I Gave In....So Did He....

Well I'm back home. He decided to get help. He has been getting help for 2wks now. He said he had realized what he had and what was gone. Things are ok right now. Just trying to help with the rocky road. I am moving back home this weekend. I hope I made the right choice. He is facing all his demons and I am standing beside him but he is doing this on his own. I have been so busy working I really do not have time. All my friends and some of my family have turned thier backs on me and said they where done with me b/c I came back. So i be worried about there lose? It is sorta bothering me but I have left them alone. Right now I just have to worry about getting my kids through this. They are so happy that we are going back. They are what really matters most. Everything else is a bonus for us. I'll be in touch soon. For those of you that really know the situation, what do you think?

P-s- I missed all of you!!!!( HUGS)

I think you're moving too fast on moving back in with him. He should prove his words MEAN something by making an effort to set things straight over a significant period of time before you move back in.

If you even have a remote, back of the mind feeling that maybe, just maybe, you shouldn't be moving back in, then you shouldn't be moving back in. The fact you're even asking means you have that thought. You should stay where you are and give him time to PROVE his words mean something.

That's just my thought on the matter... but I won't turn my back on you and refuse to be your friend, either. But, I am terribly afraid things will fall back into their bad patterns by you moving back too quickly. PLEASE reconsider.

Edited to add: I remembered your story quite well, but I want YOU to go back and re-read this thread of yours: http://www.agelesslove.com/boards/showthread.php?t=19791

Is this really the life you want to go back to? You need to protect yourself and your children and going back WILL be enabling him. He should have, at minimum, a 30 day AA chip in hand before you even CONSIDER going back, hon. PLEASE PLEASE reconsider!!!! *fretting*

~phos

sometimes we dont need things nearly as much as we think we do. we do them out of habbit and out of the fear of not knowing whats left or where to go next. it seems you have had a bad and hard string of problems with this one. but your the only one thats able to say when enough is enough. your friends and family should always be there its what they are for. take care hun hope your able to sort things out although it sounds like you've known what to do time and time before. these choices are yours and yours alone. *the best of luck*

I agree with Fos... I think it's to soon.... but Just be careful ok.. Go into this with your EYES WIDE OPEN..... and don't make excuses for him either.. You know he has this problem and he needs tof ace up.. since he has started therapy its definatly a good sign he just needs to show a long pattern of keeping it together!!

Good Luck!!

Thanks for the feedback. His help is going so far so good. As of right now he is living as if there were not going to be another day.He has even had a couple of the bad places he used to go to turned in to the police. Right now I am working and taking care of my kids and trying to be surportive with him. I am just taking things day by day.