What does it mean being friends?

I care so much about this woman at church. She is seven years older me. I have been chasing her for 8 months. God has sent her to me, but I can't make her understand that. I asked her out to this thing that I overheard her say that she wanted to go to. She first said no because it wouldn't be right. She then came back and said yes as long as it was strictly friends. I agreed to go just as friends. This woman's aunt and her aunt's granddaughter also go to church with me. The granddaughter is five years old. One day she told me she said Ryan if you love Stacey you should marry her. I always heard out of the mouths of babes comes the truth. I have never really said anything around this little girl about Stacey. I believe she has deeper feelings for me than she lets on. What do I do?

You're right, you can't make someone understand something that you feel you do. If she feels the same way about you, it will happen. Put your faith in God, and if it was meant to be, it will be. Don't be pushy, just continue to be friends if that's what she wants, and let whatever happens, happen. ;)

I agree....the best way to start a relationship is to be friends first. So enjoy it!! There's no rush, just let it progress at its own pace. Let her know how you feel (which I think you've done), then leave it up to her, but meanwhile enjoy spending time together. If it's meant to be, it'll work out.

God has sent her to me, but I can't make her understand that. If God has sent her to you, you will just have to trust that 'God' will let her know that.

If you want to have a chance with her, just continue to take her out as friends for a couple of months, with no pushing for more. There is no reason why you can't do SOME romantic things for her occasionally (flowers etc.) but don't overwhelm her with it. Then have a talk with her and see if she has developed romantic feelings for you. Good luck! :)

starting at a " just friends " point is the start of many successful relationships, i know because i married my best friend, you need to calm down and ease up or you are going to scare her away, adam was persistant but very aware of my fears and feelings and let me grow into my love for him, i suggest you back up a bit.

Hi, Agreeing with everyone else. "Friendship" is the best foundation for a longterm relationship. Best Wishes

Now she has told me that she has a boyfriend. My boss says he thinks that is just her way of saying its just friends on our little excursion together. I wouldn't want my girlfriend going out with another guy. This place I am taking her is nothing I want to do. I did it because of her so if there is a boyfriend why isn't he taking her.

Now she has told me that she has a boyfriend. I am sorry to hear this. I know that must of hurt.

Can you put this behind you and move on? It sounds like that would best for now.

Now she has told me that she has a boyfriend. My boss says he thinks that is just her way of saying its just friends on our little excursion together. I wouldn't want my girlfriend going out with another guy. This place I am taking her is nothing I want to do. I did it because of her so if there is a boyfriend why isn't he taking her.

Did you ever think that she is in the process of leaving..things don't happen overnight..and is planning to leave by year end...(many people use year end as a dead line date...to end things...and the New Year as a beginning date to "start" things)...if she's breaking up with her boyfriend and you have seen action in this direction...why are you questioning this at all???? :confused:

All I saw him mention is that she has a boyfriend.

I didn't see him mention that she was in the process of leaving or that he had seen any inclination in that direction.

Am I missing something here? :confused:

Or maybe she really doesn't have a b/f and just told you that to unbalance you and keep you at arm's length. And if she's really doing that, then as much as she may like you, she's just not into you.

8 months is enough time for someone to know how they feel about someone else or about a possible relationship status. God's not going to help you, because basically He will not infringe on her free will. If her feelings are just base on friendship, another 8 months may or may not do anything for ya. You have to decide if you're going to pathetically continue to hang around her and wait until she chooses to acknowledge you or if dating someone else is a better answer for you. No one should waste their time on someone who's not going to at least make an effort to either reflect on her feelings and see where you stand or give the relationship a chance.

Yes, a relationship started as friendship goes alot further than one that starts in the bedroom but at 8 months, if she's no dummy, she should know what she wants, when she wants it, how she wants it and if its with you. I would tell her again how you feel, but that you're not willing to wait around any longer and give her a timetable in which she can get her act together and decide what she wants. Because lets face it, if you wait another 8 months and she decides she's not going to pursue a relationship with you, that's 16 months you've wasted and could've found a more agreeable and loving woman, who does know what she wants.

And don't put in too much stock by what the granddaughter says...she's 5, but she is a babe and they say the most amazing things because basically they see everything so plain and simple...this woman is alot more complicated than a 5 yr old. She's thinking too much of herself and not enough of you and your needs.

Paris