. Keep us posted.

Norie

Keep his snake in the cage while they're staying there!! :p :eek: :D

Good luck, miss b!

You are very kind to offer your home to them, they should be jumping at the chance... I would feel a bit insulted myself! I hope it gives you a chance to get to know each other better.... the mother is probably the biggest obstacle.

What a nice thing to do so.At least you have showed her that you're a very goodhearted person to invite them to stay at your place.I hope she will finally get to see you as the good person you are.

We were getting worried about them so we called her cell late last night. She said that they had just made it to Baton Rouge and would be staying there. He has a younger brother that lives there with his girlfriend in a small 2 bedroom apartment. She said they would stay there last night and sleep on the floor. He asked what they planned on doing after that and she said that she didnt know. If need be they would find a hotel and she would need to borrow money from him.

Basically.......Anything but come and stay with us.

My y/m felt really bad about the situation, we have 2 bedrooms that are empty and 2 sofa sleepers. She's been here before and I've always went out of my way to make her feel welcome.

I just cant see that in a time like this, when their lives could have been in danger that she would make such a big deal out of staying with us.

Sometimes parents have to realize that they're fighting a battle and they're the only ones fighting. She said that she does not agree with us being together, but she cant do anything about it. He's told her that he's grown and will make his own decisions. So after a year you would think she'd learn to accept things.

Should I continue to be nice and try to win her over or should I just not care anymore ??

If you keep on being nice she won't have anything to say against you. ( beside of course her disapproval of the age gap...) So, if you can hang there, try. In the long run you will be able to keep you head up and she may not.
I am sorry that you have to deal with this. :( I was so efraid of my YM's mom opinion about us but she happened to be really cool about it.

Good luck to you.
:)