Same sex age-gap Friendships

Okay so this is just something that came to mind...

We are all here b/c we are in, were in or want to be in age age gap romantic relationship. But does anyone have an age gap friendship with someone of the same sex(mothers, cousins etc. excluded)?? For example do any of the 24 yr old ladies have a good female friend who is say over 40??

I thought of this b/c sometimes I notice in clashing posts...that I just can't comprehend the opinion of someone, then I realize they are 20 something years older than me, maybe I just can't see where they are coming from. Or maybe b/c I am 20 something years younger than them they just don't see eye to eye with my ways.

And in day to day life come to think of it, I feel like older women are never that nice to me. I have always gotten along well with OM's even just as friends. But I can't remember an OW I have gotten that close to. Don't get me wrong, on this site, I have a lot of respect for all the OW and I am glad I have gotten to talk to you all over the computerso I can get a different out look on things. It makes me wonder why if I can find several nice older women to talk to on line, why in real time many of them seem cold to me.


Just want everyones thoughts/experiences.

Okay so this is just something that came to mind...

We are all here b/c we are in, were in or want to be in age age gap romantic relationship. But does anyone have an age gap friendship with someone of the same sex(mothers, cousins etc. excluded)?? For example do any of the 24 yr old ladies have a good female friend who is say over 40??

I thought of this b/c sometimes I notice in clashing posts...that I just can't comprehend the opinion of someone, then I realize they are 20 something years older than me, maybe I just can't see where they are coming from. Or maybe b/c I am 20 something years younger than them they just don't see eye to eye with my ways.

And in day to day life come to think of it, I feel like older women are never that nice to me. I have always gotten along well with OM's even just as friends. But I can't remember an OW I have gotten that close to. Don't get me wrong, on this site, I have a lot of respect for all the OW and I am glad I have gotten to talk to you all over the computerso I can get a different out look on things. It makes me wonder why if I can find several nice older women to talk to on line, why in real time many of them seem cold to me.


Just want everyones thoughts/experiences.

You know, I dont think that OW that are cold to you are because of your age. I get the cold shoulder too. I know I probably might start something here, maybe not but many women tend to be *****y and jealous between themselves. Thats why I never had that many girls friends. I have one best friend for over 10 years and thats about it. I have my temper, dont get me wrong but I dont feel threaten by other women. To each his own. Know what I mean?
I have one person I get along with here and trust. Another one also I find real cool.
Also I have many cousins my age but the only one I am close to is 32 years old. I dont know if its because we are both an only child or some other reasons but just the way it is.
So, dont think its because of your age that some OW are cold to you. It happens to everyone regarding of the age.
Thats my perspective on it anyway.

hmmm

I know a lot of people like that, who have few female friends reguardless of age, but I am definately the exception. I am that "ice breaker" person. The one who will see a girl I don't know and if I love her bag, I'll tell her. I am not shy about complimenting/introducing myself to other people. Usually I noticed once I break the ice, the person is nicer, b/c they are only stand-offish b/c they don't know what you think of them. I just feel like over all, on the day to day, it is harder to break the ice with OW. I mean of course there have been exceptions who were really cool, but not in general.

To answer your question,

I have two friends from work, same sex, one is 22 and the other is 31. I'm 53. I have other friends who are in my age range 45-55. My manager is 35 and we get along like fabulously, lol.

I'm choiceful as to what I post and where I post and most of the other women here, of all ages, have treated me with respect. I've met several members IRL, and they have been wonderful (shout out to Science Goddess). She's in her late 30's I believe. If we lived close to one another we'd do stuff together, I'm sure.

I believe I have a younger BF and several female friends younger than myself because I am very youthful in my outlook on life. I have found at times that some older people are too interested in their financial fortunes and aches and pains. That's not for me!

The notion of older women being jealous of younger women, well some may be, but for me, I love the age I am. I worked hard to get here.

Keep looking for older women friends. I'm sure they are out there.

Hmm... I have always had friends who were either significantly older or significantly younger in both sexes, as well as a few in my own age group.

I have two close girlfriends who are similar in age to me (within two years up or down, one of whom is one of my closest friends), I have two that are more than 10 years older and one who is around 25 years older. My other closest, bestest friend is 10 years younger than me. And yet another who I consider near and dear to my heart who is 14 years younger.

So, it all works out pretty evenly... my friends are spread amongst the generations and always have been. When I was in college, I became very good friends with two neighbors, one was a single lady in her 50s, who I ended up rooming with for three months, and the other was a widow in her 70s.

Come to think of it, with a lifelong track record like that, I guess it's only fitting I find myself in an age gap relationship.
~phos

You know, I dont think that OW that are cold to you are because of your age. I get the cold shoulder too. I know I probably might start something here, maybe not but many women tend to be *****y and jealous between themselves. Thats why I never had that many girls friends. I have one best friend for over 10 years and thats about it. I have my temper, dont get me wrong but I dont feel threaten by other women. To each his own. Know what I mean?
I have one person I get along with here and trust. Another one also I find real cool.
Also I have many cousins my age but the only one I am close to is 32 years old. I dont know if its because we are both an only child or some other reasons but just the way it is.
So, dont think its because of your age that some OW are cold to you. It happens to everyone regarding of the age.
Thats my perspective on it anyway.

I agree with Faith. :)

I too, have friends of all ages. When I was younger I didn't click with many women.
I was fairly quiet and most women seemed to think that I was stuck up. Also, in my business, there is alot of jealousy, because there are only so many jobs available. I worked my butt off and was usually employed so right there many female dancers didn't like me.
Of my two oldest and best friends, one is 1 year older (she is a psychologist and my own personal shrink lol), we met as dancers in Ringling Bros. circus 25 years ago.........wow! and the other one I met when she was 11 and I was 26 (she used to take care of my animals when I was out of town, and 20 years later we are still very close.
The older I get, it seems, the easier it is to relate and have friendships with more women than I used to.
Blessings, Tinydancer

yep-what phos said. i have always had friends of all ages. and many of them i consider really close. younger-significantly and older also. yeah, i agree with phos- for me, no wonder i am in an agr....
just a side note-my older friends (70's-and even older) have always told me that they don't "feel" any older even tho their bodies are showing the signs. I kno i feel that way too....in my mind i am still about 20 or so....weird....anyone else experience this? sometimes i look at myself and think...dang, when did THIS wrinkle happen...is that me??? i dunno... my older friends say it is frustrating for the younger folks to treat them like they are soooooo "old" when in their mind they r young.


that's how i feel. i don't feel any age, i just feel like me. I hate people point out how young I am. I really don't think it's that relevant. I guess I meet a lot of closed minded or insecure people.

that's how i feel. i don't feel any age, i just feel like me. I hate people point out how young I am. I really don't think it's that relevant. I guess I meet a lot of closed minded or insecure people.

Exactly girl. Age isnt relevant. If some makes you feel bad about yourself, just ignore them or even better...kick their butt! :D
Ok...my temper talking here ;)

My closest IRL female friends are 17(my daughter),24, 31 and 37. My closest online friends are 37 (loves to Suzanne) and 70 something ... so there ya go, all ages. I have other friends that range between those ages. I think like-minded people will just gravitate towards each other and as someone said above... you still feel young, it's your body that is getting older. I remember my mom telling me this too. I think it's an attitude... think and feel young = be young forever. Age is just a measurement to let us know how long we have been taking up space this lifetime.

I think it can be hard sometimes with younger friends when you have experienced things and you know what they are heading for. You can try to advise them, but ulitimately we have our own paths to travel and have to make our own mistakes... sometimes I see such an innocence with my younger friends, just a lack of KNOWING and that can be hard because you want them to know what you know so they don't get hurt. We can learn from people of all ages...

Melis your new avatar is gorgeous...and and Erica look like models...

Thank you, Em! I like yours, you look very mysterious. :)

Hi, Everyone! I complained in my first posts about "middle aged" women giving me and my OM "the look" - which is true, it does happen. But this thread actually got me thinking about the rest of my life and all of my many treasured women friends. And guess what? They've almost always been significantly older than me!

I guess I agree with the comments above that water finds its own level, like attracts like, etc. There are all kinds of women out there and we'll gravitate towards those we have most in common with, regardless of age. My mother used to always say that I was like a 80yo granny in a little girl's body. I suppose that is how I've always wound up creating friendships with older persons. In highschool, people just thought I was weird. In my twenties gals my own age seemed to think I was boring. Now in my thirties, I make friends much easier. Maybe I'm finally catching up to myself!

Anyway, my point I guess really is that I want to pay tribute to all of my wonderful inspiring female friends, all ages, those I have in my life now, used to have and still hope to have! What would we do without friends?

I have so many friends that are 30 and 40 and they are all guys :(

now i feel abnormal or something

In Your Eyes,

The only thing I can think of which might apply to you is that you're warm, friendly, ice-breaker type of person right? Well funnily enough these traits can put some people off *at first* because they want a bit more time to digest what you're all about before responding to you. Friendly people love to jump right in and be friends with everyone, and anyone, whereas a lot of older ladies, espeically, have been burned and just need a little more time to work you out and whether you can be trusted.

I imagine you make a really good impression, even on those ladies who act a bit cold towards you at first.

Bella,

That's a really good point! I'm also one of those really friendly types. But as I've gotten older, I've learned to dial it back a little bit and be a little more careful and selective. If you cast a really wide net, you're bound to catch some suckers, too! I agree that older women might "appear" stand-offish. But they are probably just reserving judgement, in most cases. ;)

Interesting perspectives on this thread!

When I was in my 20's, I met a great lady that I remained friends with for years....she was 56 at the time and a complete hoot. I loved her to death. On the other hand, I have a teenage sister that I hang around with quite a bit. My best friend is my age...my husband is 5 years younger than I am....I suppose there are many different "age groups" in my life. I like hanging with my Mom and she's 57.....

In general, I like hanging out with men. When I make it clear that I'm married and I'm definitely not looking to have an affair, it quickly seperates the men from the boys, in terms of who REALLY wants to be my friend. Some of my very best friends have been men and that doesn't make me feel abnormal at all.