kat2wolf
10-12-2005, 05:51 PM
Hi People,
I am a new member. I'm 42 from Wisconsin. I have a relationship issue that I really need some help on. I met my fiance Aug. 6th through online personals. We are getting married in May. On my profile in the personal ad.....I had 40 marked as my age by accident. I am really 42......well just turned 43 yesterday. Yesterday my fiance brought me a cake and it had happy 41st birthday on it. I knew then he must have seen my ad when it had the incorrect age. I didn't want to ruin the evening so I didn't bring it up. I am also afraid to lose him. He has been hurt a lot and I'm afraid that he might see this as a deception. He broke up with me a few weeks after we met because he felt I didn't appreciate him enough and his co-workers told him I was using him.....and they never met me. After one horrible day we got past that and talked things out. Normally I wouldn't think this was a big deal, but he has been burned......his ex-wife cheated on him all of the time and got pregnant with someone else's child.
I don't know whether to come clean on this......he could find out when we go for the marriage license or maybe he won't find out and I have to live with it. I don't want to lose him......he is the best thing that has ever happened to me and if I lose him because I tell him the truth.....I will regret it for the rest of my life. At the same time.....it's a lot to carry inside....knowing that you're keeping something from someone you love so deeply. He's 45.
I don't know what to do?
Cathy
I am a new member. I'm 42 from Wisconsin. I have a relationship issue that I really need some help on. I met my fiance Aug. 6th through online personals. We are getting married in May. On my profile in the personal ad.....I had 40 marked as my age by accident. I am really 42......well just turned 43 yesterday. Yesterday my fiance brought me a cake and it had happy 41st birthday on it. I knew then he must have seen my ad when it had the incorrect age. I didn't want to ruin the evening so I didn't bring it up. I am also afraid to lose him. He has been hurt a lot and I'm afraid that he might see this as a deception. He broke up with me a few weeks after we met because he felt I didn't appreciate him enough and his co-workers told him I was using him.....and they never met me. After one horrible day we got past that and talked things out. Normally I wouldn't think this was a big deal, but he has been burned......his ex-wife cheated on him all of the time and got pregnant with someone else's child.
I don't know whether to come clean on this......he could find out when we go for the marriage license or maybe he won't find out and I have to live with it. I don't want to lose him......he is the best thing that has ever happened to me and if I lose him because I tell him the truth.....I will regret it for the rest of my life. At the same time.....it's a lot to carry inside....knowing that you're keeping something from someone you love so deeply. He's 45.
I don't know what to do?
Cathy