Teenagers!

My daughter almost gave me a heart attack!
she works part time at a big furniture store. well, she finishes at 9pm today. Sometimes she finishes a bit later as she has to count the money. Anyway, usually she is out by 9h10 or so. And she always call me when she finishes. Thats the deal!
One time she finished at 9h45 and i was tryng to call her on her cell and it was her voice mail. I completely, totally panicked! FINALLY she called and she said she had to do the money counting. well, i didnt know so i told her next time if you know you finish later than 9h15 or so you CALL ME or else!
So, today she called me at 9h20 saying she was doing the counting and she would be done in about 10 minutes. So, until 9h40 I was ok. I figured another 10 minutes more. Than 9h45, 9h50, 9h55...by than I look like a crazy rampant schizo! Keep calling her cell, her damn voice mail!!!!!
FINALLY its 10 and she calls. She was late cause they were short of 112$.
She is on her way home now.
She will be 17 on October 7.
So to those who have young children still...enjoy!
Boys its not so bad but a girl...you worry way more for stuff like that! :(
I dont have a freakin car which really makes me feel guilty of not being able to afford it or I would go pick her up at work.
She is very independant but I at least want to know she is safe. That is ALL I want! And when they are that age even if she is a good kid, you do worry.
oh, the wonders of parenthood!
My heart is racing normally again even if I'm still a bit shaky
:(

You must be a conscientious and caring mom Dear Faith…but err you know worrying is counter-productive activity…concentrate on what exactly you are worrying about…physical safety?? that she may be hanging out with others of which you would not approve of??

I can remember my own mother that she was a compulsive worrier and her poor heart gave out when I was in my mid teens, may God rest her…but being a worrier seldom helps others.

Do you really live in very unsafe neighborhood?? What about alternative routs of transportations…how her other workmates go home?? There must be some solutions somewhere….

There is a solution... she could call, as often as necessary. LOL.

I went through this with my Mom, too, Faith. ;) I worked from pretty much age 12 on... (under the table from 12-14)... and the RULE was, if you're going to be late, CALL.

Funny thing? I am still so close to my Mom now that if I am going somewhere (like, to Canada to visit my friend in London), I give my mom an email with the dates and times of my trip, my friends FULL name, phone number, when I will be home, who is caring for my animals, etc., etc..

OH BOY did we have a few head butting times in the mid-teens when I would forget to call when I was late. Of course, we didn't have cellphones then. Do you and your daughter have a text messaging option? Maybe that would be a good solution. You send her a text... "U ok?" And she understands to respond with a "Yep, Mom. Be along shortly" or whatever. :D

BOYS are difficult when they are young and girls are angels. But as teeners, you definitely worry more about girls. You are SO right on that one.
~phos

Look compulsive worrier transmit their tensions...and make other jumpy....think on exactly what you are worrying about....and find solutions...


Yes she should call or SMS.....

Pity, most of the world's cities are not Tokyo....The Safest City in the world after dark....

There is a solution... she could call, as often as necessary. LOL.

I went through this with my Mom, too, Faith. I worked from pretty much age 12 on... (under the table from 12-14)... and the RULE was, if you're going to be late, CALL.
Funny thing? I am still so close to my Mom now that if I am going somewhere (like, to Canada to visit my friend in London), I give my mom an email with the dates and times of my trip, my friends FULL name, phone number, when I will be home, who is caring for my animals, etc., etc..
OH BOY did we have a few head butting times in the mid-teens when I would forget to call when I was late. Of course, we didn't have cellphones then. Do you and your daughter have a text messaging option? Maybe that would be a good solution. You send her a text... "U ok?" And she understands to respond with a "Yep, Mom. Be along shortly" or whatever. :D
BOYS are difficult when they are young and girls are angels. But as teeners, you definitely worry more about girls. You are SO right on that one.
~phos


Thanks Phos :)
Julie has a cell but like you as a teenager she forgets sometimes :rolleyes:
And let say I call, she might not answer cause she has taken off the ring or its on vibrate...sheesh. Thats only one example. Most times its ok. She is a good kid. But sometimes!
Soooo...I have to repeat myself. It is normal with teenage girls in this day and age to worry as a mom. I give her plenty of space. She is so rarely home. Well, except in the evening. She does go out of course but I have some rules regarding that. And sorry, a 16 years old aint going to come back alone on the street at 11-midnight. no freakin way!!
Ok, so I might be a bit over protective in certain areas but I'm wondering which moms arent.
I have 2 older sons and it is TOTALLY different. I didnt worry the same as I do my daughter at that age.
Well, I cant wait that she is passed the teenage years...it take its toll on mom's nerves sometimes lol

I am the product of an overprotective Mom and I am SURE I will be one, too. I do not think being overprotective is a bad thing, unless you are denying them their growth, which is a different thing entirely. I have every right (if not responsibility) to know where my child (under 18) is at ALL times, WHO they are with, WHAT they are doing and when they will be home.

To NOT worry when one of these simple, fair and reasonable rules are broken is negligent and ridiculous. :D And the heck if I will care if someone thinks I'm being overprotective. My kids. MY responsibility and I could NOT live with myself if something happened to them. Worry is natural.

You're doing fine, fine, fine, Faith. ;) I admire you... indeed.
~phos

I am the product of an overprotective Mom and I am SURE I will be one, too. I do not think being overprotective is a bad thing, unless you are denying them their growth, which is a different thing entirely. I have every right (if not responsibility) to know where my child (under 18) is at ALL times, WHO they are with, WHAT they are doing and when they will be home.

To NOT worry when one of these simple, fair and reasonable rules are broken is negligent and ridiculous. :D And the heck if I will care if someone thinks I'm being overprotective. My kids. MY responsibility and I could NOT live with myself if something happened to them. Worry is natural.

You're doing fine, fine, fine, Faith. ;) I admire you... indeed.
~phos


Exactly Fos! My kids are my responsibility and I couldnt live with myself if something happens to her because I would of been negligent. Since my sons are now 20 and 23 I dont really worry. VERY rarely. Not the same.
I dont care one bit what other thinks of me either. Sheesh...I dont think they care what I thnk how they run their life so why should I care what they think how I run mine?!
You seem to start rubbin off on me now! lol
And thanks for the compliment girl
:D

I have the same issues with my son ......I always laugh when someone says it's easier w/boys ..........WHAT? You have the exact same worries / issues.

They usually say ......well you don't have to worry about your son getting pg at an early age ........No you sure don't ..........but it's not any less of a worry if he gets a girl pg at his early age !!

I really applaud my mother for making it through !!!

Aram honey....you musn't be a mumma...or you wouldn't say "don't worry"....coz thats our job!!!!

Faith my daughter is 18...moved out...not too far away...when she turned 18...I still message her all the time...need to know how she is doing DAILY....not psycho TO her but yes if I know she is going out partying or drinking with friends...I'm thinking...who's driving...hope they aren't drinking....hope there's no psychos around...coz she is a beautiful girl....very open and bright and bubbly...losers like that.....what if she hasn't got enough dollars for a cab...does she need to borrow money...will she eat...GOD DAMN letting go is the hardest thing...and I'm not what you'd call over protective...just a loving mumma of a teenage girl....

its not her I don't trust...although she read the riot act not too long ago...about me trusting her decisions...so yes one more little bit of seperation and control...but oh I love her so much and want her to keep having the best of times...and she will...

I hate when she has her phone on silent or it goes to voicemail..."but mum I've got no credit so i just turn it off"...I'm like ...well I'm ringing YOU....D'OH!

Aram honey....you musn't be a mumma...or you wouldn't say "don't worry"....coz thats our job!!!!

Faith my daughter is 18...moved out...not too far away...when she turned 18...I still message her all the time...need to know how she is doing DAILY....not psycho TO her but yes if I know she is going out partying or drinking with friends...I'm thinking...who's driving...hope they aren't drinking....hope there's no psychos around...coz she is a beautiful girl....very open and bright and bubbly...losers like that.....what if she hasn't got enough dollars for a cab...does she need to borrow money...will she eat...GOD DAMN letting go is the hardest thing...and I'm not what you'd call over protective...just a loving mumma of a teenage girl....

its not her I don't trust...although she read the riot act not too long ago...about me trusting her decisions...so yes one more little bit of seperation and control...but oh I love her so much and want her to keep having the best of times...and she will...

I hate when she has her phone on silent or it goes to voicemail..."but mum I've got no credit so i just turn it off"...I'm like ...well I'm ringing YOU....D'OH!

Thanks girl
Yup, thats me too allright. My daughter is like yours. And the things you think and worry about are SO similar to mine!
Yeah we are NOT over protective, just moms that cares and love our daughters and want them to be safe and happy.
You have to be a mom to understand ;)
And guess what? My daughter wants to move at 18! :(
She is very independent and wants her own space. You daughters sounds SO much lke mine!
I'm like, well, you cant move, you want to go to college and university lol
She told me that is HER, how SHE IS. Wants to do things on her own.
*sigh*. I cant tie her down now can I?
She will be 17 on October 7. Only about a year to go before she moves.
I think I'm going to cry like a baby when she leaves...sheesh :(
I used to rock her to sleep until she was like 16 months old lol
Loved it. I couldnt feel my arm lol but I just loved that moment. After she had eat, had her bath, I was sitiing in the rocking chair and she would fall asleep in my arms. *sigh*
Now I get a kiss here and there...woosh woosh mom...I'm a big girl now! l
But to me she will always be my little girl in a way.

All birds wd fly from nest some day....one can't help worry but worrying can't be the mode of life....