Have You Met The Family?

Hello all, I am wondering how many of us have already met our SO's family? Also, what is the status of the family's relationship toward you? (ym/ow both)

I meet my yms family about 2 months after we started dating, everything went very good and its been 1 year 3 months later and all is still great. We are actually staying at his mom & dads right now cuz we just bought a house and the funding is taking a few days longer then planned. His mom watches my little one in the mornings and the evenings after he gets out of school and calls her grama, his parents are wonderful people and we are all just one big happy family :)

I already knew some of my ym's family before we got together, I just had no idea how majorly screwed up they were. . .think your typical dysfunctional celebrity family. It's sad really, all that talent and totally divergent personalities. Not to mention self-absorbed and incredibly arrogant. . .

I wasn't given the opportunity to choose more than one poll selection. It went great meeting his mom and oma and his mom's boyfriend and it went okay to meet his other grandparents and uncle and cousins, and aunt. He didn't come clean about my age or that I had kids and they had no idea and his grandparents do not really think he's making a wise choice now that they know. This, despite that they loved me for the first two visits *shakes her head*

Sorry it only allowed 10 poll options :p

I couldn't vote since my experience wasn't listed.

My YM's family know about me and I mean all about me. This includes all my divorce details and even my c-section scar and the fact that my tubes are tied. :o Given all this, I haven't met his family face to face yet, but they seem very nice and open to our relationship the times I have talked to them. Given the distance, his mother is worried we'll end up hurting each other, but my YM just said the other day how much his mother admires me for pulling myself by the bootstraps, going back to school and raising two small children on my own. That made me proud. :)

My parents also know all about my YM and they will meet him in May. They are open, although I don't think they take it very seriously.

We have both met each other's families and it went well.

You should make the poll able to choose more than one answer and I could have answered for how it went for him with my family, too.

Anyhoo, it was great both ways. (Well, not at first for my family, because my parents found out about him by accident and they were a bit put off that I hadn't told them about him.) But the first meeting was great!

And his family LOVES me and thinks that I'm the best thing for him. My kids already call his mom and dad "grandma and grandpa" as his daughter calls mine the same.

I said it went okay... they were nice to me, we got along okay and they were very pleasant, but I know that they still haven't fully accepted the situation. Last week my gf's mum was saying she couldn't understand what we have in common, and that she's worried because I don't have a career. I'm trying!!!!!!!! Her parents are staying with her and even today her mum got a little upset about it.

They have been nice to me though, I guess that's a good start?

I am older than both his parents and I was so surprised that it went well, considering I have everything against me... older, divorced, one kid, foreign, minority, you name it!
I met parents and grandparents on the mother's side and they love me.

On my side, my son knows and he likes my bf, and my mom knows and is not too happy, because of the age difference. She is recommending we tell my dad at the last possible minute.

Because of the distance between me and my SO, I haven't met his family in person. But I have spoken to his father on the phone and seen his brother and father on the webcam and chatted through IM and cell phone texts. So far I've hit it off great with his dad and his brother. Mum was a bit more difficult to get to know but she finally round to the idea of her son dating an older woman after our holiday together.

As for my family, now that he's visited me in the states and they've met him, mom and dad think he's really nice. They like him (thank goodness) and he seems to like them as well. Even has a few things in common with my dad. They both like to tinker on old cars. So my dad's classic automobile was a source of discussion for hours.

Met his family 2-1/2 years ago or so, everything was fine, we've stayed at his parents' frequently and very well taken care of - really good Thanksgiving dinner too! :D I'm 7 years younger than his mom, his dad is 11 years older than me (same age as my ex-husband, heh).

My mom is another story, she's old-fashioned and has a problem with just about ANY type of non-traditional relationship on the list and mine is in that category in several respects. We've tried to be nice, but she's still rude. My brothers and sisters have accepted us fine, but then, they weren't brought up in the Dark Ages. :p

Never got a chance to meet the parents. He was too ashamed of me and he was trying to hide me and my existance from his family and friends while we were together =/

Hey what about the YW/OM?!!! LOL...I like to pop in on this side everynow and then.

I'll say this...my OM met my mom and sister...and my sister likes him and my mom doesn't say anything about him.

His dad knows about me...but I think thats about it.

Nadine.

I probably could have organized the poll better. :( I wanted to give options to both the YM and the OW to vote though and only 10 options. I was thinking of doing multiple choice but then the percentages would be screwy.

Jeweladream ~ I am so sorry to hear that. :( I hope that your next relationship is more positive for you.

jesique ~ Good idea! Maybe you could make a poll on the "other side" for this too.

Jeweladream ~ I am so sorry to hear that. :( I hope that your next relationship is more positive for you.

Not sure if I'm going to let another one into my heart, but I thank you for the positive words

Jeweladream ~ I can understand your feelings. :( It took me 5 years before I finally allowed someone into my life again.<hr>But I think Rascal Flatts says it best,

Every long lost dream lead me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you<hr>There is love after loss! Keep your head up girl!

When I met my YM,I was with my mum so she knows him and I have met his brother.That's it.

I can't answer the poll. LOL.

I met my YMs family before we were dating and all was GREAT. Then when we decided to start dating (me coming out of a bad marriage) they FLIPPED OUT and didn't like it at all.

Same goes for Litical. My Mom flipped big time, but acted civilly towards him all the same.

BUT... that was nearly 2 years ago. All is well with everyone now. My Mom compliments and speaks highly of Litical. His Mom does the same with me. So, it's all good now. :D
~phos

I can't answer the poll. LOL.

I met my YMs family before we were dating and all was GREAT. Then when we decided to start dating (me coming out of a bad marriage) they FLIPPED OUT and didn't like it at all.

Same goes for Litical. My Mom flipped big time, but acted civilly towards him all the same.

BUT... that was nearly 2 years ago. All is well with everyone now. My Mom compliments and speaks highly of Litical. His Mom does the same with me. So, it's all good now. :D
~phos

I think stories like yours would be really helpful for those that are currently worried about the "familes" reaction. Sometimes you just have to wait things out a bit. Everything in life works out as it should in the end (though sometimes not as we would like :p)

Good to hear all is well for you!

jesique ~ Good idea! Maybe you could make a poll on the "other side" for this too.

No way! I'm totally a lazy bum and don't even know how to make a poll! :D :D
Thats why I come over to this side and post sometimes!

Oh...by the way! I reallly like your avatar and screen name...it's really refreshing! :D

Nadine.

Oh...by the way! I reallly like your avatar and screen name...it's really refreshing! :D

Nadine.

lol yeah but it kinda makes me thirsty. :( Nothing to drink at work except coffee and I have had enough of that!

6 months ago I would never have thought that I would have answered that it went great on a question like this.. but it did :D
When he told his parents about us his mom took it really nice, but his dad and sister did not... but when I was there this summer and we got married I felt very welcome. both by his closest family and his exstended family. His dad even welcomed me as a new member of the family before we went home.

I've had those stretches before and am prepared for them again. The older I get - the harder I fall and this is the last time that I fall. My heart can take anymore falls, it's already so broken from all the other falls its suffered in my life :(

Jeweladream ~ I can understand your feelings. :( It took me 5 years before I finally allowed someone into my life again.<hr>But I think Rascal Flatts says it best,

Every long lost dream lead me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you<hr>There is love after loss! Keep your head up girl!

My kids and I knew my boyfriend's family while we were still "just friends". I found out recently that his mom had actually predicted that we would get together. While it may not be what they had imagined for him, they are really great about it. We have lots of mutual friends of all ages and everyone, including my teenage kids, seems to be supporting us and actually happy for us.

I'm just going to close my eyes and hold on tight and enjoy whatever comes our way. I have lots of great things going on in my life and this relationship is just one more thing to smile about.

And boy do I smile... ;) All day long!

lol yeah but it kinda makes me thirsty. :( Nothing to drink at work except coffee and I have had enough of that!

Ahh, so you're posting on Ageless at the OFFICE! That's not earning your paycheck! Now gitcher a$$ back to work! :D :D

(I'm tempted to pop over while on the job, but I'm working at a law firm that's real uptight about what Web sites people go to. Nothing but AOL and CNN for me on the office 'puter.)

His family treated me awesome. His dad is only 4 years older than me and his mom is 2 years my senior. Scary for me but they were so happy about it they offered him the family business to take over because they thought "finally he is stable " my mom however took 6 months for her to even be civil. The rest of my family loved him right from the get-go..