RE: Sexually Speaking

Do you think that SS should be more heavily modded? Should topics be limited to discussions about AG sexuality, problems and issues rather than a free-for-all? Do you think that it would help improve the tone of the site and the quality of some of the members? Or do you think it's fine the way it is?

It's fine the way it is...
~phos

I avoid Sexually Speaking like the plague.

Somebody should do a statistical analysis on the number of threads started by "members" who never even post anywhere else and members who participate freely throughout the site. Half the time, you've never even heard of the so called members who start these threads. If I'm interested in Peeping Toms I'll leave my blinds open when I'm in the sack.

There are probably legitimate issues with sexuality in some age gap relationships. Good luck in trying to talk about that stuff without all the high school comments from hit and run trolls.

leave it be..its amusing at times ;)

I am totally with bubbleee on this one. I don't like the section, personally. I would be fine with stuff like, my fella and I have such-and-such a problem in the sack... but stuff like, oh... well. I don't want to even go there, but a lot of topics I just find distasteful, in a raunchy-but-yet-still-uninteresting way.

NO CENSORSHIP!! MILF, MILF!! HONK, HONK!! :p :D

:D Y'all know I do my best to have good fun with sexual topics. lol :p

I like the Jerry Springer-esque free-for-all....

and if ever a serious question pops up, I think enough serious people visit the section to yield a good discussion.

It's ALL good.

Agree, leave it be, it's very funny sometimes.

I don't mind the way it is, myself. Although I sometimes think the topics bring in a bad element.

I was just curious what others thought - if it had a negative impact on the rest of the forums or not.

I vote NO CENSORSHIP! Whenever I don't like a topic, I just don't read/post it. Other people can do that as well!

Let it be. It's fun reading! I welcome the opportunities to talk about my favorite activity ;) , and Ageless wouldn't be Ageless without the periodic incarnation of the "Butt Thread!"

:eek: YAY for Harrison's Butt Threads. ROFLAO! *chuckle ~ walks off humming, "I like big BUTTS"* LOL LOL LOL
~phos

I don't mind the way it is, myself. Although I sometimes think the topics bring in a bad element.

I was just curious what others thought - if it had a negative impact on the rest of the forums or not.


bad element? why ? it's only sexually speaking. Sometimes it's fun, others intense or silly or vulgar or crazy..... isn't that what sex is all about ? If it's ultra moderated and restricted to ow/ym topics, it will end up looking more like a biology lesson.

bad element? why ? it's only sexually speaking. Sometimes it's fun, others intense or silly or vulgar or crazy..... isn't that what sex is all about ? If it's ultra moderated and restricted to ow/ym topics, it will end up looking more like a biology lesson.
I don't know. I'm not sure if it does. Maybe people searching for sex sites with MILFs and older women might find threads here and think we're all about that. Who knows? What brings these guys here that only post in SS?

I'm not advocating anything - like I said, I don't have a problem with it. Just thinking out loud, I guess.

(Yes DB, I know - honk honk I said MILF!)

Em... i kinda take a liking to that bottle... :)

I don't know. I'm not sure if it does. Maybe people searching for sex sites with MILFs and older women might find threads here and think we're all about that. Who knows? What brings these guys here that only post in SS?

I'm not advocating anything - like I said, I don't have a problem with it. Just thinking out loud, I guess.

(Yes DB, I know - honk honk I said MILF!)

I just googled "sex with older women" and found porn and Oprah :D

Let me try MILFs

I just googled "sex with older women" and found porn and Oprah :D

Let me try MILFs
I know. I can't figure out how they are finding us, either. But they sure come here and post some weird stuff, don't they?

Who knows! :confused:

:eek: YAY for Harrison's Butt Threads. ROFLAO! *chuckle ~ walks off humming, "I like big BUTTS"* LOL LOL LOL
~phos

Awww....

Nice to know I'm appreciated! :D :p

I don't think it should be more moderated, however I think member should have a minimum of 50 posts before being allowed to post in that forum--it would keep out the creeps.

Hey, another GREAT idea today!!! Wow, thatgirl. Fabulous idea.
~phos

I usually don't read SS anymore either, for the reasons some people have been mentioning. I DO think it attracts those types who post there and nowhere else. If you go to the forums main page, it's just as "out there" as our other areas, it gets very prominent billing, so I'm sure that those who are only interested in prurient matters zero right in on it and that's that.

Here's an idea...some sites restrict certain forums to certain posters. Instead of it being a free for all OR censoring the material, just make it only available to those who have posted a certain amount on other forums or who have been a member a certain period of time. That would cut down on those who think only with one part of their bodies I think...and it's not exactly censorship or modding.

I think it may also be possible to take its link off the front page, so that it's not such prominent bait.

If it's not fun for people after that, we could always open it back up to the hit and runs. *shrug*

EDIT: Heheh, thatgirl and I posted at the same time. :D

Here's an idea! Let's only keep that forum open for male-bashing. What do you say, ladies? :rolleyes:

I don't sense any male bashing going on in that forum--really, I don't see much of that on this site at all. If anything, I do see a few men who don't seem to care for the female gender...

Besides, what does male bashing have to do with this thread anyway?

I don't sense any male bashing going on in that forum--really, I don't see much of that on this site at all. If anything, I do see a few men who don't seem to care for the female gender...

Besides, what does male bashing have to do with this thread anyway?

Perhaps related to the fact that it's almost Friday night, and once again someone won't be getting laid? :p :D

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~phos

Perhaps related to the fact that it's almost Friday night, and once again someone won't be getting laid?

lol

:D

I don't think we need a Sexually Speaking Forum on Ageless.

And why is that? :(

Perhaps related to the fact that it's almost Friday night, and once again someone won't be getting laid? :p :D

Damn! Good thing I wasn't drinking when I read that! :D

I don't think we need a Sexually Speaking Forum on Ageless.

Not sure what you mean by this, kathy. Are you saying issues of sexuality shouldn't be discussed at all? Or that the site shouldn't have a forum devoted to it? I've contemplated the latter myself, for reasons others have already mentioned.

I voted on this earlier...but had some computer problems so I'm just now getting back to posting.

I think that the sexually speaking threads should be a little more loosely regulated.

I'm not saying I want to see porn or anything in there....but sometimes its hard to reply to a post or a comment without getting a little graphic....i can only think of so many euphinisms (sp?)

I happen to be a very sexual person...well...in writing anyways...yall can't see me blush. *grin* But I do realize that if it weren't so heavily regulated we would get some real crackpots in there. So maybe its a good idea to leave it as it is.

Nadine.

Perhaps related to the fact that it's almost Friday night, and once again someone won't be getting laid? :p

That would be my guess also... :eek: :rolleyes:

Not sure what you mean by this, kathy. Are you saying issues of sexuality shouldn't be discussed at all? Or that the site shouldn't have a forum devoted to it? I've contemplated the latter myself, for reasons others have already mentioned.

Niall...I don't think the site should have a forum dovoted to Sexually Speaking..I don't mind discussing issues of sexuality in an intelligent way...often (as you know) that's not the direction the majority (didn't say ALL of them...but the majority) of these take..and the way I see it...let those types of people (didn't just say "guys" cos lots of women do it as well) go elsewhere..I honestly don't feel that a Sexually Speaking Forum has a place on Ageless..keep in mind however, that's my opinion only...I'm glad Kristin brought this up...because I've thought about this off and on for the past two years since I joined Ageless.

What are your thoughts on it Niall?

Niall...I don't think the site should have a forum dovoted to Sexually Speaking..I don't mind discussing issues of sexuality in an intelligent way...often (as you know) that's not the direction the majority (didn't say ALL of them...but the majority) of these take..and the way I see it...let those types of people (didn't just say "guys" cos lots of women do it as well) go elsewhere..I honestly don't feel that a Sexually Speaking Forum has a place on Ageless..keep in mind however, that's my opinion only...I'm glad Kristin brought this up...because I've thought about this off and on for the past two years since I joined Ageless.

What are your thoughts on it Niall?

First of all kathy, there's no need for you to defend yourself against something I never accused you of in the first place. :)

Like I said, my own thoughts would seem to be right in line with yours. I've felt this way ever since ageless had such a forum. Having a forum devoted to it is a magnet for trolls and perverts (and yes, I concur they're almost ALWAYS guys) who are just looking for masturbation material. I understand that open honest discussions about sexuality are a necessary part of a relationship support site, but I don't see why if someone has a legitimate question they can't just bring it up in the "relationship support" forum and have it addressed there.

First of all kathy, there's no need for you to defend yourself against something I never accused you of in the first place. :)

Like I said, my own thoughts would seem to be right in line with yours. I've felt this way ever since ageless had such a forum. Having a forum devoted to it is a magnet for trolls and perverts (and yes, I concur they're almost ALWAYS guys) who are just looking for masturbation material. I understand that open honest discussions about sexuality are a necessary part of a relationship support site, but I don't see why if someone has a legitimate question they can't just bring it up in the "relationship support" forum and have it addressed there.

I could not agree more. I think that SS is sometimes so transparently used by people interested in self gratification (read j*** off material). I even posted a thread about it that got zero replies... I think that there have been several valid topics, but there are topics that have offended and/or hurt people in here.

Niall says "First of all kathy, there's no need for you to defend yourself against something I never accused you of in the first place"

I have no idea what you are talking about...this is a VERY defensive pose for you to take..I was being thoughtful to you in my post (above) asking you what your thoughts were and you come back with this???!!

It seems as if you may have a chip on your shoulder...cos trust me...I don't find the need to defend myself to you or anyone else around here...and what are you talking about something you never accused me of...you make no sense at all in your response to me.. :rolleyes: I won't be responding to you in posts anymore...I don't have time for this type of petty stuff anymore... :mad:

Oh, Lordy... :rolleyes:

kathy, the comment I specifically was referring to was this:

Niall...I don't think the site should have a forum dovoted to Sexually Speaking..I don't mind discussing issues of sexuality in an intelligent way...often (as you know) that's not the direction the majority (didn't say ALL of them...but the majority) of these take..and the way I see it...let those types of people (didn't just say "guys" cos lots of women do it as well) go elsewhere

Would you care to point out exactly where I claimed that you were saying it was all guys who made those posts? If I didn't say it then why would you need to bring this up? Though incidently, you'll note that I did agree that was almost overwhelmingly the trolling members of the MILF crowd (read 'guys') who are responsible for such posts)

I could not agree more. I think that SS is sometimes so transparently used by people interested in self gratification (read j*** off material). I even posted a thread about it that got zero replies... I think that there have been several valid topics, but there are topics that have offended and/or hurt people in here.

I agree Sheila...and have pretty much always felt that way about this particular forum..and my boyfriend feels the same way about it...if that tells ya anything. I believe you can discuss sexual topics in a tasteful way...and if people do not want to be tasteful when they post then I feel as if they need to be on a site that focuses more on the topic and subject of SEX...this site isn't geared toward that.

And just so everyone is clear (seems I was totally MISUNDERSTOOD earlier) ...I am AGREEING with you...you're right..many topics have offended and hurt people in here and don't have any place on this site as far as I'm concerned.

welp, since SS is one of the forums i'm 'responsible' for....i'll chime in.

from a moderation standpoint, and trust me, i DO read em, as long as it's not breaking the rules by being blatantly vulgar......i allow it.

as i've said before, some people have a lower threshold of what they deem 'acceptable' than others do. if you happen to be one of those people, like many have stated they do, don't read SS. simple enough, methinks.

no matter if you take SS away or moderate it more or sit on it like it's an egg, the trolls will ALWAYS find their way in.
you will NEVER eradicate the vulgarity of people who come here for no other reason than to troll and start flame-wars. never gonna happen.

so what does the site administrator do? you get moderators to recieve reported posts via email that also take time out of their day to go thru and read posts and threads.


what do YOU do as a member? use that lil 'report a post' feature. that's IF you're one of the ones that speaking frankly and with adult language about sex doesn't bother.

but as long as it follows the rules......it's allowed to stay. you can post or not. you can report it if you find it blatantly offensive. or you can look at all the other wonderful threads and posts that make up this forum.

Tracy

I'm a true fan of Sexually Speaking and would hate to see it heavily modded or worse yet, discontinued. As the song says, "sex is natural, sex is fun. . ." Fun includes fun to banter about and read about! Some of the threads are just banter and flirtation; others are more serious discussion of sexual topics. Why not have both?

Sure we get some pornstar wannabes coming in, but they don't stay long. Cutting the section for that reason would be complete overkill--so much so that it would be a solution in search of a problem.

SS is a separate forum, so it's easy enough to avoid if you don't want to read it. Most of this site is PG or even G rated. Let the edgier PG-13 to R neighborhood that is SS stand for those of us who like to visit it along with the tamer sections of the Ageless community.

Vive la difference! Celebrate diversity! And so on. . .

I love greeneyed girl. How sensible her post is!!

Since most of the topics on SS can apply to both OWYM and YWOM, like does size matter, does being fat matter, does having big boobs matter, is it better if you are hanging from the living room lamp, and other related topics can we move it to the bottom of the site so both types of AGR people can contribute to it? And some of us prudes do not have to look at it if one particular thread offends us.

I post in SS in both forums when I think I can contribute if an OP has an issue and I have seen others do the same.

Just a suggestion... :o

I don't spend much time there but it's fine the way it is (most of the time).

Most of the topics that lots of people find offensive are, in my opinion, just boring. They're nothing new, ya know? I actually find more amusing which topics people get such a kick out of or so offended by than the topics themselves.

It's Sexually Speaking. The title should be enough of a heads-up that there may be some material there that may be offensive to some people.

We're all (assumably) over 18 and you can choose to not enter that space.

I'm not saying I want to see porn or anything in there....but sometimes its hard to reply to a post or a comment without getting a little graphic....i can only think of so many euphinisms (sp?)

I happen to be a very sexual person...well...in writing anyways...yall can't see me blush. *grin* But I do realize that if it weren't so heavily regulated we would get some real crackpots in there. So maybe its a good idea to leave it as it is.

Nadine.

I agree...and 'me too' :)

I'm new, and i've checked out a few threads on SS. To me, it was pretty obvious who were the legit posters and who werent. I skimmed over the stuff that didnt look like something i wanted to read. And i also found some informative, enjoyable stuff.

Its too bad if it brings trolls, but i also agree that you will get them either way.

nope leave it as it is i see nothing wrong

I had already suggested an idea when a similar discussion took place a few months ago but I'll repeat it.

There should be a sticky for people to introduce themselves. Any new comers will have to post in that sticky before being allowed to post anywhere else.
That way not only we will know who we're dealing with, but the method will also naturally filter out all those who are not here to discuss AGR.

And besides, it's nice of people to introduce themselves before they enter a discussion.

Why a sticky ? the "New members" section could be an obligatory passage before posting anywhere else.

I'm a true fan of Sexually Speaking and would hate to see it heavily modded or worse yet, discontinued. As the song says, "sex is natural, sex is fun. . ." Fun includes fun to banter about and read about! Some of the threads are just banter and flirtation; others are more serious discussion of sexual topics. Why not have both?

Sure we get some pornstar wannabes coming in, but they don't stay long. Cutting the section for that reason would be complete overkill--so much so that it would be a solution in search of a problem.

SS is a separate forum, so it's easy enough to avoid if you don't want to read it. Most of this site is PG or even G rated. Let the edgier PG-13 to R neighborhood that is SS stand for those of us who like to visit it along with the tamer sections of the Ageless community.

Vive la difference! Celebrate diversity! And so on. . .

See SS is the forum that needs the heaviest Moderation. We shouldn't be in a R rated area... There are other websites for that... I think we miss the point that we are an Age Gap Relationship site.... thats why we even limited and close and review all personal ads so our Members here aren't offended. I personally don't mind. With that said I do like the SS forum... I do think some of it can be very inappropriate.... I usually frequent my SS forum in the Om/YW side and to be honest we don't usually have these concerns there.... From what I see it's usually just adult clean conversations... I think thats what the SS forum should be... :)

Secondly we are all adults and I truely feel we should be able to differinciate between raunchy talk and clean adult sexual talk :)

I, personally, don't take offense to most of the SS posts. Like it was suggested, you can avoid it if you don't like it.

Unfortunately, those people seem to spill over into the main part of the forums and cause trouble there. I'm talking about the people who are constantly saying provacative, rude or inappropriate things that prompt numerous posts from our members saying things like, "Why are you here, anyway? You aren't in a AG relationship, you have no interest in an AG relationship, etc" You know who I'm talking about.

It's the spill over thing that bothers me most. But I like the SS forum - obviously I post there enough! :p

I think the minimum post thing is a great idea - or at least a requirement to have been a contributing member for a bit.

I know in other forums, certain boards can be "permission only." On my real estate web site forum, I was doing beta testing for web site upgrades. Those of us doing the testing had authorization to see the beta testers threads, while the rest of the board couldn't see those, nor post on them. I also belong to another forum where members can request authorization from the administrator for access to a certain board.

If we had the SS board accessible by request only, members who have no interest in it wouldn't request access and therefore, have the threads come up in the "New Posts" search. Members who want to participate would ask admin/mods for access. The mod could check easily if that person is a contributing member (say a minimum # of posts) and give them the access.

Just thinking out loud again....

Yes, the spillover is really the key issue at hand.

Believe me, very few trolls would go through the hassle of making 50 posts in other categories and then request permission to be admitted into sexually speaking.

And we know a permission-based thread is possible here - because the mods have one that we can't see.

And that way, SS wouldn't have to be moderated as much, too.

Niall...I don't think the site should have a forum dovoted to Sexually Speaking..I don't mind discussing issues of sexuality in an intelligent way...often (as you know) that's not the direction the majority (didn't say ALL of them...but the majority) of these take..and the way I see it...let those types of people (didn't just say "guys" cos lots of women do it as well) go elsewhere..I honestly don't feel that a Sexually Speaking Forum has a place on Ageless..keep in mind however, that's my opinion only...I'm glad Kristin brought this up...because I've thought about this off and on for the past two years since I joined Ageless.

What are your thoughts on it Niall? well you will always have people that post a joke or two in a thread no matter how serious it is and people may take it differently then what its intended to be...

but i have to disagree SS should not be taken away its no different then another site I post on (or any others out there). Because on that site they should rename the sexuality section to "sexuality and friends talking" since people tend to talk about things that is not "sexual" in there from time to time but that’s because that's where most of the people post.

Besides the "sexuality" sections are always the most popular sections compared to the rest. But ya just gotta be glad that its not filled with fake stories.....

Fine the way it is as long as it's 'normal' sex topics being discussed. So no, dare I say, kids and animals, etc. :eek:

I'm very conservative and there have been very few topics that have offended me. When they do, I simply move on.

Leave it as it is, please. I'm getting an education and there are very few resources available that are as entertaining.

Besides, Harrison's Butt Thread would look sillly in the relationship section.

Well, God bless you, PeggyLSnyder, you never cease to amaze me!

Hey!!!! I have a suggestion! Let's move this thread to the Sexual Speaking Section and all those members that "never go there" won't even have to think about it!!! :p

Um, then why was this thread even started? Why not take your own advice and avoid it?
Because I was curious what other people thought. That is generally the purpose of a poll. Do I have to ask your permission to start a thread now?

See, Kristin?

Sniff, sniff...

lol