Meeting OM's mom...

His mom just came back from traveling and he wants me to meet her and I'm a really shy person and I'm scared because I'm younger (18) and I don't know what she's going to think. And there's no way I can avoid this because his mother lives in his house. Not saying that I want to avoid it, but I don't feel ready to meet her. Anybody have any advice or has been in a similar situation. :confused:

I would say just behave like you would when meeting anyones mother....be yourself...but be polite and friendly.

Do you know what all she knows about yalls relationship? How old is your OM? Do you know her opinion of yalls relationship?

If she's rude or mean to you...don't get frustrated or angry...just stay polite...thats the best thing to do.

Other than that...Id say just be yourself. *smile* I'm sure you'll do fine.

Nadine.

if i were you i wouldn't stress out about it. i'm in a similar age gap realtionship. Im 18 and my bf is 34. I was pretty nervous about meeting my om's mother , but she ended up being really sweet. Usually someone that is about her age understands how hard it is to find true love and and should be happy for you both. If things don't go the way you hope, just remeber you aren't in a relationship with his mother your in a relationship with HIM. ;)

I'm 18 as well, and my boyfriend's mother and I do not get along. I knew her before my OM and I got together, and she seemed to like me then, but she doesn't now!! She is very overprotective of her little boy (40! :eek: ) but...what are you gonna do? Just be respectful and hold yourself like a mature person in a mature relationship, and don't make it an issue that you are 18. Good luck!! :p

I havent met his mother yet. but im not really nervous about meeting her, its his sister that makes me nervous.

Ah, yes...I still remember meeting the wife's family for the first time. It was quite an event. Especially when her dad showed up drunk. :o

The only family members she hasn't met yet are my grandmother (she has health problems and was not up to receiving guests) and my youngest brother (who just turned 37 and has just re-surfaced after being gone for a long time).

Some of us have family like Ozzy and Harriet Nelson...and some of us have family like Ozzy and Sharon Osbourne! ;)

It's all part of the adventure.

My OM's mom really likes me. Even though he is 17 yrs older than me...my mom is 53 and his is 54. His mom was a slightly young mom and my mom was a slightly old mom. I just sort of felt like I was with my own mother.

My OM's mom is 74, me and my OM are 23yrs different.
I havent meet her yet and she is aware that my OM is dating someone.
I dunno how far will his family accept our relationship as I'm just same age
as his nieces and nephews. I think my OM have a problems with it as he might
worried that his family will think that he is a dirty OM which want to date young
gal. However this is just mainly my perception. I would want to meet his mom
but then think again i'm a bit nervous as she might not able to accept us. :eek:
Moreover, she still treat his Ex as her daugther in law. So at the moments
only thing I can do is wait for both of us are ready to face it. But I know
it wont be long.

sadly i never got to meet me OM's mom she passed away back in may when we had only been together a few weeks. His dad is ex army and has a tendency to not be very nice, he doesnt want me to meet him because he thinks his dad may insult me (he dont get on well with his dad, he is a control freak apparently) his other family (sisters and brothers and daughter) dont know i exist.

My OM doesnt think its any of their business, and he has hardly any contact with them, they are spread over the world and as for his daughter.. thats another story. His friends have all met me and accepted me.

But i would think if you and your OM are serious you will have to meet her some time and getting it over with early gives you more time to get to know her, ill agree, you have a reason to worry as do all people in age gap relationships but you may be surprised at how accepting people really are (my mum n dad accepted my OM who is the same age as them, i was stunned)

good luck

My OMs mom is totally sweet. I love her! (Seeing that its apple season, we'll probably get a pie tomorrow when we go see her.) When I first started dating my boyfriend, my friends would be like...wow, his mother is still alive?
She's 79-80...something like that. I would then tell them, get this, his GRANDMOTHER is still alive. Unfortunately his grandmother did pass on about a year ago, but it was due to an tragic accident. She was very much aware and vibrant until the day she passed.

The thing though with families, is that you never know. Sometimes the people you expect to be least understanding, turn out to be the best about the whole thing. Sometimes the people you think you can count on, end up letting you down. You never know unless you just do it!

Talk about it with your OM. Maybe you guys can meet somewhere "nutral" like at a resturaunt or something. That may ease the tension a little.

Christina

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Don't worry! If she really cares about her son and sees he is happy. Than she should have no problem. I went through the same thing a couple of months ago and now I am one of his mom best shopping pals. Just show her how much you care for her son and be true to who you are to her. Be open and friendly with her.