Need to vent-my turn!

I wont say much but some people are NOT who they try to convince you they are :mad:
You try to trust and when you start to open up...bang...you realize how stupid you were.
That is me allright!
Anyway....just needed to say that.
:(

I'm sorry, Faith. It sounds like you got hurt. Anyone who would hurt you isn't worth your time and doesn't deserve you. Hang in there.
Hugs to you.

I'm sorry, Faith. It sounds like you got hurt. Anyone who would hurt you isn't worth your time and doesn't deserve you. Hang in there.
Hugs to you.


Thanks Kyrie. No they sure dont. I aint losing my time either. Thank god I realised it fast! But not fast enough for my own good.
Oh well, part of life sometimes I guess.
hug back...thanks again

Faith,

Sorry to hear you're going through a rough time. But remember that not everyone has the values and morals that we want them to have when it comes to relationships. The good thing is that you found this out and you can move on and take care of you. You deserve the best. Its good that you didnt settle for less.

Things will get better... :)

Faith,

Sorry to hear you're going through a rough time. But remember that not everyone has the values and morals that we want them to have when it comes to relationships. The good thing is that you found this out and you can move on and take care of you. You deserve the best. Its good that you didnt settle for less.

Things will get better... :)


You are very right
(((hug)))
thank you!

You know, if it's someone on this site, I would recommend you post who it is so others don't fall into a similar situation...

You know, if it's someone on this site, I would recommend you post who it is so others don't fall into a similar situation...

I wont say his name here but you can pm me.

:eek: I'm sorry, Faith. Want me to stomp some heads? :o I hate to see people get... played? Hurt! It's lame.

You're a fabulous lady and deserve the best.
~phos

:eek: I'm sorry, Faith. Want me to stomp some heads? :o I hate to see people get... played? Hurt! It's lame.

You're a fabulous lady and deserve the best.
~phos

LOL. yeah go ahead. I stomp his head with you! :rolleyes:
and thank you for such a nice compliment.
((hug))

Sorry Faith..I'm feelin ya at the moment. Someone I trusted and loved turned out to be a real monster recently myself! Unfortunately it took me 5 months to find out.
Im gonna PM you because I want to know who also.
HUGS!!!!

This is turning into a witch hunt!!!! :eek:

First, so everyone knows. Its not a regular here ok? I mean, he doesnt post. Just so all the nice guys we already know dont get doubted.
I wanted to clarify this!

I don't want to know to be gossipy, I just think it's good to "out" people who do this type of thing.

Kind of saves a string of people from getting hurt because you know once you have their number, they move onto the next unsuspecting victim...

I don't want to know to be gossipy, I just think it's good to "out" people who do this type of thing.

Kind of saves a string of people from getting hurt because you know once you have their number, they move onto the next unsuspecting victim...


We have an underground research team about this ;)
seriously girl...just pm me ok?

Sometimes some forget there are people with hearts behind these keyboards. I try to trust but verify...the trusting part is easy as most of us are trusting souls. The good news? You are angry and well, you should be! I hate it when stuff like this happens. Men like this are why women have trust issues. Again, I am sorry, no one derserves this and paritcularly not a nice lady like you.

That is a really sad thing to happen, don't know why people pretend to be someone or something they are not, its just stupid

I'm a 20 year old guy and thats all I wanna be, if you need to try and make up something about yourself then you don't deserve to be with or have someone as nice as you or the other nice charming women here at Ageless or anywhere else

Men like this are why women have trust issues


i myself wonder....what made these men this way?

surely deceit isn't something that you have at birth. did a woman hurt him? hurt him in the way that we women proclaim to be hurt? i would imagine it hurts just as badly whether you be male OR female. maybe the deceit is a result of that individual man's OWN trust issues. a self-preservation thing, if you will. women do it too.

i don't see it as so much a 'man' thing as it is a 'person' thing, because there are plenty of deceitful women out there too.

and let us not forget......innocent until proven guilty. and once proven guilty, :D well, we'll address that if and when it happens.

i myself wonder....what made these men this way?

surely deceit isn't something that you have at birth. did a woman hurt him? hurt him in the way that we women proclaim to be hurt? i would imagine it hurts just as badly whether you be male OR female. maybe the deceit is a result of that individual man's OWN trust issues. a self-preservation thing, if you will. women do it too.

i don't see it as so much a 'man' thing as it is a 'person' thing, because there are plenty of deceitful women out there too.

and let us not forget......innocent until proven guilty. and once proven guilty, :D well, we'll address that if and when it happens.

yes girl, innocent until proven guilty. thats why I told I didnt want this to turn into a witch hunt first and also said that I wanted people to know its not someone that is a regular. I just needed to vent. I didnt want this to make other women more scare or men saying "ok now she will it even worst for me".
That truly wasnt my purpose.
I just needed to talk about it. there will always be some rotten apples. Doesnt make ALL the apples rotten.
love ya girl...u the best
(((hug)))

Faith,

Just wanted to give you a hug and tell you how sweet you are. Do not be hard on yourself , trustworthy people always are more trusting. Its a shame when you need to be on your guard. Dang players :(

Faith,

Just wanted to give you a hug and tell you how sweet you are. Do not be hard on yourself , trustworthy people always are more trusting. Its a shame when you need to be on your guard. Dang players :(

Thank you dm
((hug))

Hi Faiths....

I think you are truly a very caring and nice person....And Im sorry this all happened....

I just think though, that there are a lot of people in this world, that just are not 'Able' to have committed relationships, ...and I say People, because it isn't just 'guys' here....

Im sure these people 'Want' to, but due to all 'kinds' of circumstances...they are just not able to express, and give of themselves, like others can....

This can lead to all sort of lying and bull****....because this is how they try and extract themselves from a situation, that has become too uncomfortable for them to handle...

Its is a 'Challenging' world that we live in....Some of us face these challanges, and try and make the most of what we can....These are the 'Strong' individuals....Whilst deemed weak for showing feelings, falling in love, and expressing themselves....Not so....for it takes 'strength' to be able to do these things....

The others, stumble along....trying to deal with life, but letting it get the better of them instead.....'wanting' to Love....but not having the capacity nor the apparent strength to do so....Hence the lying....Yes, all intentions were there....but they are just unable to take it any further....

Dont ever change the way you are Faiths, and become bitter....You will have affected his life as surely as he affected yours....You were meant to cross paths to learn from each other....perhaps the both of you won't know 'exactly' what that is now...but whatever it was for You Faiths....it has given you 'exactly' what you needed to take you to the kind of love, that most of us are ever wanting to re-connect with....;)

Whoever this is just gave himself a dose of bad karma; for every action there's a reaction. No one really get's away with hurting someone on the spiritual plane. (I bet he's not even all that ayway! ;)) If I were a guy I'd definitely be stepping to him for hurting my sis! Take care and don't give up on love!!!! Annie.

Hi Faiths....

I think you are truly a very caring and nice person....And Im sorry this all happened....

I just think though, that there are a lot of people in this world, that just are not 'Able' to have committed relationships, ...and I say People, because it isn't just 'guys' here....

Im sure these people 'Want' to, but due to all 'kinds' of circumstances...they are just not able to express, and give of themselves, like others can....

This can lead to all sort of lying and bull****....because this is how they try and extract themselves from a situation, that has become too uncomfortable for them to handle...

Its is a 'Challenging' world that we live in....Some of us face these challanges, and try and make the most of what we can....These are the 'Strong' individuals....Whilst deemed weak for showing feelings, falling in love, and expressing themselves....Not so....for it takes 'strength' to be able to do these things....

The others, stumble along....trying to deal with life, but letting it get the better of them instead.....'wanting' to Love....but not having the capacity nor the apparent strength to do so....Hence the lying....Yes, all intentions were there....but they are just unable to take it any further....

Dont ever change the way you are Faiths, and become bitter....You will have affected his life as surely as he affected yours....You were meant to cross paths to learn from each other....perhaps the both of you won't know 'exactly' what that is now...but whatever it was for You Faiths....it has given you 'exactly' what you needed to take you to the kind of love, that most of us are ever wanting to re-connect with....;)

Thank you Tinkabell
(((hug)))
well, our path didnt cross for very long...thank goodness for that!
I just need a drink right now LOL
kidding!
just joking to make this easier

Whoever this is just gave himself a dose of bad karma; for every action there's a reaction. No one really get's away with hurting someone on the spiritual plane. (I bet he's not even all that ayway! ;)) If I were a guy I'd definitely be stepping to him for hurting my sis! Take care and don't give up on love!!!! Annie.

I believe the same thing as you do Annie.
Still, it sucks when it happens. But i'm ok.
thank god it was just something recent! I woke up fast!

Sorry for whatever it was, Faith. You are a sweet and caring person who doesn't deserve anything bad. We love ya!!!

i myself wonder....what made these men this way?

surely deceit isn't something that you have at birth. did a woman hurt him? hurt him in the way that we women proclaim to be hurt? i would imagine it hurts just as badly whether you be male OR female. maybe the deceit is a result of that individual man's OWN trust issues. a self-preservation thing, if you will. women do it too.

i don't see it as so much a 'man' thing as it is a 'person' thing, because there are plenty of deceitful women out there too.

and let us not forget......innocent until proven guilty. and once proven guilty, :D well, we'll address that if and when it happens.

Guilty honey...guilty!

I'm sorry that you got hurt Faith we all on here are nice people and it hurts us when we get lied to and decieved and who ever this little boy is he isn't worth a dime to step on he's a worm who dug himself back to the ground. hugs to a smart women you go girl!!!

I'm sorry that you got hurt Faith we all on here are nice people and it hurts us when we get lied to and decieved and who ever this little boy is he isn't worth a dime to step on he's a worm who dug himself back to the ground. hugs to a smart women you go girl!!!

thanks rkstud. hug back.
Yes many nice people here and we need to protect each other. Like I said before not going on a witch hunt...please, no no no. Just being aware and make others aware when we have proof.

I can certainly identify with these feeling, Faith and vent, vent, vent. I wish I had and could have...

And I have even gotten angry at myself for being so gullible & naive...and it isn't just with a man either.

I guess we have to realize that we live among some selfish & narcissistic folks and it is a dangerous world out there for generous, selfless hearts such as our own. But in the larger scheme of things a balance will be fulfilled.

In meantime...vent & heal. You are heard.

I can certainly identify with these feeling, Faith and vent, vent, vent. I wish I had and could have...

And I have even gotten angry at myself for being so gullible & naive...and it isn't just with a man either.

I guess we have to realize that we live among some selfish & narcissistic folks and it is a dangerous world out there for generous, selfless hearts such as our own. But in the larger scheme of things a balance will be fulfilled.

In meantime...vent & heal. You are heard.

Thanks Raven. Yes you can vent if you need too...we all have our moments!
I get angrier too because I know I have been naive. It just makes it worst! I mean, where do you find a balance here? Its not easy. To be on a constant state of alertness at some point I get tired of it. Just wished I could just let things flow and enjoy the moment.
But, thats life. There is all kind of people and we never stop to learn and experience and it makes us wiser a bit more.
And I believe in balance and karma. My dad used to tell me, you plant carrots, you recolt carrots (tu sèmes des carottes, tu récoltes des carottes) lol...simple statement...but so oh true.

As I prepare a pot of tea I ponder your words...unfortunately, that is indeed life. Where is the balance? There is none or perhaps there is. And, karma...yes, like the pebble tossed upon a lake, its ripples reaching far and wide.

There is a quote by Robert Frost:

Flexible people never get bent out of shape.
--Anonymous

So, we need to be flexible & move on? Is that what it means?

And karma...yes, perhaps.

Maybe it just teaches us more about our hearts, us as individuals. To see our mirror image, our inner self. As for the other person, their life is their own. I sometimes wonder that I created these situations as well. That I was responsible, you know, like in Quantum Mechanics/Physics. We attract and therefore sow. Yikes...what horror! :eek: What was I thinking!!

So, getting to your father's quote...perhaps be mindful of the carrots we plant, eh? Whether metaphorically or thought... ;)






I get angrier too because I know I have been naive. It just makes it worst! I mean, where do you find a balance here? Its not easy. To be on a constant state of alertness at some point I get tired of it. Just wished I could just let things flow and enjoy the moment.
But, thats life. There is all kind of people and we never stop to learn and experience and it makes us wiser a bit more.
And I believe in balance and karma. My dad used to tell me, you plant carrots, you recolt carrots (tu sèmes des carottes, tu récoltes des carottes) lol...simple statement...but so oh true.

As I prepare a pot of tea I ponder your words...unfortunately, that is indeed life. Where is the balance? There is none or perhaps there is. And, karma...yes, like the pebble tossed upon a lake, its ripples reaching far and wide.

There is a quote by Robert Frost:

Flexible people never get bent out of shape.
--Anonymous

So, we need to be flexible & move on? Is that what it means?

And karma...yes, perhaps.

Maybe it just teaches us more about our hearts, us as individuals. To see our mirror image, our inner self. As for the other person, their life is their own. I sometimes wonder that I created these situations as well. That I was responsible, you know, like in Quantum Mechanics/Physics. We attract and therefore sow. Yikes...what horror! :eek: What was I thinking!!

So, getting to your father's quote...perhaps be mindful of the carrots we plant, eh? Whether metaphorically or thought... ;)


Well, we cant focus on those that has hurt us. I talk from personal experience. It took me like 5 years to get over someone! 5 years! Oh I learned alot about myself and others. There is positive that came out of it but also this guy was a player also. You see, that kind of guy has a way to know where a woman's weak point is and go from there. That is, in my eyes truly despicable but there is guys like that. Sooo, my point is at first get to know the guy, if you see some things that dont make sense, clear it up. Make your own little investigation. Dont let someone get to you, hurt you. If it doesnt feel right, it probably isnt right.
that doesnt apply to ALL guys. I am NOT generalizing as I know there is good guys out there.

The other thing, when you talk about creating the situation. It is not that we create it we dont. I would call it, for me personnally, the mother Theresa syndrom! You know, wanting to help and save the guy that somehow seems to need you and needs help and thinking "hey, I can be there for him". Now we are going to go into psychology stuff lol
Its tough to change that. I am slowly changing it. Its a long process but its worth the heartache and pain sometimes. Because if I would let that kind of guy really run my life I would be in a psych yard at this point! :eek:

I'm talking from personal experience. each one is different. But that is my story.

Sound advice, Faith...gotta make sure it is the right carottes. Last night was watching a program on genetically modified foods...so with that said we can only determine that not all carrots are alike either. ;)

Keep a stiff upper lip...you are a Honey, don't you forget it!! :)


... get to know the guy, if you see some things that dont make sense, clear it up. Make your own little investigation. Dont let someone get to you, hurt you. If it doesnt feel right, it probably isnt right.

Sound advice, Faith...gotta make sure it is the right carottes. Last night was watching a program on genetically modified foods...so with that said we can only determine that not all carrots are alike either. ;)

Keep a stiff upper lip...you are a Honey, don't you forget it!! :)

Thanks Raven. yeah i'm a sweetie...i've been told that so many times...maybe thats the problem! :o

Oops, :o forgot Robert Frost's quote...

In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.
-Robert Frost

Robert Frost was a genius! Now if we can only remember those words when we're in the middle of a crisis!

Remind me & then give me a swift but gentle boot in the arse. ;)

Oops, :o forgot Robert Frost's quote...

In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.
-Robert Frost


listen: there's a hell of a good universe next door. let's go!
~ ee cummings

:D

Is that anything like 'get back in the saddle'?? ;)

:D

Is that anything like 'get back in the saddle'?? ;)

*laugh* Something like that, uh?


It's kinda like...heck, if this universe didn't work out...there are plenty more to check out!
:)

:) That'll work!

Just so everyone knows. I'm doing just fine now. Thanks all for your support! You are a bunch of wonderful people. I truly love you alot! ((hugs))

I must have an angel watching over me! :)

Just so everyone knows. I'm doing just fine now. Thanks all for your support! You are a bunch of wonderful people. I truly love you alot! ((hugs))

I must have an angel watching over me! :)
Very glad to hear that :)

Hope thing carry on going well in your life and that angel stays with you :)

Good to see you are OK...generally it is for the best. :)