Ray 59
10-23-2005, 12:10 PM
I would really like to share my new perspectives on dealing with insecurity with you all in the hope that it will help anybody who is dealing with too much anxiety and depression.
I haven't had to many panic attacks in my life, but when I get them they can be really scary. The last one I had,was in July of this year. I was having one of the nights where I couldn't fall asleep, so naturally I started thinking about different things that have been going on in my life at the moment and started worrying about different things. What ifing to be specific. Anybody out there ever catch themselves doing this? I know there are, anyway I lost a lotta sleep that night worrying and got maybe two hours sleep max.
On my drive into work that morning I felt that the traffic was moving faster than normal, I was in the fast lane and people were really on my tail to get out of the way. This was a three lane part of the expressway, so I moved into the middle lane and the same thing happened again with somebody tailgating me, I hate when people do this, they were so close to me it started to scare me and I felt like I was loosing control and started to panic a bit, but managed to regain control of my fear.
As I was approaching the offramp exit to get to work I looked into my rear view mirror and I saw this eighteenwheeler barreling down on me at high speed. He was well over two hundred yards behind me but I could tell he was moving well beyond the speed limit. I thought for sure he was going to hit me. I was in the left lane and moved into the right to get out of his way. This guy breaked and stopped about twenty five yards behind this eighteen food cubed truck. He jumped out of truck and started to chase down the guy in the cubed truck yelling and screaming at him and as he was reaching the cubed truck the light turned green and the guy in the cubed truck sped away with a look of terror on his face.
I got away from there as fast as I could. I got to work and when I walked through the door I was practically in tears and full of anger and couldn't stop myself from yelling out load that some people are ******* NUTS!!!!
When I finally calmed down I had decided that that night I was going to go online and try to find something that could help me better to understand fear and panic. I came across this website under a Dr. Joseph J. Luciani who has written a book called The Power of Self-Coaching: The Five Essential Steps to Creating the Life You Want.
I'll try to sum this up as briefly as I can. In my case I have always been a worrywart....a whatifer and the thing I have learned from Dr.Joe is that people use worry as a controling mechanism or tool if you like to try to brace themselves for what may or may not happen around the corner. Trying to prepare themselves ahead of time so if they encounter a certain situation, they will be ready to react . Trying to control life
I have been doing this all of my life thinking it was a normal thought process. The main thing that I have learned is my worrying...whatifing, became a habit a long time ago. A habit of trying to control life. We can not control life. We can not stop bad things from happening. The problem with this type of anticipatory thinking is that when this becomes your habit you start to loose your ability to trust yourself, to deal with life as it unfolds, to trust your ability to deal with life in the here and now and when you start whatifing you are actually placing yourself in a future state of mind...feeling anger, fear, or self doubt as if it is really happening in the moment and there is nothing healthy about that at all. It leads to emotional corrosion, constant anxiety or depression.
The big three components of insecurity are self doubt, fear and negativity. Learning to understand the nature of these three is key to learning to better understand yourself. Everyone experiences insecurity to some degree and what this book does is explains to you what the nature of insecurity is and how to equip yourself to control it.
The key I have learned to getting a handle on insecurity is learning to believe and trust yourself again in your ability to handle life in the here and now and not in anticipatoy thinking such as worrying and what ifing. It's an ongoing process that has been working very well for me and I highly recommend this book for anyone who is having problems with insecurity, anxiety and depression, panic attacks etc.
As I mentioned I based this thread on my symptoms. The good Dr. Joe also talks about people who have, anger issues , control issues, trust issues . perfectionism, etc.
And one more thing before I finish. I used my middle name which you know as Ray when I first joined Ageless out of the fear of not knowing who I was going to be dealing with in this forum. I should of put more trust in my ability to deal with anyone who may be a little bit off the wall. My name is Percy and I'm getting stonger everyday. Take care everyone!!!
I haven't had to many panic attacks in my life, but when I get them they can be really scary. The last one I had,was in July of this year. I was having one of the nights where I couldn't fall asleep, so naturally I started thinking about different things that have been going on in my life at the moment and started worrying about different things. What ifing to be specific. Anybody out there ever catch themselves doing this? I know there are, anyway I lost a lotta sleep that night worrying and got maybe two hours sleep max.
On my drive into work that morning I felt that the traffic was moving faster than normal, I was in the fast lane and people were really on my tail to get out of the way. This was a three lane part of the expressway, so I moved into the middle lane and the same thing happened again with somebody tailgating me, I hate when people do this, they were so close to me it started to scare me and I felt like I was loosing control and started to panic a bit, but managed to regain control of my fear.
As I was approaching the offramp exit to get to work I looked into my rear view mirror and I saw this eighteenwheeler barreling down on me at high speed. He was well over two hundred yards behind me but I could tell he was moving well beyond the speed limit. I thought for sure he was going to hit me. I was in the left lane and moved into the right to get out of his way. This guy breaked and stopped about twenty five yards behind this eighteen food cubed truck. He jumped out of truck and started to chase down the guy in the cubed truck yelling and screaming at him and as he was reaching the cubed truck the light turned green and the guy in the cubed truck sped away with a look of terror on his face.
I got away from there as fast as I could. I got to work and when I walked through the door I was practically in tears and full of anger and couldn't stop myself from yelling out load that some people are ******* NUTS!!!!
When I finally calmed down I had decided that that night I was going to go online and try to find something that could help me better to understand fear and panic. I came across this website under a Dr. Joseph J. Luciani who has written a book called The Power of Self-Coaching: The Five Essential Steps to Creating the Life You Want.
I'll try to sum this up as briefly as I can. In my case I have always been a worrywart....a whatifer and the thing I have learned from Dr.Joe is that people use worry as a controling mechanism or tool if you like to try to brace themselves for what may or may not happen around the corner. Trying to prepare themselves ahead of time so if they encounter a certain situation, they will be ready to react . Trying to control life
I have been doing this all of my life thinking it was a normal thought process. The main thing that I have learned is my worrying...whatifing, became a habit a long time ago. A habit of trying to control life. We can not control life. We can not stop bad things from happening. The problem with this type of anticipatory thinking is that when this becomes your habit you start to loose your ability to trust yourself, to deal with life as it unfolds, to trust your ability to deal with life in the here and now and when you start whatifing you are actually placing yourself in a future state of mind...feeling anger, fear, or self doubt as if it is really happening in the moment and there is nothing healthy about that at all. It leads to emotional corrosion, constant anxiety or depression.
The big three components of insecurity are self doubt, fear and negativity. Learning to understand the nature of these three is key to learning to better understand yourself. Everyone experiences insecurity to some degree and what this book does is explains to you what the nature of insecurity is and how to equip yourself to control it.
The key I have learned to getting a handle on insecurity is learning to believe and trust yourself again in your ability to handle life in the here and now and not in anticipatoy thinking such as worrying and what ifing. It's an ongoing process that has been working very well for me and I highly recommend this book for anyone who is having problems with insecurity, anxiety and depression, panic attacks etc.
As I mentioned I based this thread on my symptoms. The good Dr. Joe also talks about people who have, anger issues , control issues, trust issues . perfectionism, etc.
And one more thing before I finish. I used my middle name which you know as Ray when I first joined Ageless out of the fear of not knowing who I was going to be dealing with in this forum. I should of put more trust in my ability to deal with anyone who may be a little bit off the wall. My name is Percy and I'm getting stonger everyday. Take care everyone!!!