I don't get parents

Ok, I went to lunch with my mom yesterday. And we had a wierd conversation. I am still a little bummed about ending the realationship with my ex, but I'm getting over it. Remember, my parents have no idea we were back together. So at lunch I bring up age gaps and what she and my dad think is an "apropriate age gap." Do you know what she said?? 5 years!!! I startedlaughing. And I told her that all my bf's have been 30 or older. She was stunned!! Of course the only b/f she has ever met was "C", and he was 36. Then she told me if I dated anyone more than 5 years older than myself never to bring them around and to lie about thier age b/c she didn't want to know. This is so funny b/c my dad's parents are 7 yrs appart, and my great grandparents are 13 years appart! And this is the mother who told me I could talk to her about anything. When I was 13 she told me if I ever became sexually active to tell her so she could put me on the pill! And she doesn't want to know who I date! Wow.

Christina

Yeah I think parents are messed up like that sometimes. My mom knows about my relationship (well not everything) with my om but my dad doesn't.

Oh my goodness...that is strange. 5 years? I don't think I've ever dated in a 5 year range. Ok...maybe once...but it only lasted a week. lol.

I don't understand parents either. I talked to my mom on the phone last night...and she told me that my 18 year old sister's internet "boyfriend" is coming to visit in two weeks. (He's 23...same age as me) This being the same mom who freaked out when I told her I met my boyfriend online. *sigh*

I just don't get it.

Nadine.

Hehe...parents are funny!

I can't believe that she thinks no more than 5 years is appropriate! My parents are 13 years apart, so you'd think they'd be a bit more open about it but I don't think they like it much. I think my mom's a bit wary of big age-gaps though because my dad is having health problems and she's fit as could be and I know it's hard on her. I think my dad still doesn't like me dating anyone...doesn't matter what age the guy is ;) . My parents are funny though, you basically have to pry their opinions out of them.

I can relate to you!!

My mom thinks that within the five year range is appropriate. She flipped out when she found out my OM is 16 years older. She immediately told me to break it off with him, and that she doesn't want to hear anymore about it!! Case closed.

Well, my parents are 10 years apart, so she has NO say in what is acceptable. You are a grown woman, and you are to make your own choices in life!

When my mom was in high school she told me she wasted four years of her life with a man who was 16 years older. He just used her from what I understand. Though I'm sad that happened to her, she needs to realize NOT all men are like that.

Over the months, my mom has gotten MUCH better. When she calls me, she'll ask if I talked with my "friend" (OM lol). She also had a chance to talk to him one on one a few weeks back, and asked him some questions. She said he's nice, but old looking (7 yrs her junior).

Things will get better for you eventually (and if not remember this is YOUR life not hers)!! Enjoy your man :)

maybe your mom is right
dating people much much elder to you is not good
5 years limit is ok
thats cause your minds match
woh do you want to date? someone your moms age

maybe your mom is right
dating people much much elder to you is not good
5 years limit is ok
thats cause your minds match
woh do you want to date? someone your moms age


Tiadesai.....

Now I do respect your opinion... HOWEVER i'm not sure if you realize that this is a SUPPORT site for age gap relationships.....Who we date is our decisions and I can prove your theory wrong....It is great to date people you LOVE... and you CARE about... Age is not what you love... and the superficial things in life and if you do then I'm sorry then you limit yourself..... Love is Love....My HUSBAND whom I LOVE dearly Is 17 years older than I am... we have a GREAT relationship and we have a BEAUTIFUL baby boy together. and my entire family supports it....and sees how great we are together.... I have dated many men my age and nothing compared to the Love I receive from my husband.... I also was very much in love with someone who was 2 years older than me... and he passed away at 25 years old.... so thats not even an issue because Death is any age.....Point being you love who you love if they are tall, short, small, big, white, black, man, woman, older, younger..> You LOVE the person and their soul..

I'm sorry but I'm not sure that your in support of these relationships and confused as to why you are here... :confused: :confused:

Yeah I think parents are messed up like that sometimes Some are! Mine just said "oh boy! more grandbabies!" ;) when meeting Jerry, age 20 and me age 34... (25 years ago)

Don't feel bad. Stephy & I have been through this too with our respective families. Quick rundown:

Stephy's mom - shocked at first, learned to accept it. Enjoys having us both over for visits.

Stephy's dad - hated the idea initially. Has a better attitude now.

Stephy's brother - no problems with it at all.

My mom - seems to be accepting it, but is hard to figure out at times.

My dad - is still not totally comfortable around her. However, he has more serious issues going on.

My middle brother - no problems with it at all.

My youngest brother - if I can ever find him to ask...most of the time he is in "parts unknown".

Each family member reacts differently. All I can do is pray that they will understand and love us; if they don't, they are the ones missing out.