Gadget 10-01-2005, 12:48 AM Hi, Hello & G-day.
I am a 27 yr old mum of two daughters aged 6 & 5 and my new b/f is 57 yrs old. We have been great friends and confidants discussing absolutely everything, nothing off limits, for the past 4 yrs and have just realised that we are actually in love.
He is the most wonderful, caring, loving, funny, sexy (although we've not slept together yet) man I have ever known and it is amazing having someone love me as much as I love them. He adores my two daughters and until recently was my only babysitter. Now we will all go on dates together :D My family doesnt know yet and only two of my best friends have been told. He has told his sister and she has given him her blessing which means a great deal.
The only prob, he is my aunty's ex b/f. They have been broken up now for a month (has been touch & go for nearly a yr) and there was never any involvement from me except to be there for each of them when they needed to talk. My aunty is now severely blaming me for their breakup, saying that if I was not there for him to talk to 24/7, then he would have had to talk to her. The only reason he was talking to me is because she is emotionally detatched. We are not going to give each other up and hope over time, all will understand. It is a sacrifice I am willing to make based on other reasons. Sorry for rambling, I am truly a newbie.
greeneyedgirl 10-02-2005, 10:39 AM Hi Gadget and welcome to Ageless. :)
i moved your thread to the younger women / older men ....Relationship Support section..... of our forums in the hopes of you getting some feedback on your dilemna.
my best to you and enjoy the boards.
Tracy
kathyw 10-02-2005, 10:50 AM WELCOME TO AGELESS GADGET!! :cool: :) :D
MerAlove23 10-02-2005, 10:55 AM Gadget welcome to ageless!!!!
I have no idea on how to help you since I haven't been in these shoes.... However I am assuming nothing has happened between the two of you since they broke up? but since they have only broken up a month ago You guys fell in love in a month? or was something more stirring up when they were together?
Unfortunatly I do see how Your Aunt would feel this way and maybe in time she'll move on Or maybe she won't.. I know I wouldn't but I hope things work out for you guys~
CabinFever 10-02-2005, 12:01 PM Hi Gadget and glad you joined us!!!
As for your situation - it's a bit difficult I can see, and I guess it's just one of those things that you have to work through, and will hopefully improve over time. Good luck with it!
submart 10-02-2005, 09:41 PM Hello and welcome!
As Meralove said, we would like a little more information from you. For instance how you met him, at what point feelings started to develop, etc. How long did your aunt and him date? At what point after the break-up, did you and your OM start dating?
Bella_D 10-03-2005, 12:03 AM Ex boyfriends of best girl friends and family are off limits to me, so I'm not quite sure where your head is at......sounds like a complicated situation.
So you've been confidents for 4 years? Did you ever feel a bit wierd getting so close to your aunty's boyfriend, because I would definately feel weird about that. I tend to keep a bit of emotional distance from other ladies partners, especially ones I should be caring about such as best friends and family. .....Oh well, maybe you two have a really good connection or something?
Gadget 10-03-2005, 03:44 PM Hi Guys, I really apprecitate all the input. Thankyou. Well, a little more info. As to why he is my confidant, I have no idea? I have always kept my distance from other women's men and I never bare my soul (ever) & even with my closest friends, it's just something I am uncomfortable doing (none have even seen me cry) but with Micheal, it is just sooo easy and I've spoken to him so openly before I even realise what has happened. It is the same way with him. My aunty and Micheal were in a relationship for 4 yrs and I have had feelings for him for the past 3. I always just thought it was a fantasy and that I was feeling this way because of how close I'd become to him, I never thought he would ever think of me that way. And I never ever went out of my way to make him want me. I just dont believe in doing that. If your in a relationship - your offlimits no matter what. Micheal and I are still not actually dating yet as he is not in town (buying his motorhome) and will be gone for another 3 wks at least. We've spoken about how we feel, which again, just happens naturally and it's like we couldn't stop it even if we tried. We'd have to move apart and delete all contact details and even then .... Looking back, we both feel like it was always just us. Neither of us knew why I spent so much time at their house and found it so hard to leave or why his eyes lit up and (as he says) the sun rose, every time I walk in, why it was always just 1 more game of darts or stay for tea. We never analysed it because of his relationship. It's only since they've broken up that all these feelings have come out. Nothing has happened before or since they've broken up - other than talking. And it's going to be a while before anything does, by mutual agreement.
wvdreamer 10-06-2005, 07:45 AM I am a 27 yr old mum of two daughters aged 6 & 5 and my new b/f is 57 yrs old. We have been great friends and confidants discussing absolutely everything, nothing off limits, for the past 4 yrs and have just realised that we are actually in love.
He is the most wonderful, caring, loving, funny, sexy (although we've not slept together yet) man I have ever known and it is amazing having someone love me as much as I love them. He adores my two daughters and until recently was my only babysitter. Now we will all go on dates together :D My family doesnt know yet and only two of my best friends have been told. He has told his sister and she has given him her blessing which means a great deal.
The only prob, he is my aunty's ex b/f. They have been broken up now for a month (has been touch & go for nearly a yr) and there was never any involvement from me except to be there for each of them when they needed to talk. My aunty is now severely blaming me for their breakup, saying that if I was not there for him to talk to 24/7, then he would have had to talk to her. The only reason he was talking to me is because she is emotionally detatched. We are not going to give each other up and hope over time, all will understand. It is a sacrifice I am willing to make based on other reasons. Sorry for rambling, I am truly a newbie.
For whatever reasons, you boyfriend and your aunt had some problems that led to their relationship ending. Sounds like a little bit of a soap opera going on, and there defintiely is a bit of drama; just take things slow and this too shall pass.
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