what do you guys see in OW and what are

what do you guys see in OW and what are
some of the issues that you deal with?
I would love to delve into the minds of you
guys to better understand your side of it.
I know what issues we have. what are yours?
Is it worth it for you?
Thanks
Ruthann

i am not a guy but over the years i see the attraction, first for me i have changed where it is NOT all about me, with guys my own age i think i was prone to think they had to live up to some society standard that i dont hold true with my husband, because of his age i push him to follow his dreams and i encourage him to be his age. what he brings to the table is an incredible sweetness and kindness with his fresh approach to love and that i find irresistable.

funny though we are also very typical and man and woman role has evolved more and more, he is very protective over me and i tend to lean on that strength, he is very ambitious to be the major bread winner, which is enough for me, the fact that he WANTS to support and take care of me, warms my heart so very much.

for the first time in my life i want the best for my partner, i can honestly say i practice unselfish love, putting his interests before mine at times. when i was younger or if we had gotten together when we were both 25 i think we would still be together but i do bring alot more wisdom to the scenerio these days, alot less drama and much more tolerance and a deep desire to have fun, i have already had the hard years, now i want to enjoy.

Stability and the fact that she knows exactly who she is and isn't about to change.

The issues for me are that it can be a bit of a drag when you have your gf worrying about whether you'll leave her for a yw in the future. That can just get you down a bit. And when her friends and family judge you even if they've never met you, presuming that you'll do that as well. It's not nice for people to automatically presume you're that shallow.

She wasn't that much older, I was 22 and she was 29. Even that wasn't too serious. As far as attraction physically to an OW, I find myself extremely attracted to them just as much as a woman my age or younger.. Some older guys tell me that it'll change for me in 10 years and as much as I want the older women now, I'll be running after the younger ones. That's what they say I don't know. I can only comment on how I feel right now. The only major issue I could see for me is the children thing. If she could/ would want another child. I'm pretty sure I'd like to have at least a son at some point in my life.

My OW ...
... know what she wants and how she's getting it (to a high degree)
... does not play any games
... appreciate my affections more
... is sexually more open minded than any woman I've met before (and just blows my mind)
... is more relaxed about how a relationship should look like
... has nearly no insecurities (eg about her body)
... is just uncomplicated
... isn't "girlish" anymore
... just will spoil any other experience I will have with other woman :D

Ever since I was a young boy, I was always able to see things "far" into the future.

As a young man starting to date, I found all the woman my age were concerned first with their WEDDING as opposed to a MARRIAGE. After they married, their concerns were HOUSE and CARS, rather than what type of LIFESTYLE they should be leading.
And, when they became pregnant, they were concerned about the BABY, as opposed to how should I raise my son or daughter to become a creative, loving, contributing adult?

In short, younger women are too short-sighted; too "me centered", and almost totally lacking in any far-sighted vision of what they want out of life, as opposed to what they are going to buy with the next paycheck.

Most older women have faced and are resolving these far-sighted issues. Many OW, sadly, have had to divorce because their partners were the immature ones (guys can be just as immature as women, at any age.) But, the OW I meet can talk about far-reaching, serious issues affecting their future; they are taking steps to deal with those issues; and they are usually doing it alone. OW are so intensely grateful to find a YM who can discuss these issues. The discussions lead to friendship; friendship leads to feelings of care and cocnern, and if both parties start to meet each others needs on a consistent, regular basis, you have the start of love.

Once love begins, then the OW/YM can start having sex, in all its glorious forms.
And, I've found most OW really enjoy sex, and can really teach YM something about life and love--about which sex should revolve.

Sadly, for too many young women and men; life and love revolve around material possessions. Sex becomes the reward for providing the material goods. OW are usually far beyond that crap....