sheila4pd 11-07-2005, 01:58 AM My son, 15, was telling me today that he feels that girls his age are immature and have practically zero conversational skills. He says they mostly talk petty gossip and fashion. He feels a 20 yr old girl would be more mature and willing to have a serious relationship. I agree that he is very mature for his age, since he is an only child and is used to talking to adults about current issues, politics, and many other topics.
I just thought it was funny because he is aware I have a YM, so he probably thinks that if my bf could get an older woman, he can too.
Opinions? Comments?
Kristin 11-07-2005, 02:50 PM Well, he is still jailbait!! But I think there are a number of states have laws which allow it, as long as they are less than 3 or 4 years difference. But, to be safe, he should probably wait until he's at least legal age of consent, don't you think?
My son turns 15 on Friday and I tend to think an older girl would be better for him, as well. I don't know about 20 years old though! :eek: I dunno, I just worry that an older girl would expect a sexual relationship and I would rather he wait until he can afford any "mistakes."
MerAlove23 11-07-2005, 10:48 PM Hey guys..... Just to let you guys know that this topic is ok so far... but lets be careful... we can't discuss relationships when one of the parties is under 18 years old.. including if you started dating your SO when you were under 18 and your now over 18. Thanks guys!!
sheila4pd 11-07-2005, 11:01 PM I do not want to break any rules here, I just wanted advice on this. We had a long conversation and he pretty much decided that he is going to make a parenthesis in his life while he decides how serious a relationship he wants at his age.
I wish he was better friends with his dad because I think a man-to-man would have been the best, but well... so is life.
If mods feel this thread breaks the rules please remove it. Thanks to LilAngel and Kristing for responding.
MerAlove23 11-07-2005, 11:03 PM Sheila I know your talking about your son and I truely feel its ok I just don't want anyone to think that we can discuss maybe our personal relationships if you were underage... :) but I think in the context that you are bringing it up is ok..
RobsGirl 11-09-2005, 09:18 AM Sheila, in cases like this, because 15 year olds REALLY have no clue what they want - you can just tell him while dating somebody 5 years older is out of the question while he's in high school, when he's 20 himself, it's something he's welcome to consider. I have a friend who did this and the kid ended up dating a nice girl his own age through high school.
bubbleee 11-09-2005, 07:57 PM Sheila,
I think it's a good sign that he's thinking in a mature way. It's also a terrific sign that he talks to you about what he's thinking.
I see no problem in him looking to date a grade or two higher than him in HS at some point. There were a few girls in my daughter's high school that dated younger guys and it wasn't a big deal.
Anyway, tell him not to focus on the number! And give him a big hug, because he's pretty special.
yellowrose 11-18-2005, 04:02 PM My son (the good kid you never hear about) was 12 years old, just a skinny little kid, when I saw him through the living room window, with his arm around a very busty 14 year old! He had a big smile on his face. It was priceless. :D
He has liked older women ever since... :)
LADave 11-18-2005, 11:59 PM I agree that he is very mature for his age, since he is an only child and is used to talking to adults about current issues, politics, and many other topics.
That was my situation as a teen, and I'm sure it's why I became interested in older women. :)
Zoo Baby 11-19-2005, 02:56 PM Ok, am I the only one who sees a problem here? He's 15, she's 20. If this were a 15 year old girl and a 20 year old guy, I'm sure there would be ppl bashing this thread. What's with the double standard??
Christina
sheila4pd 11-19-2005, 05:48 PM It has not happened yet. He was just thinking about it, so far he is still dating girls his age. So far what has happened is that some have broken his heart because they are not serious. Some approach him just for sex! He wants a steady relationship and they don't. (I can only imagine what LDave will say)
sheila4pd 11-19-2005, 06:13 PM Yes, he is a good kid and he will make a girl happy one day.
LADave 11-19-2005, 07:57 PM It has not happened yet. He was just thinking about it, so far he is still dating girls his age. So far what has happened is that some have broken his heart because they are not serious. Some approach him just for sex! He wants a steady relationship and they don't. (I can only imagine what LDave will say)
I'm a steady relationship kind of guy. Casual dating and one-night stands aren't my cup of tea. :)
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