I'm new and need advice

I was actually looking for some articles on the web but found this instead. I recently met a ym (he's 21 and I'm 32) who we have agreed we are attracted to one another but I feel strange because he is so young. I like him, he makes me laugh and I feel good around him but heres whats bothering me. He's young and even though I do consider myself pretty I don't have a perfect body. I am a little on the chubby side so to me he is looking for some "fun". I believe that he is attracted to me and he likes my personality but I don't know, why is he trying to develop something with me when he can have a cuter, younger girl with a nicer body. What do ya'll think?

Heck, I fell in love with a 19 year old when I was 35. What do I know? And a 19 year old on a college campus filled with co-eds. It's six years later, he's still here, now he's in grad school. I'm still a size 12-14 - just like I was then.

So I have been forced to come to the conclusion that he likes me :>

There is no other rational explanation.

My bf is 25 and I will soon be 47. He is gorgeous! I am not chubby but I am no model either. I am 8-10. On top of that, this is a long distance relationship, so I cannot even say it is for the sex! We are both faithful to each other. We have been together for 2 years.

Sheryl, there are tons of posts here just like yours...and I always say the same thing in response: We are MORE than just bodies! What about the REST of you, maybe he likes that? Ya think?

Some guys really DO understand that the best woman is not necessarily the youngest or the cutest. They are not all that shallow. Some guys really want a relationship...do you have a relationship with a body or a person?

And the best YM are the wisest, who love us for the rich and multifaceted people we are. You don't want anyone who doesn't appreciate you as fully as possible. If he shows you that he does, I think you'll be fine.

Welcome to ageless, look around, and value yourself as a WHOLE person. I HATE it when women swallow the BS that we are only as valuable as our youth and looks. Don't buy into that!

(Oh, and we have been together for more than 2-1/2 years, lived together for just about 2, and are buying our first home. :))

:)

I was actually looking for some articles on the web but found this instead. I recently met a ym (he's 21 and I'm 32) who we have agreed we are attracted to one another but I feel strange because he is so young. I like him, he makes me laugh and I feel good around him but heres whats bothering me. He's young and even though I do consider myself pretty I don't have a perfect body. I am a little on the chubby side so to me he is looking for some "fun". I believe that he is attracted to me and he likes my personality but I don't know, why is he trying to develop something with me when he can have a cuter, younger girl with a nicer body. What do ya'll think?

Sheryl,when I read your post I thought:this could have been written by me.And to be honest,I posted a similar post on Sunday.I always think he has to have another reason for liking me(SEX)and is not telling me.I'm also not a skinny girl and I've got no idea why he likes me better than a nice 17 year old.

Hope we can be here for eachother and support eachother!!

Harrison, where AAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRREEEEE you? Can you talk to these girls on this thread here and tell 'em 'bout all of the guys in this world that like their women with a little meat on 'em? :)

That was so me a year ago! We were really attracted to each other and I would just hold back because of the age thing and I had 3 kids so I have stretch marks and loose skin. But its been a year and we are still together. It has been a challenge for me to overcome the age thing, like worrying about looking old and bags under my eyes. For the most part I am over it but honestly it does come back and haunt me more then I like to admit.

I had younger and cuter. Once I got to 36, she decided that I wasn't what she wanted after all. Kids, she said I could keep 'em in court in front of the judge. So, here I was with two kids, not a lot of money, and not a lot to offer, or so it seemed at the time. Now, I am with a wonderful lady who is 56 to my 38. While I realize that the age difference is there, it's nothing more than a characterisic; no more important than hair colour or eye colour. We aren't sleeping together, so it isn't for the sex, but we've been seeing eachother for about two years and were friends for a couple of years before that. She is indeed a whole person, and there is sooo much more to her than her external packaging (which in spite of age and being not skinny, is quite lovely to me).

Dan Echo