I have a big problem! If you can help please let me know something!

[COLOR=Magenta]I have been with my boyfriend for awhile now! He is really good to me. Everything was going really good until I find out I am pregnant. I got pregnant first time we did anything. We were careful. I know nothing is 100% proof. He is about 10 years older than me, he is only 30 and have 3 kids. He is happy about me being pregnant. The problem is every time we try to make love he has a problem. We either go without it for a couple of days and make love and it is so quick. I mean I am just getting started and he is done. The other problem is when we get to really go longer he either can't cum or goes soft. I asked him if there is anything wrong with me and he says no I am beautiful and perfect the way I am. Then I asked him if he had this problem before he said yes with him ex- girlfriend. The one that is crazy and that cheated on him. It has been going on now for about a month and a half. We have had some problems other than in the bedroom. We argue aboout his kids and money. He is always tried(he owns his own business and is a volunteer firefighter). So he has no time really. I do everything at the house and take care of the kids. So, I have no I idea what to do. If you can help. Please let me know something.

Wow...you've got a lot on your plate here, girl! I don't know where to start....

First, are YOU happy that you are pregnant...you mentioned that he was happy, but what about you? Is this the life you want? It sort of sounds from your post that things are moving along real quick and you're not totally certain that you're happy with where things are going, or that you're having second thoughts about the relationship. It seems like you have become an instant mom - which your BF is probably pretty happy about! (I'm getting images here of Goldie Hawn in Overboard!).

About the sex part, I think that if you are both willing to be patient and work at it, you should be able to come to some sort of compromise where you can both make each other happy. It just takes time and willingness, IMO.

ApeyRed i moved your thread to the relationship support section of the yw/om forum...to hopefully get you more great advice.

Good Luck gal

Tracy

I agree with the other posters. What do you want about being pregnant? Do you want a child at this point in your life? Do you want to have a child with this man? There are options at this point if you act quickly: abortion or adoption. This is a personal choice, and make the best decision for you. If you choose to raise the child with this man, you and him need to talk about some things.

As for his sex drive, using condoms may help him last longer and stay more firm. There are also medications available. He may have emotional issues that is keeping him from being fully aroused (worrying about another child).

I encourage you two to go to couple counseling at this point because you have a lot on your plate. :eek:

I had the same exact problem with my ex-boyfriend. What you describe as his sexual problem is exactly my ex's problem. Unfortunately, I was a virgin when I was with hiim and had no idea that this wasn't normal. I just thought that I had sexual problems since I couldn't orgasm with him. Well, I was very relieved to find out he was the one with the problem and not me. Obviously, your man is dealing with some sexual stamina problems. If this isn't solved it can lead to LOTS of problems as you will never feel sexually fulfilled with him. However, being pregnant puts you in a very precarious position. I would seek medication for his problem and work on foreplay so that you can both be satisfied. It also sounds like you feel now trapped in a relationship you are uncertain about. YOu have tough decisions ahead of you. BUt don't avoid hardship if you know that you will eventually be happier in a different situation.

For what its worth,

Heather

As far as the erectile disfunction... buy him some Saw Palmetto (Wal-Mart, anywhere like that) and make him take it and follow the directions on the bottle. Also, make him drink LOTS of water!
Worked for mine! ;)

As far as everything else... these other ladies are probably way more qualified to help with relationship issues than me. But I'm sending you positive vibes and hugs! :)

I am ready to be a mother. I made my bed I have to lay in it. I am very happy about the baby. ( By the way I had my first ultrasound this week IT IS TWINS) I love him and I have a future with him. I am sure about this relationship. Yes, we have own problems. What couple does not! We have talked about what and how he feels about having another two kids. He is fine. The kids are happy,too. I would not trade anything in the world for his kids. One day I want to adopt them. If people ask I tell them I have 3. They mom is out of the picture. As she put it quote on quote she wants nothing to do with those barts. I love him and own kids. It is just the bedroom problem. Never had that problem before. And I always dated OM. Thanks for the advice that yall have givin me so far. Thanks, Apey

Congrats!!! I'm glad this has worked out for you.... Everyone has their issues.. it just all depends on how you handle them!! Best of Luck and I wish the best for this family!!

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I just had twin grandbabies in August. :) Hope everything works out for you......take good care of yourself!