NotCrazy?
10-10-2005, 11:49 AM
Hope this does not post twice.
I cannot believe there are so many! I too found this site using a google search when I thought I was losing it because I (who turned *gulp* 40 this year) was extremely attracted to a 19 year old man.
I am the single working mom of two teenaged daughters. My oldest's (who is only a year younger than ... my new friend) boyfriend brought a friend over with him last year sometime. He was only there a few times and I did not really interact with him much, but thought he had the most beautiful green eyes I had ever seen. Plus, I was still recovering from a 10 year relationship that had gone south the year before (two years ago now).
Early this summer, this friend came over again and again and again. After being at my house nearly every day for 3 months, knowing he had what I thought was a crush and knowing I had feelings for him that I thought were wrong, things changed. That was two months ago.
We have decided that until we feel everyone will be alright with this, it will remain just between us. However, it is abundantly clear that my youngest child (13 who had/has a huge crush on new friend) will not be alright with it. Many have been questioning us for sometime, even before there was really anything to question. The only other person besides the two of us who does know, says that since he looks older than 19 and I look younger than 40 we do not look odd together. You can see an age difference but not 21 years. My sister, who is also my closest friend made it clear a long time ago (again, before anything had happened) how she felt - the phrase "something you would see on Jerry Springer" came up.
If I do not think too much about it (how long can this last? would I do irrepairable harm to my youngest child if she found out? etc.) then I am happier than I have been in years.
Sometimes, yes he does act 19 - the language - good grief. Most of the time though, I forget about the age difference. He has packed A LOT in those 19 years!!
Thanks folks - just knowing you all are here makes me feel better.
I cannot believe there are so many! I too found this site using a google search when I thought I was losing it because I (who turned *gulp* 40 this year) was extremely attracted to a 19 year old man.
I am the single working mom of two teenaged daughters. My oldest's (who is only a year younger than ... my new friend) boyfriend brought a friend over with him last year sometime. He was only there a few times and I did not really interact with him much, but thought he had the most beautiful green eyes I had ever seen. Plus, I was still recovering from a 10 year relationship that had gone south the year before (two years ago now).
Early this summer, this friend came over again and again and again. After being at my house nearly every day for 3 months, knowing he had what I thought was a crush and knowing I had feelings for him that I thought were wrong, things changed. That was two months ago.
We have decided that until we feel everyone will be alright with this, it will remain just between us. However, it is abundantly clear that my youngest child (13 who had/has a huge crush on new friend) will not be alright with it. Many have been questioning us for sometime, even before there was really anything to question. The only other person besides the two of us who does know, says that since he looks older than 19 and I look younger than 40 we do not look odd together. You can see an age difference but not 21 years. My sister, who is also my closest friend made it clear a long time ago (again, before anything had happened) how she felt - the phrase "something you would see on Jerry Springer" came up.
If I do not think too much about it (how long can this last? would I do irrepairable harm to my youngest child if she found out? etc.) then I am happier than I have been in years.
Sometimes, yes he does act 19 - the language - good grief. Most of the time though, I forget about the age difference. He has packed A LOT in those 19 years!!
Thanks folks - just knowing you all are here makes me feel better.