WhoKnows88 08-29-2005, 07:20 PM Hey.
My 35 year old girlfriend and I (24) just got engaged last friday. I asked her to marry me during our weekend trip to Montreal. We have been dating for about a year.
At first our relationship was tough. My parents strongly disapproved, as did my friends. People kept telling me "Ohh, you too young, stay away from her, she just wants to find a husband" It was really tough on me to hear this comming from so many different directions.
I found Agelesslove.com and I am grateful for all the support I have recieved here. People supported me in my posts, and I felt a great sense of relief to know that other people, all across the world, were experienceing emotions, joys, and struggles just like me.
My fiance and I are very happy, and we eagerly await our wedding next July.
Again, thanks for all the support
fos4snt 08-29-2005, 07:22 PM Congratulations!!
WhoKnows88 08-29-2005, 07:23 PM also, I wanted to note that things do change.
My parents got to know my fiance for who she is, not for her age, and now they love her. My family is optimistic about my future with her.
my friends also have gotten to know her, and she has won them over too. Age really is just a number.
sheila4pd 08-29-2005, 07:41 PM Congratulations! :D
Bella_D 08-29-2005, 08:36 PM Congratulations! You guys are pretty much the same ages as when Stu and I got engaged about 15 months ago!!! Its so exciting to find the right person to enjoy your life with isn't it?
Don't worry about the friends etc....and please don't automatically believe that the agegap is the reason behind their weirdness. We lost a bunch of former friends in those first 12 months too, which I think is normal for many couples. For a start, not all friendships can adapt to the new dynamic of the couple putting each other first, above everyone else. I think, too, its wierd for some friends to watch one of their peers elevate their social position from being single, to having a stable, serious life with their 30-something partner, especally if it improves your lives financially. It can create envy and change the power dynamic between freinds.
We also lost another category of friends, which I will call `potential suiters'.....the kind of friends who were hanging around us when were single and perhaps hoping for more. This category of friends caused us much grief because they had a tendency to attempt to sabotage our relationship, and were dishonest about their intentions.
You'll make plenty of new friends, dont worry about it:)) And I hope you have tons of fun planning your wedding! We are putting ours off for a little while because we're so busy, but we're both really excited about it!!
lady_p 08-31-2005, 02:01 AM congratulations to you both :D
nbr2005 08-31-2005, 02:09 AM Congratulations to the both of you! My YM Adam has been talking about our future as well. I can understand your excitement! Best wishes to the both of you!
Norie
In Your Eyes 08-31-2005, 07:47 AM yay!!!!!!!!
Jo-Admin 08-31-2005, 12:52 PM Congratulations.....That's wonderful news!
And your right, as time goes on and people adjust to the idea, things do change, thank goodness, huh?
1love 08-31-2005, 02:33 PM Congrats!!! :)
yellowrose 08-31-2005, 03:38 PM Congratulations! (must be the air! seems to be happening a lot these days) :p
Charlotte 08-31-2005, 03:47 PM My 35 year old girlfriend and I (24) just got engaged last friday.
Congratulations!
People kept telling me "Ohh, you too young, stay away from her, she just wants to find a husband"
That's what my boyfriend's grandmother (father's mom) keeps telling him haha. Apparently I'm using him to get into Germany because it's nicer to live there (btw she's never even been to Canada). I want him to move HERE and my father was born in Germany and I have family still there so that's just absurd!
Again, congrats and I hope everything works out for you!
Kristin 08-31-2005, 04:33 PM WooHoo! Another success story! Congratulations - I want cake! :cool: :D
Buffeaut 09-02-2005, 12:06 AM Cool!! Congrats to you both!
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