I'm very devastated NOW

i'm very sad, i just want to cried my heart out!!!!! so hurt that i can feel my heart is bleeding inside.

Please read this thread before proceed reading the below :-
http://www.agelesslove.com/boards/showthread.php?t=20039

Me and OM went to a hypermarket to do some shopping. He need to go to the washroom and asked me waited for him. After a while he called me on my mobile told me that his ex is here and we just leave the place and ask he to go inside the car waited for him. I do as what he instructed and I waited for him inside his car. However after 5mins he is not here. I tried to contact his hp and he didnt answer. So I guess he must been with his ex. So I went in again. True enough they were sitting there. I put my nerve and i walked up to their table and politely I asked her can I sit down? She look at me with her eyes wide open and said "WHO ARE U!!?" and I just sat down dont bother I just want to know what is them up to? And she scolded me,"U KNOW THAT IS MY HOUSE! YOU STILL GO THE NERVE TO ASK ME WHY I COME SO LATE TO PICK UP MY THINGS? THAT IS MY HOUSE U KNOW?? I CAN COME ANYTIME I WANT!!! YOU SHOULD APOLOGIES TO ME FOR ASKING ME SUCH A QUESTION!! "

I was stunned! I dont expect her to behave such away but then I dunno why I apologised to her maybe I should asked her like that. Yet she still not enough and said again "YOU SO DO IT EARLIER WHY DO AFTER I ASKED YOU?" I started to loose my tempered by now so I asked her since it's ur house why not u staying there? she said because she dont want to stay there!

And I make a full of myself I asked her such a stupiest question that " So is this your husband?" and she said "He is!!" Then I just walked away from there. WTF last time she told me that she is not related to his man and she is married and now she said different things. If that is her house why she want to return the key to him when she found out that i'm staying there???

And you know what make it worst? my OM didnt said a single word through out the conversation!!!!!!! I just feel like he is a TOTAL COWARD!!!!!!


I really dunno how to cold myself down! I'm very very angry, sad, hurt, dissappointed and humilated. Never in my life i'm so sad and never in my life i'm hated a person so much.

Poor thing! It sounds like your boyfriend is not in a good place for a new relationship. He should have stood up for you and prevented her from talking to you while you were naked. That was a power trip on her part. If I were you, I would tell him that you don't want to see him again till he has sorted out his life. You shouldn't have to be a part of his problems with his ex and his children. His wife seems to have a lot of control over him. He doesn't stand up to her. That could turn out to be a BIG problem for you.

If that is her house, I would stay away. Wait till he has his own place and is ready to start a new life with you instead of dragging you down into his presently-messed-up life.

i remember that post. sorry you are going through this, i would be a little pissed if my guy didnt stand up for me too. you've been with him for awhile now i dont understand why a year?later does she still keep coming to pick up her things. how much stuff does she have?lol seriously. i agree with the above post, stay away for awhile.

Hmmm....

Aishiteru, you are just too cute to have to put up with all this nonsense. :p

Throw away this boyfriend like a used-up Kleenex, and look for someone else who has a life, and will treat you better.

Oh boy I'm so sorry... I remember that post also....

Its not even the fact of her behavior.. It's really what your OM did.. he should of stood up to her and told her that they were NOT together anymore and put her back in her place.. but he didn't and thats what bothers me.....

If I were you I would tell him how you feel and tell him how wrong he was and Probably walk away for now..... He is a coward and life is way to short so Make yourself be happy.. remember YOU come first!!

dear all...
reading all your postes is the sweetest things I had after that incident. I was terrible sad until i dont have the appetite to eat at all. I never been this sad before.

As in my whole entire life I would or not want to messed up with others ppl husband. She is the one who left my OM. She is the one who yearning to divorce.
Both of them are in the midst of divorcing. Both have signed the paper just that waiting for court hearing and all this will take a while which we cant have control over it and partly this delay also because of MONEY. But my OM promised me to get all this thing done ASAP. That house is not her house, My OM rented it. When they move out from the previous house. She stay there for a while then she moved out then only 2 yrs ago they want to divorce officially. So when I met my OM they are already sign the divorce paper. My OM told her that he already got GF and I even meet his son.

I love my OM very much. I decided to put through this. So to settle this, we are going to move out from the house ASAP. Then pass the keys to her son, so that she can collect her things whenever she want before rent contract due. However I guess the next time if I ever meet her again I will stand up for myself.

Its not that you shouldn't stand up for yourself its that your OM needs to stand up for you and tell his ex to BACK OFF.. I'm sorry but to me thats the issue here...

I agree with Mer. He should have stood up for you. Have you spoken to him about this? I would be very hurt too. Good for you for getting out of the situation though. Sounds like this ex wife was very controlling. She may still have the upper hand?

girls,
my OM is not legally divorce yet but in the midst on doing it. So consider both of them are legally married. So I am a home wrecker? When I come to think about I really sad. :(

Hi, I am sorry you are having these problems :( . I hope soon you can get it worked out someway. (((((HUGS)))))

Sweetie, you are NOT a homewrecker! :eek: That damage was done a long time before you came along! Try not to let her get to you. She is a very confused person. I hope things are going better for you! :)

You are DEFINITELY NOT a homewrecker!! My OM & I were both married when we met. Both of us are now "this close" to being divorced so that'll be out of the way soon....but I don't feel that either of us is a homewrecker. Both of us were in similar crappy situations and we were both bound to be divorced anyway, us meeting just kind of gave us a push in the right direction. I didn't leave my husband for him and he didn't leave his wife for me....we have both agreed that if our relationships had been hunky dory then we wouldn't have come together like we did. So I'd say in your situation, if they were happily married then he wouldn't be with you - they'd still be together and they're not so obviously there was disarray before you came along. My soon to be ex husband probably thinks I'm a homewrecker and my OM's a homewrecker but my ex is the one who wrecked our home/marriage by being an *** so I don't worry about that too much. :p

I dont understand what she want!! :confused: :confused: 2 times we have caught her parked her car few meters away from my bf house. I wonder how many times she did that. I really cant wait until next month to move out. :mad:

Finally, I started the new year being single. :)

Finally, I started the new year being single. :)

wow what happened?either way gluck- hope u will find some1 better.

wow what happened?either way gluck- hope u will find some1 better.

Well TxCaramel, there are a lot of issues here. Mainly is his OCD problems. It's severe his previous relationship with his ex and Now with me as well.