The pink bunnies..

...still going. Kind of a tacky thread title, I know, but it was what came to mind. I am still in a state of wonderment at the fact that this wonderful relationship has not only lasted, but has grown and blossomed. I had never expected to find such a fantastic lady, and I never expected her to come in a (then) fifty four year old package. But here we are two years later and still going.

One of the things that has amazed me is how much more I have come to appreciate her since our relationship became romantic two years ago. I am continually finding new things about her to appreciate, while rediscovering those things I had thought I knew already.

Well, I suppose I have gushed enough, so now to the point of the matter. I said in the ideas thread that I would post about the good things that have happened, not just the challenges. But it's easy to post about good stuff; every relationship here has at least some good stuff. But I wanted to post about the good stuff that actually strengthens the relationship and brings two people closer, thus transcending any challenges presented by the age difference.

For me, the good stuff is in paying attention to her and appreciating her for everything she is. I find that in constantly trying to know her better, I always find more about her to love. Each nuance, each moment with her I try to take in and lock into my memory, and when things are going lousy in other parts of my life, I remember those things. I also remember the things she loves, the things that make her happy, the things that make her sad. I make sure to be attentive to her moods so that I can be the most for her that I can.

Well, you've probably all had enough of my mushiness.

Dan Echo

Dan, I don't think this is a tacky thread at all. I think it is wonderful to hear someone talk about a relationship the way that you just have. Its this kind of good stuff that helps us to rise to the challenges that AG and LDR's pose. I am about to go visit my YM for the 5th time this year. Each time is different, each time is better than the last.

For me the good stuff is the nightly phone call. Just to hear his voice, even if we talk about nuthin, is bliss. The good stuff is being called his "treasure", feeling really valued. The good stuff is getting to be my genuine self when I am with him, not having to worry about what he thinks, because he lets me know what he thinks. Guess what I am getting at is the wonderful sense of sharing our lives with one another, learning about each other. The good stuff is the laughter, the incredible laughter!! When this all began I never dreamed I could feel this way about another person! Gush Gush Gush!!! :D

Here's to the pink bunnies! LOL!

I think it's wonderful that you feel that way after 2 years!

Jeremy and I have been together 1 year and 2 months and I love him more than the day I fell for him! He just sent me a text message from work, "I am a lucky man 2 have a woman like u, beautiful, smart, caring, damn I'm lucky. I couldn't be happier!! I love you so much!!"

**happy sigh**

I hope she appreciates you as I appreciate my love! Then again, how couldn't we appreciate wonderful men like you? :)

I know this is Dan's thread, but just love to say its still going!! (Ok, you are free to gag yourselves now! ;) )

Dan,

What you have is so special. For us singles, there is a chance out there somewhere.

Thanks for giving us hope.

Donna

You're quite welcome, Donna.

DanE

ahh so sweet..... I wanna feel the pink bunnies too :p

Dan:

Schweeet!

I come back after a week of not posting, and this thread is....

STILL GOING!! :p

DanE

dan, nice thread. i'm waiting to read up on the tips, i.e. what make a relationship lasts. so many break ups i read in here. it gets really depressing and draining to read sometimes. which is one of the reason why i've not been in here besides the reason that i usually can't relate to most of the happenings. i've been studying on relationships for ages and still collecting tips on it. please do share. i'm all ears.!!!

ng

Thanks, NG!

I wish I was a relationship guru, but all I can say is that hard work is a big part of the equasion.

As for the pink bunnies, well its 2006 and.......still going!!!!

DanE

.....and still going!!

DanE

Dan, it's always heartwarming and refreshing to read what you post about your lady. You are both lucky to have found eachother in this big, crazy world. Luckier still to see and appreciate the unique beauty and good qualities you each possess. Thanks for sharing! :)

Dan, it's always heartwarming and refreshing to read what you post about your lady. You are both lucky to have found eachother in this big, crazy world. Luckier still to see and appreciate the unique beauty and good qualities you each possess. Thanks for sharing! :)


I soooo agree... I love Dans Posts!!! He is such a beautiful person and His lady is sooo very lucky!!!!!!

Time sure flies, and before we know it, the three year mark will have come and gone. In many ways, we've come incredibly far, but we still have a good distance to go. Every so often, life just has a way of reminding you of that, and this past week, we both got a nice reminder of that. Its so unfair that our circumstances are such that it is difficult to make future plans, and sometimes, situations outside of our relationship can be a real drag for us. Sometimes I think it would be easier if our obstacles were problems in getting along, because we could fix those. Unfortunately, outside circumstances have inserted their ugly heads into her life, and by extension, into mine.

But circumstances come and go, situations wax and wane. I'm happy to say that through a tough week for both of us, our relationship seems to have proven strong. It is in these times, however, that we must love the most; it is easy to love when circumstances are right and the situation is good. Happy to say, "Still going", but weeks like this is a reminder that our relationship is still going due to continued fueling of it's engine, not through perpetual motion.

DanE

Right you are, Dan! Relationships are hard work...that's why they call it COMMITMENT!

Robin and I had a hard couple of weeks...life issues...and it's been really tough. I'm happy to say though, we're hanging in there. We may have had one foot out the door a time or two, but we pulled it right back in!

There's comfort in knowing that even in the hardest of times, the relationship, like a strong foundation, will perservere and that no one's going anywhere. When you get to that point, then you get to look at the other person and say, "Okay, this is a really tough time. Let's brain storm on how to get out of it and work together as a team." When your relationship reaches that "team" stage, that's when bigger goals can be focused on and achieved, and the relationship gets to know a more secure bond. You don't have to worry about anyone leaving, so it frees you up to work harder at getting your lives where you want them to be.

.....nearly three years and STILL GOING!! Since I posted this thread the first time under my old handle, I have discovered so many more wonderful things about this amazing lady I am in love with. I've come to the point where I must simply concede (happilly) that she will never run out of wonderful things for me to discover. How sweet it is!!

DanE

Hey! Still going here too! I had forgotten about this thread and everything I said a year ago remains the same, except that I have lost count of the number of times we have been blessed to be able to see each other and we are preparing for three whole weeks together later this month!! :D